Does having aspergers make u immature?

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I started to be interested in girls around 11, though that may be due to an early introduction to porn as well as my first friend having been female. I never understood the whole cooties thing. As I am now it feels as if I've lagged behind, perhaps since I've spent five years unemployed and doing nothing with my life with no responsibility or independence. Originally I felt being a democrat and liberal was the one true way, but things like feminism and censorship and etc. made me realise black and white thinking is really mature at all, especially with a smug attitude about it. Hard to say what is inherent maturation and what is molded by outside influence, or whether a distinction matters.

My mother once told me that when she was a kid riding a bicycle was something adults didn't do unless they wanted to get laughed at. That's one thing that's changed. Of course, most people learn to ride bikes when they are children and for adults who never learned (like myself), it's embarrassing. I seem to have a case of immature maturity, where even as a teen I liked being around elder people and yet was still playing with dolls and watching cartoons on TV.

I suspect I am (and always have been) a bit emotionally immature. Before I was diagnosed, I had always presumed that that was one of the reasons I did not relate well with my peer group. I have no idea regarding cause/effect.

I've always felt really immature for my age and have always moved on to younger friends to fit in. I now seem to have hit a roadblock now I'm 47 and starting to realise how old I really am. I still feel like I'm really young inside but find it hard to mix with younger people now that I'm so obviously older and very self aware of the fact.

andyfzr - that is exactly my problem too.

Depends on your sort of personality that affects the condition.

There are times when I'm on the maturity levels of a 5 or 16 year old, then there are other times when I behave like I'm twice my age.

Perhaps it also depends on where exactly on the scale of "immaturity" you're stuck.

Being stuck with the mentality of a 12 year old is different than the mentality of an 18 year old (which I suppose is already mature in a legal sense, but practically.. not so much).

I seem to be stuck around that 17 to 20 year old age for over a decade now. I don't hate it actually, but I hate the responsibilities that come with a certain age. Responsibilities should be given age appropriately when you mentally are up for it, not when you're physically that age. But I suppose that way a lot of people would weasel themselves out of it, lol.

It's interesting though in that people usually don't guess my age and think Im younger over the way I act and dress. Clearly age is thing physically, and perhaps I might show signs I'm in my late 20's at least. But then again, if I look at the parties and raves I often attend, I feel that, physically at least, I'm the oldest person around.

My personal upside to it is that I actually managed to date 18 to 20 year olds while I was hitting 30 already. That lasted until they matured and realized the entire thing about responsibilities.. by then I was to immature. But it was fun while it lasted