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Kraichgauer
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17 May 2010, 10:47 pm

DoeRoo wrote:
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You said he took one of those online tests to determine if he's an Aspie, but the results made him out to be an NT. The only real way you and he will ever find out the truth if he has Asperger's is if he meets with a psychologist, who can properly diagnose him.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer


Thanks much for that advice. Would you say it's worthwhile? I could see a benefit in him hearing that he shares a perception of the world with others and that he's not as isolated as he might think. But do other Aspie's find diagnosis useful at all? I wonder.


I'd say it's worthwhile getting an official diagnosis from a professional.
In regard to seeking the opinion of other Aspies - well, their insight might be useful, but again, you'd want the verdict of a trained psychologist.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer



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02 Jun 2010, 1:28 pm

Wow! Amazing! I really hope things work out for you and your boyfriend. I have recently been diagnosed with Asperger's. I have been in a relationship for 13 years now with an NT. And, for us, the diagnosis has helped.

As for getting therapy for your boyfriend that is a personal judgment and to each their own as well as getting the diagnosis. But, it is helping us as now we have a new way of living and exploring and understanding so that we are both happy. It definitely isn't easy but what relationships aren't easy when we measure them up to storybook fantasy romances. :D

You have a healthy attitude. All you can both do is try. That's what I'm doing and that's what my boyfriend is doing too. That's really all we can ask of each other.

I really do hope it works out for you two. Thanks for sharing DoeRoo.