time slips by....

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and i'm worse at getting stuff done. only 53 self diag aspi ..

sometimes its months till little tiny orders get attended to and mailed, at any every day potential window of getting stuff done I divert to something seemingly more important. more focused on what interests me, out in the wide open spaces, interests.

why am i so detached?? .. i'm trying hard to fight it tho its a perpetual huge looming disaster.

help please.

ps had numerous blood tests (tho no idea exact nature of) brain scan too .. no apparent alzheimers.

Make lists. Tick things off.

Resist the temptation to keep making new lists and losing the old ones.

Read a bit about cognitive training in between getting things done so you can tick them off on the list.

I did lists like that before. One thing I tried was tasks on very small yellow stickies, which could be repositioned. One thing that definitely works is set a time of day for a very short period to do these things. It might sound ridiculously too little but is a lot more than none! Time management can be a huge struggle and giving it some fixed slots and time periods releases that aspect of slipperiness.

hi. i seem to experience the progression of time somewhat differently than specifically my therapist. the other day she said i'd been seeing her for two years already(i see her once a month). to me it is a mere few sessions, but thinking about it made me realize that her life could've changed inbetween, while mine basically stys the same. i have one goal - stability...

I don't want to lessen your distress over this but I can't tell you how relieved I am to find someone else going through this too. I am 52. In the past year or so I just can't seem to find the time, energy, brain power, memory to attend to tasks. It isn't the lists. I've made lists my whole life. Even the thought of looking at my to-do list is exhausting and discouraging.

I've recently thought about doing what you mentioned - allocate a short time for attending to tasks instead of constantly being stressed out about what I'm not getting done. I teach private piano and have a lot of prep work to do. Knowing I am wayyy behind on tasks and having it hang over me all the time is stressful. So, I thought I might schedule an hour or two one day a week to do whatever I can get done in that time period, then let it go.

moisha,

Well there are 2 issues being mentioned here and they may or may not be connected.

1. nothing changing compared to NT's

2. the passing of time and a great misjudgment of your duration of therapy.

The last is a typical symptom of discalculia or dyscalculia.

its symptoms are very sneaky. Due to the name of it people assume it is a problem with math. Math uses many different parts of the brain, discalculia only effect 1 or a few parts of the brain.

Some one with discalculia can really excel at math, they may even discover new formulas. but they will make stupid mistakes like quickly doing a math problem and messing up basic adding and subtracting, they may even find they fumble with calculators alot. these symptomsusually are hidden as we grow because it is possible to learn to do basic math through other means, this i picked up as we grow.

but the passing of time, it seems uses the same part of the brain, attaching value to some thing, measuring distance, how tall is your house? how do you estimate the hight ? how accurate are you? its been said that this possible also covers facial recognition problems but youd have to confirm that.

If these symptoms look familiar, have a look in to it. Its one of the more friendly learning disabilities. wWatches, calculators and the phrase ill look over those numbers tonight pretty much solve half your issues if not more (minus possible facial recognition problems)

The older you get, the shorter 24 hours are.
I find that when I am unable to feel motivated it is because what I need to do is not interesting. What once was exciting and new is now a responsibility. But that also cheats you out of the pride of accomplishment.
Two things motivate me. Turning on my favorite music..i use the online music choices and dancing (alone) to a favorite or good one to dance to. I feel alert and happy, ready to tackle something that needs doing.
The other thing I do is keep peachee folders. The task that needs doing goes in the front pocket, the task you are working on goes in the middle, the task completed goes in the back pocket. You can keep a list of the supplies you run out of for a handy shopping list. I also keep a sheet of graph paper where I can make check marks on something done.
I use this system for paying bills, too. Its a ritual. I like seeing all my bills paid and my important things done. I dont use one for housework.

It sounds like you are your own boss. Be kind and forgiving. Give yourself mental health days and sick leave and breaks. Adjust your schedule the way you want, any time you want. Reward yourself for a job well done. Put a picture of yourself up and put up Employee of the Month certificates (you can find them online) when you get through a month...which feels like a week. Sometimes I fire myself but I always hire me back because I am the only applicant.
Keep your sense of humor.