Miscarriage

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So sorry.

Not sure about your previous methods of contraception, but it's quite common for people who come off the pill to miscarry their first. I'm not sure why but I've see it happen a lot. It happened to my sister with each of her three pregnancies.

Next time will be ok.

Keep positive and think carefully about whether you need to talk to someone. Sometimes it helps to see a counsellor who specialises in pregnancy. Husbands are often not very good at relating.

Did she at least have one successful pregnancy and have a baby?

My sister had three.

It went,
1. Miscarriage
2. Baby
3. Miscarriage
4. Baby
5. Miscarriage
6. Baby

Each time she went back on contraception her body always lost the first baby when she came off it.

I've got a good friend who had the same pattern (although in both cases, her miscarriage went for a longer term - so it was very difficult for her to deal with).
She's got two boys now.


You will be ok.

My sympathies, SG.

My wife had a miscarriage. I felt nothing. I was focused on the practicalities of the situation: cleaning up, taking care of her and our daughter. She didn't show much emotion, either, even though she's NT.

Spokane,

I'm sorry to hear that happened. Whatever you are feeling, whether you cry or not, is all perfectly normal and okay. It sounds like what you lost was not a baby (since there wasn't one), but the hope of a baby. That doesn't necessarily make it any easier, though. If you're sad, your sad. If you're not, your not. Both are normal and acceptable.


My first pregnancy only lasted about 11 weeks We knew that it's very, very common for pregnancies to end very early. People just don't talk about it much, but a whole lot of pregnancies just don't make it past the first few weeks, and it's not necessarily because of a health problem or anything like that. It's just certain things need to happen, and if it all doesn't go perfectly smoothly, it aborts. I wasn't all that sad, but kind of disappointed, not to mention crampy and physically miserable. My husband cried, though, and took the loss pretty hard. I think he had really begun to latch on to the idea of being a dad, and it was hard when that was taken away.


My second pregnancy--well, the result of that is finishing up his fractions homework right now, and had an omelet for dinner. He likes Legos and Peppermint Patties. He's also AS and really sweet.

Well the last three days have been hard. I was fine for two days until Friday night and then the next day I go into work and there is a pregnant worker there and it made me sad she got to keep hers and I couldn't. It's heart breaking to see preggers and the fact my old high school mates on my facebook have kids and they are 23. I can't stop crying off and on and feeling depressed.

Let it all out. You've got good reason to.

At 24, you've got at least 9 years before anyone starts worrying (women usually have more intensive (fluid) tests when they become pregnant at 35).

When you're ready, try again.

If possible, try not to use contraceptives in the meantime. Your body will need to readjust to its natural state.

Would using condoms be okay? I won't be taking anything and my husband is looking forward to more sex. I was also told at Yahoo Answers I can't get pregnant if my hormone level is too high.

So sorry, Spokane Girl - big hug!

I agree with gbollard - let it all out, how you're feeling, talk to a counsellor maybe or write it down in a personal journal, whatever you feel like doing. I didn't do that when it happened to me and it affected me for much longer because I blocked it off and pretended it wasn't important to me.

When you miscarry it seems like every woman you see it the street is pregnant. Once you start recovering from it, you don't notice them so much.

I'm not sure about the hormone levels acting as contraception - personally, I wouldn't like to rely on that, probably, but still wouldn't assume it's 100% reliable. Your husband is looking forward to more sex - how do you feel though? I felt very 'protective' towards my body when it happened to me and didn't want sex or even cuddles - it took a while to get back to normal.

Give yourself time before you make any major decisions about adopting etc.

Just to say I think my husband has it as well as me, and as I have said elsewhere, I am expecting my second baby.
And if my first is even an aspie she must be pretty mild. She's perfect in every way, and I had no trouble carrying her.
I know that there is a genetic link, so you could produce an aspie, but I have never heard of problems carrying a baby or severe issues with the baby. O.O I am carrying my second seemingly easily too and no hassles.
Are you sure about that 2 aspies = bad? Cause it doesn't seem to make sense at all.

I did have my very first PG an early loss... but I think that was normal statistics rather than 2 aspies together.