11 Nov 2011, 4:40 pm
HopefulRomantic wrote:
Gadge,
First and foremost, I hope your doctors are able to pull a House and provide you with a diagnosis soon. Perhaps, most importantly, you have abundant tenacity as you have mentioned frequently in your forum posts. The bottom line is you possess the mental fortitude to hang in there without exception until they get you some relief.
As to your sister's ostracizing you - I think it speaks volumes about her, not you. Although I don't know her in real life, at minimum I think her not providing you with an explanation is impolite.
In this life, some people lack the ability to empathize - much to their detriment in my opinion. End of the day, all we can do is control our attitudes and actions.
My sincere hope is that this series of threads provides some comfort to you. Maybe in a way, we are like an Internet family of sorts. Two WP members have told me via PM that they are pleasantly astonished that there has not been any "pervasive nastiness" in any of these threads. I agree wholeheartedly.
On a more personal note, this whole exercise has utterly transformed my life. In a way, I am on the mental journey of a lifetime in which I have systematically ripped myself down to my innermost core because I am at a huge crossroads in my life. I want to position myself to make wise choices.
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
Hugs,
Leslie
First and foremost, I hope your doctors are able to pull a House and provide you with a diagnosis soon. Perhaps, most importantly, you have abundant tenacity as you have mentioned frequently in your forum posts. The bottom line is you possess the mental fortitude to hang in there without exception until they get you some relief.
As to your sister's ostracizing you - I think it speaks volumes about her, not you. Although I don't know her in real life, at minimum I think her not providing you with an explanation is impolite.
In this life, some people lack the ability to empathize - much to their detriment in my opinion. End of the day, all we can do is control our attitudes and actions.
My sincere hope is that this series of threads provides some comfort to you. Maybe in a way, we are like an Internet family of sorts. Two WP members have told me via PM that they are pleasantly astonished that there has not been any "pervasive nastiness" in any of these threads. I agree wholeheartedly.
On a more personal note, this whole exercise has utterly transformed my life. In a way, I am on the mental journey of a lifetime in which I have systematically ripped myself down to my innermost core because I am at a huge crossroads in my life. I want to position myself to make wise choices.
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
Hugs,
Leslie
>The Doctors .. Theyhave been wonderful at the Veterans Hospital ! I'm finding that my old health care provider system was a complete joke. They didn't do very much investigating, a minimulist approach and even when tests were done,..biopsy, and results came back inconclusive they just said "oh well" and did nothing further.
>Sister, she stole some valuable items from me and gave them to her boyfriend, ie tools and collectables. She said she lost them and when I was there fixing her house, ....flooded basement after her BF put holes in the floor and walls, which turned into geysers with the spring thaw. Her explaination....."I needed them" and has not returned them. I'm willing to forget the whole thing, Additionally her son is aspie, which is how I discovered that I am, and quite probably our father. Her son has much more dificulties than I do. Now that I know the how and why, I am much more fully functioning. In a nutshell, I fixed the glitchs
>"Maybe in a way, we are like an Internet family" You'll have to forgive my pov ....I can not think of you as a sister, It is too late for that and now would be considered just plain wrong on many levels.
read as much into that as possible. 
> attitudes and actions..pervasive nastiness and lacking the ability to empathize.....Life is too short for BS like that ! !! !
Quote:
On a more personal note, this whole exercise has utterly transformed my life. In a way, I am on the mental journey of a lifetime in which I have systematically ripped myself down to my innermost core because I am at a huge crossroads in my life. I want to position myself to make wise choices.
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
OK its your turn to answer some questions, If you don't mind?
How has this transformed your life ?
Why do you feel that your at a crossroad of your mental journey ?
Wise choices?
How and why did you find yourself here looking for answers and wisdom?
How have these posts helped your personal growth?
Additionally you are very welcome! and thank you as well ! !
11 Nov 2011, 5:17 pm
11 Nov 2011, 5:40 pm
11 Nov 2011, 5:58 pm
@ HopefulRomantic sorry to make you cry even in a good way.... 
not sure if you caught this, if you would care to elaborate,
if not thats fine. I'm just courious 
Gadge wrote
Quote:
OK its your turn to answer some questions, If you don't mind?
How has this transformed your life ?
Why do you feel that your at a crossroad of your mental journey ?
Wise choices?
How and why did you find yourself here looking for answers and wisdom?
