You may see some commonalities in the two examples you know, but...... depends. Look, I wouldn't even describe myself on the net for a long long time, we vary so much. I did not, did not!!, want to create some kind of "mold", stereotype guide to early detection of Bipolars so people could run the other direction. Bipolar has had a name for itself much longer then AS and to try and describe the prejideaces that come along with this, well it's another you have to live it. What you might be observing is just two and even then there may be meds involved. You may not have been around them all that long. You may not have seen the other side of the coin, the months and months of depression, if they even have that little trait. There is a wide number of types of this and I just can't stress enough, it is so much like AS and what you see here, it comes in all flavors.
I hate going out, I'm a freakin recluse. Get me in a store? Yeah with a shoehorn and anxiety meds and that depends on the weather and the number of people in the store. I'm a blurr in a store, I move fast. I wasn't always this way and I do meds and I have had coping skills that have failed me and some that still work, once in a while. What you describe is not me, not even close to me, but see, I already said I think I have a misDX, but here is the kicker, just like AS, BP has a whole slew of comorbids that like to come for the ride.
Bottom line generalizations are not a good thing and labels can be hurtful, especially when the label they give you had had a rich history of not being well understood, the craze of the day mental illness label, extreme examples being run through the press on a national scale. Now having said all this negative stuff, it too can have an upside for some, get on a good manic and put it into a good obsession and hang on to your hat, you are going for one hell of a ride and it feels so good you don't know what you're missing. Wish you were here, see ya later type thing, but all so very very rare in me, now that is the sad part. The rest is just me and I've learned over time to like me, faults and all. It had to be that or eat myself alive on a slow ride to suicide. You see that here as well. BP has a huge suicide rate and I suspect if they really had a clue about AS and especially among us olders, the rate would be on the high side as well. Add together the two in one person, I don't have a clue sometimes how I made it, I am a f*****g survivor.
Intensity and obliviousness? (sound like anything else you know?) Give em a minute, they just might change right in front of your eyes. Or they might not change for months or might not even change at all. You stated very clearly why I for so long would not even try to get some of my story out there. I still won't do it on most areas of the net. I'm not really a good poster boy for BP anyway, I have a feeling that the AS and the possible complex PTSD has had a big say in how I relate and act and feel.
Now excuse me, I feel the strange need to go drive (vehicles) and shop (spend). Good god you just described half the freakin people on the planet with that little generalization.
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Just enjoy what you do, as best you can, and let the dog out once in a while.