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ToughDiamond
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04 Mar 2010, 6:38 am

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Posture is important to improve. If for no other reason that people judge harshly based on a person's posture.

Well, it it works for you, fine. In my case it's not worth the trouble, as my sensory issues are only bearable when I slouch. If it puts off a few judgemental as*holes, so much the better. I don't need them in my life.



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26 Mar 2010, 11:15 pm

Poor posture can come with poor self esteem.

CBT [cognitive behavioral therapy] can be used to help maintain perspective with regards depressive tendencies, socialisation problems, stress and probably loads of other things. Because aspies tend to be kind of obsessive and analytical we often use some cbt principles as learned coping mechanisms along with all the other stuff we have to just figure out for ourselves.

just some thoughts, peace j



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11 May 2010, 7:48 am

Any aspect of your behaviour can be controlled. The larger, more complex ones just happen to be more difficult.

I used to be incredibly rigid in terms of routine and which objects served which purpose. Over time, I've found that focusing (gently and gradually) on wanting to change these large-scale, general behaviours granted me the perspective to notice the "little things", the attitudes and feelings toward things that added up to these outwardly-visible behaviour patterns. Once you have this perspective, you can change the small things one at a time to shape your own behaviour. It's a slow process, but I'm living proof that it works!



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11 May 2010, 9:04 am

Poor posture may just be a part of not being able to distinguish ourself from the background, but it signals poor self-esteem to our neurotypical neighbours and that colours their perceptions of us. Yes, we deserve the respect, bot odds are we're not going to get it unless we look good. NTs are like that, and unforgiving.