How have these posts helped your personal growth?
How has this transformed your life ?
Why do you feel that your at a crossroad of your mental journey ?
Wise choices?
How and why did you find yourself here looking for answers and wisdom?
How have these posts helped your personal growth?
11 Nov 2011, 6:04 pm
gadge wrote:
@ HopefulRomantic sorry to make you cry even in a good way....
not sure if you caught this, if you would care to elaborate,
if not thats fine. I'm just courious
Gadge wrote
not sure if you caught this, if you would care to elaborate,
if not thats fine. I'm just courious
Gadge wrote
Quote:
OK its your turn to answer some questions, If you don't mind?
How has this transformed your life ?
Why do you feel that your at a crossroad of your mental journey ?
Wise choices?
How and why did you find yourself here looking for answers and wisdom?
How have these posts helped your personal growth?
How has this transformed your life ?
Why do you feel that your at a crossroad of your mental journey ?
Wise choices?
How and why did you find yourself here looking for answers and wisdom?
How have these posts helped your personal growth?
Gadge,
I am grateful you made me cry. It's a good thing!
In the spirit of candor and reciprocity, I will answer all your inquiries gladly.
At this point, please feel free to just call me Leslie because that is who I am! I will begin answering them in short order. It is now 6:05 PM EST 11/11/11.
11 Nov 2011, 8:31 pm
gadge wrote:
HopefulRomantic wrote:
Gadge,
First and foremost, I hope your doctors are able to pull a House and provide you with a diagnosis soon. Perhaps, most importantly, you have abundant tenacity as you have mentioned frequently in your forum posts. The bottom line is you possess the mental fortitude to hang in there without exception until they get you some relief.
As to your sister's ostracizing you - I think it speaks volumes about her, not you. Although I don't know her in real life, at minimum I think her not providing you with an explanation is impolite.
In this life, some people lack the ability to empathize - much to their detriment in my opinion. End of the day, all we can do is control our attitudes and actions.
My sincere hope is that this series of threads provides some comfort to you. Maybe in a way, we are like an Internet family of sorts. Two WP members have told me via PM that they are pleasantly astonished that there has not been any "pervasive nastiness" in any of these threads. I agree wholeheartedly.
On a more personal note, this whole exercise has utterly transformed my life. In a way, I am on the mental journey of a lifetime in which I have systematically ripped myself down to my innermost core because I am at a huge crossroads in my life. I want to position myself to make wise choices.
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
Hugs,
Leslie
First and foremost, I hope your doctors are able to pull a House and provide you with a diagnosis soon. Perhaps, most importantly, you have abundant tenacity as you have mentioned frequently in your forum posts. The bottom line is you possess the mental fortitude to hang in there without exception until they get you some relief.
As to your sister's ostracizing you - I think it speaks volumes about her, not you. Although I don't know her in real life, at minimum I think her not providing you with an explanation is impolite.
In this life, some people lack the ability to empathize - much to their detriment in my opinion. End of the day, all we can do is control our attitudes and actions.
My sincere hope is that this series of threads provides some comfort to you. Maybe in a way, we are like an Internet family of sorts. Two WP members have told me via PM that they are pleasantly astonished that there has not been any "pervasive nastiness" in any of these threads. I agree wholeheartedly.
On a more personal note, this whole exercise has utterly transformed my life. In a way, I am on the mental journey of a lifetime in which I have systematically ripped myself down to my innermost core because I am at a huge crossroads in my life. I want to position myself to make wise choices.
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
Hugs,
Leslie
>The Doctors .. Theyhave been wonderful at the Veterans Hospital ! I'm finding that my old health care provider system was a complete joke. They didn't do very much investigating, a minimulist approach and even when tests were done,..biopsy, and results came back inconclusive they just said "oh well" and did nothing further.
It sounds as if you are on the right path with your medical treatment. Your current doctors sound proactive - and I am very glad to hear it!
>Sister, she stole some valuable items from me and gave them to her boyfriend, ie tools and collectables. She said she lost them and when I was there fixing her house, ....flooded basement after her BF put holes in the floor and walls, which turned into geysers with the spring thaw. Her explaination....."I needed them" and has not returned them. I'm willing to forget the whole thing, Additionally her son is aspie, which is how I discovered that I am, and quite probably our father. Her son has much more dificulties than I do. Now that I know the how and why, I am much more fully functioning. In a nutshell, I fixed the glitchs
Perhaps, your sister will come around in time - especially in light of your willingness to forgive and forget. Hopefully, she wakes up and smells the coffee as life is far too short and precious to cling to her current decorum. Again, we can only control our behavior and attitudes!
