Anyone Feel Immature for Their Age?

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I live in an adult world, but as far as I can tell my husband happily reliving his childhood, whilst we bounce around doing all sorts of exciting things. He's learned to love the ride...

Am I immature? I dunno...I think I am educated and can talk the talk, but would definitely be happiest living at Disney World or travelling cross country flying by the seat of my pants

Simply some things in life that I cannot do because I have children. They think we are the coolest parents that ever walked the earth because of it though

And, yeah... I have an 11 year old and 2 year old and I still get carded. Occasionally I notice seniors turning their nose up at me in disgust thinking I am a teenaged mom with a big grown kid and whispering under their breath about my clothing.

I don't mind. It isn't that often that I take notice of others nonsense anyway

I agree most grown-ups are so boring! They just sit around and talk instead of doing something fun like roller blading. I am 47 and I still like to ice skate, roller blade, and I would even enjoy a pogo stick. Have you seen that special pogo stick on you tube? It bounces six feet high! It looks like great fun.

I'm 40, and I don't feel that age. Or what other people think of as 'that age'.

I think with me, being that I came across as a serious kid, I was expected to be very grown-up from an early age. Then when I was a teen and I started really wanting to express my creativity, that quickly got quashed because it was seen as 'immature'. And I spent much of my 20s trying to be 'adult' to fit in with a particular worldview. I also spent much of that time being very depressed, although I didn't even realize it at the time.

These days I'm much more focused on what really matters to me. Which is, the few people (and animals) I know I can trust and who understand me and whom I therefore choose to share my life with, my creativity, my spirituality, and my long-suppressed hatred of the superficiality of this world and the need to do something about it, if I can - and have fun in the process, because if the revolution ain't fun, you're doing it wrong. For most of my cohorts, their priorities are keeping their prestigious jobs, buying more Stuff, and making sure their kids get into a 'good' school. That, for them, is 'maturity' and it's how you get accepted as a 'responsible adult'.

It frightens me, sometimes, how people around the same age or a few years younger seem son much older than me. I go out of a weekend wearing, say, a thrift store skirt, a band T-shirt and Hello Kitty accessories; my niece of almost the same age (who has two children still of dribbling age, mind) is in twinsets. Jeez. My mother (who was in her 70s) used to wear those. It's like the 1950s mode of being has trickled down and come out totally undiluted in some people - maybe most people. I almost only feel understood and accepted these days in an 'alternative' kind of milieu; everyone else seems to have this really conventional streak that comes out if you scratch the surface only slightly.

I think we've been duped, people. Having fun, creativity, healthy rebellion, has been painted as immature, for kids and teens, when we desperately need it to persist into the upper age range where people actually have any power.

I think I developed atypically.
In some ways, I am very mature. Like the whole work thing.
But at time same time, I can be immature. I have not grown out of things I think alot of people grew out of. Alot of the stuff I liked as a kid, such as muppets and cartoons, I like as an adult.
While I am into some stuff that is rather adult and sexual, it is rather limited.
Also alot of adult concepts, like having nice furniture, marriage, kids, etc, seem absolutely perplexing to me.
Emotionally is another story. I can be very atypical, to the point that my partner has said that while I am extremely intelligent, in other ways I am rather childish and atypical. For example, I got really upset and ended up crying when somebody spilled a drink on me. In some ways I just never got past being a kid.

Like poopylungstuffing, and probably many people here, I never really had much of a childhood. My partner often treats me more as an adult child, than as an adult. In fact some of our relationship has been defined that way.

i feel 15 inside, even though i am 30... feeling like a teenager when emotionally everyone around you is an adult is hard. I wish i could find a way to let myself be immature...i really worry how others will view me if i let go.

I definitely feel immature for my age.

I feel immature too. I'm 30, still don't have my drivers license, no kids, not married. My apartment is like walking into Toys-R-Us meets Radio Shack.

As a child and teenager, I used to hear that I behaved very mature for my age -- probably because I grew up surrounded by mostly adults. However, I've never really felt like an adult. I always feel a bit out of sorts and uncomfortable in a way that I interpret as feeling immature -- like after 41 years I still haven't gotten the hang of being a grown-up.

>I can't make a budget and stick to it.
>I can't keep house well or consistently.
>I have trouble keeping up with the bills on my own -- I've got everything I can on automatic payments as a work-around.
>I start things and don't finish them, or put them off until I get into trouble over them, or just don't start things at all.
>I can't manage little things like making friends and doing the things that make other people happy and want to be around me.
>I enjoy things that I know others find immature or just plain weird, so I feel like I have to hide that part of myself constantly.

On the other hand, others around me often strike me as being remarkably immature. (That's when I'm being an irritable fuddy-duddy.)

Regards,

Patricia

I have like two sides to myself. I can be really mature, and albeit, a bit uptight sometimes, and other times I just love doing kid stuff. I love watching cartoons, the old Nickelodeon ones I used to watch as a kid. I love animals and want them all, and sometimes I can just be really immature about stuff. I don't notice it, but my mother yells at my immaturity.

I actually do want a husband and children. That's really all I want. I've wanted them ever since I can remember. I'm going to be a fun mom....not controlling, and....fun!! LOL I can't wait.....ugh why am I only 22 and have zero prospects!!

Thank you so much for the advice! I always welcome it. Especially when it comes to that subject I want so much to excel at.

Absolutely and unfortunately...

I can't put a mental/emotional age on myself.

In the past I have identified with older people, because of their advanced knowledge which wasn't as pervasive in my own age group, but family members have said I'm like a kid in an adult body.

In some ways I am far behind my peers. Their social skills and experience far surpass my own, they have spouses and children, and careers in which they know exactly what they are doing. I don't know how they do it. Maybe it's really not as rosy as they'd like to have me believe.

I don't have the same brain I had as a kid, and there are some things I know I wouldn't do now, but once in a while I'll do something impulsive or weird if no-one else is around. I'm a total flake at keeping commitments but I have a pretty good driving record and I take good care of my body and my stuff. I've had the same car since 1995.

32 and still a kid. In fact, last week a friend's son turned 11 (he's kinda my unofficial nephew). I went to his party and spent all day having a water fight, playing Rock Band, and wrestling around with the kids.

I still enjoy cartoons. My apartment looks like a GameStop exploded in it. I can barely save money. My cars have all been sub-$1000 junkers with the exception of one given to me by a friend who didn't need it any more. The idea of owning a house frightens me. The idea of marriage and a family doesn't even compute.