Why do neurotypicals share bad news, expecting us to calmly

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accept it? Why are they so pissed when we emotionally react? If they weren't prepared for us to react in that manner, they shouldn't have told us in the first place. Some of them are so callous to think it's craziness if one emotionally cries or vents in anger at the prospect of years of debt, death, loss of political freedom, a great depression, or the potential homelessness of a friend.

I get scolded for not reacting.

Sometimes the emotional impact is delayed. It may trigger weeks or even months to years later. Sometimes it's sadness, sometimes anger. When it comes to injustices though, this is where I get into trouble because while alot of people just shrug it off easily and move on, I can't easily but eventually I do analyze the situation and declare that it is a waste of energy.

It really depends on the magnitude of the event or occurance.

When I was a kid and my grandfather died, I didn't cry. Went to the funeral, while sitting in the chair didn't cry. When I walked up to see him in his casket I cried.

I'm not a robot devoid of true emotion so I react very strongly to things which concern me and my own well being but when it comes to others, I don't really care at all. It's not uncommon for me to gloat.

There have been situations where I have forced myself to cry. When I do that, I think of unrelated things that actually do make me sad. Fortunately I don't do this very often.

I never cry just because it's socially expected of me. I think it feels good to not join in with others like a bunch of weeping whales.

Sometimes it's just easier to fake it.

I've also "faked it" to myself sometimes. Back before I knew about AS, I was convinced that I really "needed" to sit down and cry, so I might as well sit down and "have it out" else there would be something wrong with me.

I think NTs want us to show more emotion in certain situations when needed but on the other hand not freakout over something small. I dont know if other aspies have this problem, not showing the appropriete emotions in certain situations such as showing too much of too little emotion in various situations.

It just seems so callous to me, as if they are invalidating my emotions.

I have experience of certain NT's being almost in awe of me when I've stayed unemotional in situations which would make others feel uneasy. I could usually make harsh, sarcastic jokes about something "really terrible" that just happened and everyone would be shocked but some, especially boys, would be a bit impressed and admire my straightforwardness and complete disrespect for rules and boundaries.
Of course I always knew what I did was inappropriate but I did it anyway because I always liked the attention.

Judging by the nature of some of your posts here at WP, that doesn't surprise me in the least.

How do you fake tears? I suppose you could bury your head in your hands and make fake sniffling noises. But you'd be discovered when you took your hands away and your eyes were completely dry. Perhaps a dab of teargas on the hands before placing them over your eyes?

How do you fake tears? Think of something sad or something that upsets you or something that makes you cry or think of your sad memory and how you felt at the time and it brings back your old feelings.

I've made myself cry by thinking up of sad things for my stories.

Pull out a few nosehairs until you sneeze, after that your eyes will be irritated and watery. If you keep doing it your face will be soaked. Ofc you would need access to a restroom or someplace in order to prepare the flood of tears.

This disscussion reminds me of some movie and a quote "The Death Of One Man Is A Tragedy, The Death Of 10000 Is A Statistic" In the movie all the heroic rescurers gets all misty eyed over "Bob" but no one seems to care in the slightest about the town they + "Bob" were suppose to be saving, that couldn't be evacuated! I cared more about the town.

I don't cry that easily. I can tear up when something seems really poignant to me for some reason, but that only happens in the moment.

When my wife hears about a disaster somewhere in the world, she reacts emotionally-I don't. This often leads to an arguement about me being insensitive, that I need to turn my sensitivity meter up a few notches. Well, I really don't care.

When the Twin Towers fell, I really didn't feel anything for those who died. For me, it was just another event that the media had fo focus on for a few days. Same for that tsunami back in 04, Katrina in 05, etc... I don't feel bad about people dying in disasters.

I did cry when our cat Maggie died. http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/catbreed/manx.htm

I suppose that the people who die in news broadcasts, because they're unknown to me, don't matter to me. Yes they matter to someone, but let those someones greive for their own and leave me out of it.

I'd consider that a coping mechanism. This way you don't become an emotional wreck, and can at least function in society.

Honestly, there are some things where I do become emotional. Most things however, don't get me going. I have a cavalier attitude toward life and its events.