>"Maybe in a way, we are like an Internet family" You'll have to forgive my pov ....I can not think of you as a sister, It is too late for that and now would be considered just plain wrong on many levels.
read as much into that as possible. Thank you, I am most flattered!> attitudes and actions..pervasive nastiness and lacking the ability to empathize.....Life is too short for BS like that ! !! !
Right on!
Quote:
On a more personal note, this whole exercise has utterly transformed my life. In a way, I am on the mental journey of a lifetime in which I have systematically ripped myself down to my innermost core because I am at a huge crossroads in my life. I want to position myself to make wise choices.
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
And it is not a coincidence that this NT (meaning me) came here looking for answers, empathy and wisdom. For what it's worth, your posts have been crucial in my personal growth! Thanks!
OK its your turn to answer some questions, If you don't mind?
How has this transformed your life ?
As with anything in life, timing is critical. Epiphany, the zenith of self-awareness and grasping of one’s own personal truth, is a natural progression, an evolutionary process of sorts. It can’t be coerced or engendered until the exact moment (if ever for that matter) one is ripe to succumb to it. This is something I wrote the other day in response to a post by Slipacre.
In simplest terms, I am ripe to delve into my own consciousness and engender some healing I have to complete so that I can move on with my life. Due to having stayed way too long in a abusive, dysfunctional marriage, when I left in July 2007 I was emotionally decimated. The best way I can describe it is this: I felt as though I had been crucified upside down with a stake impaled through my heart every day for 5 years.
I began this process of self-examination in 2008 and due to competing priorities (getting divorced, very demanding job, getting a home ready to sell in a horrible market - meanwhile having to do this with a highly mentally unstable ex spouse who co-owned it), I had to shift my focus elsewhere and delay my personal goal of self-healing.
In 2010, I accomplished two major goals: (1) finalized divorce in January and (2) house was on the market in April. In 2010, I also got my heart ripped out (again - YUCK) because I had to end a relationship with Harry (Aspie pharmacist in Asheville). We had fallen in love! We were planning a future together. Suffice it to say, he had an intrusive, Machiavellian family member who was seriously threatened by our relationship and resorted to all kinds of antics/drama and chicanery to protect their own self-interests.
For my own purposes, I don't stay in relationships in which outsiders (psycho family members, friends) impose their will (dump their toxic garbage on you) on your relationship unchecked. Relationships are difficult enough - who needs the added stress and tumult of someone who is a constant train wreck bombarding their insanity on your life every day? End of the day, I had to end the relationship or risk living in perpetual hell!
In August 2010, I came here looking for answers and I was amazed at the wisdom (addressing the entire gamut of the human condition including matters of love,dating, marriage, self-doubt, depression, relationships with family members, work/professional challenges, sex and making love, people's successes and failures, etc) imparted by certain posters (Hyperlexian being a prime example)! A lot of the posts on WP are beautiful because they are straight from the heart (and intuitively you know the posters are telling the unvarnished truth)! And in the last month or so, certain posts on here catalyzed/inspired me to resume and finish off my long overdue and much needed journey into intense introspection and self-examination!
Wise choices?
Now that I have sold my home, I am free to go anywhere I want literally. I want to choose wisely!
How and why did you find yourself here looking for answers and wisdom?
In August 2010, I came here looking for answers and I was amazed at the wisdom (addressing the entire gamut of the human condition including matters of love,dating, marriage, self-doubt, depression, relationships with family members, work/professional challenges, sex and making love, people's successes and failures, etc) imparted by certain posters (Hyperlexian being a prime example)! A lot of the posts on WP are beautiful because they are straight from the heart (and intuitively you know the posters are telling the unvarnished truth)! And in the last month or so, certain posts on here catalyzed/inspired me to resume and finish off my long overdue and much needed journey into intense introspection and self-examination!
How have these posts helped your personal growth?
As I have mentioned, many posts in here make me think about serious matters of the heart and in turn I am finding the answers I seek. In a way, these series of threads have become a journal in which I am documenting a critical phase of my life. [b]Believe it or not, you are watching me melt!
Additionally you are very welcome! and thank you as well ! !
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