Disappointing responses when just trying to be friendly

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I am experiencing the exact same thing, I think I was born with a bulls eye on my forehead. I try to be friendly with everyone but just end up the punch line to a lifelong joke I don't understand. I was bullied out of my last job the job before that and so on. I have wondered why NTs seem so hostile towards me and understand a lot of advanced psychological reasons for this I have studied gestalt theory, transactional analysis etc. It makes me sad to think that the majority of people in the world are innately cruel but that unfortunately is true. as aspies we try incredibly hard to understand other people in the face of great stress and confusion but it is a genuine attempt to understand another individual. truly who has the supposed lack of empathy, someone who struggles politely to communicate in trying circumstance or an NT who dismisses the attempt with contempt?

all I could figure out in this life, is that some people are born crap magnets while a luckier few are born gold magnets.

I just stopped trying and I completely ignore other people as much as I can. In fact, I've probably disappointed quite a few myself

I am acutely sensitive to when people are trying to be nice to me, most of the time, when I am not being addled by some environmental thing beyond my normal addlements. I try my level best to return kindness for kindness.

I keep people at arm's length unless I get to know them and they are friendly and non-threatening. It hurts too much to get abandoned all the time for some social faux pas and you don't even know what it is.

^^^
tell it.

Oh yes. I have on many occasions been taken by surprise when attempting to start a conversation. I have had people look at me like I had 3 heads, this really made me angry and only supported my idea about people.

"The best way to trust people is NOT to". That is my motto.