Well, today I burned the bridge with my stepdad. He nagged me into signing up a joint account with him a couple months ago saying it was for my benefit, but I knew he'd do one of two things: steal from me or criticize my spending. So far he hasn't stolen from me, although I've managed to keep cash on hand that he can't see or instantly steal while pretending it's "his", like he did with $50,000 of survivor's benefits he required from me as "rent" while I was under 18 even. Still, I carefully kept my account as close to zero as possible so there wouldn't be much for my stepdad to take if he was going to. I gave him a test, asking him for $40 for food for the next four days until my paycheck and outlined my weekly budget ask he said to do before asking him for another loan. He decided to criticize my spending and told me he'd teach me a lesson by letting me starve. Having stocked up on food, his lesson is already failing. He got upset and threatened to excommunicate me and waive the money I owe him already, to which I told him "okay, waive the $400 debt I owe you while you continue to ignore the $50,000 debt you owe me and never call me again." And then I blocked him on Farcebook too, even though I plan on not using it again until my wife and I are reconciled. I am so sick of my stepdad being a control freak, and there is never any way to do right in his sight because he always has to find some way to flaunt himself as superior. Well, I'm glad to not have to deal with him anymore, presuming he keeps his word about leaving me alone. Now 3 out of 4 of his children have excommunicated him, my sister being the remaining not to have, but he always gives her a free pass at everything and supports her in everything, so she'll probably stay with my stepdad until he dies.
Anyway, Jackie, if you're still reading everything I say here like you were on Farcebook via nametests and meaww quizzes indicating, don't worry about me ever going back to my stepdad's home now. Previously, he would have had our birds go to a shelter where they would have been killed if they didn't sell fast enough, and that was bad enough to say no. Now, thank God, I've nuked the bridge between my stepdad and me and I'm glad. I love you though still lady Jacklyn my covenantal wife.
Oh, by the way, I win.