I was married to a man 9 years my senior. Although we are now divorced, it is not the age which was the problem. If I were to marry again, I would definitely want to marry an older man again. I have strong opinions and I hang out with a much younger crowd (many of my friends are around 20 years younger than I am), but I feel that I need someone who is mature and stable and wise to be a stable influence to me, and to guide me to be my best.
PS: I feel a lot like the literary character Dorothea Booke in George Eliot's novel Middlemarch. She seems entirely like my type of aspie woman to me, and the closest to what I was like at her age. She married a man far older than herself, and it was a disaster, because he turned out to be a not-very-feeling aspie-like person, whereas her own emotions were completely the opposite. This was more a matter of his personality, though, not his age; and I understand why she chose him, not realising what he was really like. I could marry someone 20 years older than myself and be happy if he had the right character.
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When I must wait in a queue, I dance. Classified as an aspie with ADHD on 31 March 2009 at the age of 43.