a wise person once gave me this advice...

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I'm not sure if this should go in the 'friends & social skills' category, or 'love and dating', so I'm sticking it here.

I was chatting with my new housemate a short while ago, and she gave me a lot of really good advice about life etc (she's several years older than me, and has a lot more experience). I'm really just posting it here so that I can come back and re-read it when I forget & feel down.

- you never see a bird fly backwards; they always fly forwards. Likewise, don't keep looking into the past, but try and keep flying forwards.

- life's a treadmill; people get on and off at different stops, some stay longer than others, but you'll always meet new people along the way.

- you're unlikely to meet your soulmate at 21 (that should sound depressing, but it actually makes me feel a bit better; I feel a lot of the pressure is off)

I'm sure there was more, but I can't remember it . It felt really nice chatting to her though; she seemed v wise and like she understod what it was like to be young and a bit lost.

If anyone else has any advice that helps you cope & be happy, please feel free to add it

Never play cards with a man named 'Doc'.

Never get into bed with anyone crazier than you.

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

Not true. A generation ago most women were married at 21.

There is no "soulmate". You could be happy with an accountant or a truck driver or a farmer or a soldier etc. Yes your life would be different but it could be happy.

You would like to marry a "really nice guy". Stand in line.

How many nice guys are still single by the age of 25 or 30 or 40?
Only the ones who made a bad marriage and have alimony payments.

I'm married, and I don't think of my husband as a soulmate, and frankly wouldn't want to marry a soulmate. I've only ever met one person I could think of as a soulmate. And his place in my life is as a role model, an example, not as someone I should have a romantic/sexual relationship with.

Do onto others as you do onto them.

The past is the past, a gift is a present, and the future is the future thats why they call it the future.

Absinthe makes the heart grow fonder.

Lene wrote:

If We Forget the Past, Are We Doomed to Repeat Our Mistakes

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- Friends Are Friends That Stay Come Rain Or Shine



So, so you think you can tell
Heaven from Hell,
Blue skys from pain.
Can you tell a green field
From a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?

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I liked the other quotes,but I'm not so sure about advice on never looking back and the
'moving on' mantra that's prevalent nowadays. It's all very well moving forward but I think
it's equally important to appreciate and understand what's behind us as well. Has anyone ever tried driving without looking in the rear-view mirror ? Besides,one of my special interests is history !

Another couple of quotes
If you're not pulling your weight - you're probably pushing your luck.

We all find our station in life - sooner or later someone tells us where to get off.

p.s. I see you're location matches my username,Lene.

Bitterness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to suffer the consequences..

"If you expect nothing you may be pleasantly surprised."

"God doesn't decide what is impossible, people decide what is impossible"

I had a very long "Get Over It" time in my life, to me it meant many things, being positive & assertive, giving it another try, not giving up, betrayals, divorce, etc.

I had it on my car and sometimes i'd be walking down the street and read it and get pissed and then realize it was put there by me, honestly i get so down i'd forget it was my car till i read it and realized! I guess that's irony perhaps.

Next in mind would be: "It's not what you think, it's what you know", it keeps things open like the surprises people keep creating around me.

On the same note is "The Mind is a child, why would you let a child run your life?"

The 'past' argument is like this for me, the Guilty say "Forget the past", the Forgiven say "Cherish the past", i say "It's data, use it wisely".

Cor'e =)

Thats great...

Take my advise, I'm not using it.

The best way to help yourself is to help others.

Good one! I'm gonna use that