The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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Sorry I had to step away everyone! Someone knocked on my door! Kinda freaked me out , as I live fairly deep in the woods. Turned out to be a tree that fell over in the wind.

I hope you and your child will find each other Merle, if that is your wish.

HartzofSpace: I have never in my lifetime done this myself, but I knew a neurologist who swore to me that the following aspirin regimen will cure any headache (if there is no danger of internal bleeding or brain hemorrhage) (if you ever do this, I'd only do it infrequently):

at the first inkling of a headache - take 3 aspirin.
half hour later, unless the headache is abating - take 2 more.
one hour later, unless the headache is much better - take one more.

He swore that nearly every headache will go away on this schedule.

I know a massage technique that nearly always works, but can't help you there from here in that manner, therefore, have written the above. Hope it helps.

Oh no. It wasn't the American accent, per se. It was just hearing Hugh Laurie put on an American accent in "House". I know his voice, so it grated - mainly because I assumed it would not be convincing to an American ear. I gather I was wrong. American audiences didn't realise he was English.

On one of the two occasions I've been in the states, we stopped off at a roadside cafe/diner (whatever they are called) about 50 miles south of New York. The waitress picked up on our "accents", and asked if we were New Yorkers?

Ditto here. I'm sure Trevor would have had almost as much trouble himself. I don't have an accent ( ), as I'm a Londoner who speaks pure English with "Received Pronunciation". I went to a public school (Alleyn's, not Eton), which means exactly the reverse of what you'd expect. Living down in Cornwall for a dozen years, I eventually got to decipher some things that the Cornishmen said, when speaking in English, as opposed to Cornish itself, which is another language entirely.

There was a little panel quiz program on here last year, called Never Mind the Full Stops. In that, each week, each team was shown a clip where they had to... (get this)... guess... what was being talked about, and where the talkers came from (in England). They rarely had the slightest idea of the "what", though they occasionally got the "where". Then, IIRC, they'd show the clip with subtitles.

...also true of the larger world; a sad trend, I think.

Ahhh, the tragicomedy of AS dating...

For me, the power of hormones has been unquenchable; inexorable. It's far stronger than we are; that's why we're here. My first wife (a few years older) seduced me (ok, I was more than willing) & got pregnant before I was out of Catholic HS (it's against their rules, I found out! )
Her father gave me the choice: marry or never see her or the child. I "did what was right" and instead of college and some science career, went nowhere. He was a beautiful child, though, and we were on the farm, for a few years. Then divorce and alternate wkend visitations, which tore me apart when he cried as I'd take him back to her (and who she was living with.) Last I heard, he's working on a post-grad philosophy degree and maxing out test scores.

Many years later, painfully inept at approaching women & dating, an (again slightly older) social worker and I collided. [I realized later that both women had deep fears of infertility, which I was able to assuage. Hey, I like to help out where I can. ] Twins ensued - boy and girl, wonderful people, both just turned 18, both with social problems, etc. She's on to college, he'll have to repeat senior year.

Both wives left, the second after ten years, so overcoming dating and sex issues isn't the whole picture. Reading Mozart and the Whale opened my eyes a bit more to how hard marriage can be. I'd love to see the complete AS marriage manual...

One thing that helped me relate to women early on was to see things from their side - reading Cosmo, the Mars/Venus thing, better books like Intimate Strangers, Nancy Friday, feminists (I love Camille Paglia!) and - the Hite Report. Back before there were sex books all over the place, that was a revelation to me. Credible real-life evidence that -omg- women want sex too?? I'd certainly never gotten any inkling of this from my mother or sister... Or classmates. Despite intense interest in the subject, I've had my own inexplicable blindness.

[Not to mention deafness to a forum's tone; I can't seem to just post a response, I'm trying to tell my life stories. Sorry.]

well, I did. As good as 'House' is, I couldn't watch it for the same reason, Lau. Bertie Wooster talking like a Mid Atlantic AMERICAN?? I just did not compute.
But I love Laurie and had to see his mobile face jawing away. I recognize so few faces so I steeled myself and watched, and then took him to my bosom once again. What a feisty character he has developed for himself! 'House' is pretty good, I keep up with the story line and look forward to the new ones, knowing he and his boss obviously love each other very much. (and where else could we see them casually 'making a baby' with him giving her the invitro injections?? that was FABULOUS!)

Merle

I see. Yeah, when I hear an American actor feigning a British accent badly, I wince.

My sister wants to go to England and take me with her. She's traced our family to Lancashire. My thinking is: two Americans, one autistic, the other Asperger's/ADD, who drive on the wrong side of the road and can't understand a word they hear - yeah, sounds great!

Specifically for ZanneMarie, You might be impressed by (envious of?) a picture of my destop that I stuck here - mainly because you might like the "SkyDome" I use behind the desktop cube. (Although not much is showing.)

I shall get out my Haitian VooDoo doll post haste and stick it in the head. What is your neighbor's name?

I am envious! Pea green with envy in fact! I have the spinning universe on mine. I wish it would actually spin. I need the 3D model.

Do you have a sky on your ceiling?

Hey Tomart! (I loved Calvin and Hobbes).

I was just playin' around * earlier. Glad you've got some kids! Sorry about the divorces. But were all in this learning who we are together. Welcome!

*(what I said about my brother and I was true, unfortunately ).

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Oh Merle that is horrible, all of it. I am so sorry you went through all of that. Losing those babies at that late stage is bad enough, but having your baby taken away? Awful. If those idiots at FAAAS have their way, it will keep happening.

Chuck, to see my marriage story you'll just have to take yourself to the marriage thread! We are functional in our dysfunction.

Ok, let me ask a stupid(?) question. I haven't gone in to certain areas of the website because I wanted to give everyone their privacy. Is it ok as an unmarried person to go there? Would women mind if I as a male went into their forum? (Did not want to offend or intrude.)

Sure. It's not just a woman's thread. It should be the thread right below this one. Married Aspie Cafe or something.

I think we all just tangled up.

Ha ha! Ok, I'll go have a look at the way you've made you marriage work Not that I'm looking for clues. I think its best for everyone if I just stay single myself. I'm just nosy

ok, I'll bite . . .what is FAAAS?

It was the County of San Diego that decided to adopt my child out, and that was bad enough, but what is FAAAS? A 'curbie' group?


Merle