Well if it's Stickey'd i guess we should talk about something central to why peace-time male forums, groups, circles fail to last...
I'll say this, it's my opinion, but i've thought it through. Males in western cultures do not often stay in forums/groups as long as females do. And i will say why, i will say what i believe supports this.
Males, in Western Societies, are given or bequeathed most powers at birth by everyone, this includes the Mother, Father, Doctor, Nurse(s), Taxi driver, TV, Radio, Media, practically everyone. They are not however, given or bequeathed any wisdom about how to use this power, some seek this wisdom through male role models, or through trial & error. Very few seem aware of this phenomenon, i'm going to spell it out here so some more people are more aware of this.
Why do males avoid forums, groups, circles, etc? Well, because they have everything they need to wield their powers granted at birth, or at least the trial & error approach is open to them. A few meet in forum, group or circles to engage in or seek empowerment.
Why do females differ? Well, because at birth they are not granted much power at all, excluding the secrets of being female that is. So generally in Western Societies females group, circle, and meet to discuss topics that empower them, this empowerment is the dual collection of power and the wisdom to use that power, which seems sensible to me btw. People do not wish to be powerless, who would want that in a modern nuclear society? (please think this through as if you had little or no given power and you'll see what's going on).
Recently, there has been much to increase female power and empowerment, two camps really, female rights (a Woman is just a social role that any person or animated thing can play at btw, one is born male or female but often given or chooses many roles throughout a life cycle in society).
In the 1st camp: If a female wants to increase her Power(s) she must do something to give those powers to herself despite the orientation of her society and then do what anyone can do to use that power, just like a male can. This is much easier for a male to do, and if you're a male just think like this to see how hard it is in reverse - what would you have to fight or how hard would you have to fight to get acceptance into a powerful female group?
So in the 2nd camp: If a female wants to increase her Empowerment she'll find many female and some mixed or even powerful male groups willing to accept and grant her the powers they have along with the wisdom they teach to use those powers. This is, btw, preferred by intelligent female personalities; and the 1st camp is preferred by the more aggressive, or militant, or competitive female personality types.
So, Male get togethers are over fairly quickly because the power is present to at least take a trial & error approach to the problem(s) at hand and permission is usually granted immediately to try and see what results will come about, whereas females are more concerned with the careful acquisition of power during these meetings and will usually carefully formalize their feelings, thoughts, and rights to use power, as well as, wisdom on the use of power, this takes time to form empowerment.
On a last note is that, the predominantly male roles are often full of mental energy; whereas, the predominantly female roles are often full of emotional energy. This of course is where we get the stereotypical "stupid" male verses the stereotypical "crazy" female monikers during power struggles.
Anyhow, i'm open to discussion on this, thanks for reading all that, however, for all i know most males will not actually read so much about something that they feel does not concerns them. We may actually have more female replies to this! ;)
Cor'e =)
17 Jun 2009, 4:50 am
