How do you let go?

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I am just learning to let my aunt and uncle go even though I feel so bitter and resentful towards them right now. That is because I feel like they hate me for being Autistic which probably isn't true. I do know that they don't seem to want me around and it has broken my heart. The other reason why I am mad at them is because I used to live three miles away and they acted like I did not exist.

The Dunning-Kruger syndrome explains why progress is often impossible, and should not be pursued. A lot of people are not only incompetent, they are absolutely too stupid to ever realize they can't do any good. Trying to work with them is futile, except possibly by tricking them, but aspies are not usually successful at maintaining a fiction.

Heinrich Heine said, " I have the most peaceable disposition. My wishes are: a modest cottage with a thatched roof, but a good bed, good food, milk and butter, flowers in front of the window, a few beautiful trees in front of the door; and if the good lord wants to make me completely happy, he will grant me the pleasure of seeing six or seven of my enemies hung from these trees. My heart will be moved, and before they die I will forgive them all the wrongs they did me in their lifetime. Yes, one must forgive ones enemies, but not before they are hanged."

It is easier to let go if you don't have to go back. Unfortunately, I have teeth, and they need fixing from time to time. There is an absolute monopoly on dental work here, and the butterfingered bastards are out to make more work, not less. I just found out that the idiots I went to years ago were not just ignoring my email, they ignore all their incoming email, but have not the wit or courtesy to put up an autoreply. Then they have the nerve to blow my money on a fancy facade as if they were actually professional types. I'm posting this in hopes of moving on to thinking of something else, or at least some sleep. I think I was threatened with abandonment if I ever had a second meltdown as a kid, and they are coming through now.

ahhhh yes this one took time………….letting go of the past……………i found this quote useful, but you have to apply it as well as remember it…..AS people will regurgitate definitions without actually applying them………..but try this….


" Im not responsible for what you/he/she/they do to me, I am, however responsible for how i respond to it"


I found it a helpful mantra, but only if you apply it.

I understood that I had nothing to do with situations happening to me in the past. I accepted I could be victim and there is nothing I can do to change this. But it is my responsibility to move on and do not use this as an excuse to do nothing.