Talkative Aspies, What Do You Talk About?

Page 2 of 2 [ 28 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,511
Location: the island of defective toy santas

29 Feb 2012, 7:38 am

i'll talk to anybody [who's not a rightie, as they generally will not abide me] about anything except for sports, politics, religion and new music.

MissConstrue
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2008
Gender: Female
Posts: 17,052
Location: MO

29 Feb 2012, 8:08 am

UnderTheSea wrote:

I detest social 'chit chat.' I don't like it because I do not understand it and I can't effectively deploy it. It seems that social 'chit chat' requires a fairly high level of social awareness since it doesn't contain any meaningful content; and so, when I try to use it or respond to it, I typically appear very awkward. Hence, if possible, I avoid it. Since most conversations are based upon social 'chit chat', I don't talk much at all. When I was younger, at face value, I likely met the criteria for selective mutism.

On the other hand, when there is an opportunity for meaningful conversation, I tend to saturate the conversation with too much content. Unfortunately, I don't realize it until well after everyone else has departed the conversation. I find this aspect exceedingly difficult, if not impossible, to control. And so, I'm often stuck between no contribution or excessive contribution.

This basically.

_________________
I live as I choose or I will not live at all.
~Delores O’Riordan

Bun
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 8 Jan 2012
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,356

29 Feb 2012, 8:11 am

I just say things, even if they're not important - for instance, I pointed I'm looking at the ceiling because someone asked me what I'm thinking about. Or I note how I haven't had an exciting week when asked how I am. I don't need a topic in order to keep talking.

_________________
Double X and proud of it / male pronouns : he, him, his

hartzofspace
Supporting Member

Joined: 14 Apr 2005
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,138
Location: On the Road Less Traveled

29 Feb 2012, 10:23 am

PiriReis wrote:

Interestingly, since my diagnosis, I have been talking much less and have been much more self conscious of my words. Has this self perception made anyone else pause?

Yes, I am less likely to monologue non-stop like I used to. Yesterday while riding the bus, I witnessed a lively dialogue going on with one of the passengers and the bus driver. I found that while I wanted to chime in, I held back because it would have been too difficult judging when I could speak and for how long. I hadn't that awareness before!

_________________
Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.
-- Dr. Dale Turner

MrXxx
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 May 2010
Age: 64
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,760
Location: New England

29 Feb 2012, 5:13 pm

auntblabby wrote:

i'll talk to anybody [who's not a rightie, as they generally will not abide me] about anything except for sports, politics, religion and new music.

This pretty much, with the exception of the "rightie" stuff because I tend to just avoid political talk altogether with rightie's or lefties. And "new music." I'll talk about anything related to music until I'm dead if you let me.

_________________
I'm not likely to be around much longer. As before when I first signed up here years ago, I'm finding that after a long hiatus, and after only a few days back on here, I'm spending way too much time here again already. So I'm requesting my account be locked, banned or whatever. It's just time. Until then, well, I dunno...

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,511
Location: the island of defective toy santas

29 Feb 2012, 10:57 pm

MrXxx wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

i'll talk to anybody [who's not a rightie, as they generally will not abide me] about anything except for sports, politics, religion and new music.

i have found that righties know what i am about even if i keep my mouth closed, just by how i look and how i live. and i will talk about OLD music until your ears fall off or you have fled for the hills.

completereject
Tufted Titmouse

Joined: 25 Feb 2012
Age: 41
Gender: Female
Posts: 25

01 Mar 2012, 2:05 pm

hartzofspace wrote:

I start off shy, but if anyone shows interest, I will monologue them to death. :oops:

On any subject that happens to come up and then some.

Totally know where you are coming from on the monologue things...I even start monologues on how I am aware I may be annoying them and that I will fail to provide said person with how to prevent me from doing this further lol.

I generally get by but as I am recently self diagnosed I am paying more attention to see where things fit so to speak

Heidi80
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Dec 2011
Age: 44
Gender: Female
Posts: 581

02 Mar 2012, 5:51 am

I'm shy around NTs, but talk much around other aspies. I talk about anything and everything we are discussing then

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,511
Location: the island of defective toy santas

02 Mar 2012, 5:03 pm

i know that at my olympia aspie meetup tomorrow, i'll not say much but i will be secure in the knowledge that whatever i say, i will be accepted as a fellow aspie therein.

MrXxx
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 May 2010
Age: 64
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,760
Location: New England

02 Mar 2012, 7:37 pm

auntblabby wrote:

MrXxx wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

i'll talk to anybody [who's not a rightie, as they generally will not abide me] about anything except for sports, politics, religion and new music.

I have a different problem. Righties tend to think I'm a rightie. Lefties think so too. Until either extreme actually starts talking politics with me. Then they both think I'm the opposite. It's annoying, so I just don't talk about it with anyone but very close friends. They're the only ones who get it.

Come to my house. My ears will not fall off, and I won't flee for the hills. I may, at some point, suddenly realize my wife and kids have all left me though.

BTW: What do you consider old?

*Leans back waiting for WP servers to crash when auntyblabby tries to post his reply*

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,511
Location: the island of defective toy santas

02 Mar 2012, 9:38 pm

MrXxx wrote:

maybe you're a centrist, then?

MrXxx wrote:

Come to my house. My ears will not fall off, and I won't flee for the hills. I may, at some point, suddenly realize my wife and kids have all left me though. BTW: What do you consider old? *Leans back waiting for WP servers to crash when auntyblabby tries to post his reply*

mindful of collateral computer damage, i will be brief- the music that dr. demento started out with back in the 70s, was mostly OLD- spike jones, homer & jethro, mostly 78 rpm recordings, the majority of which were novelties because that was what sold the most during the depression. i am on a "answer song" kick right now, looking for answer songs or parodies to [the song] "16 tons." they are legion, but very few of 'em are in print or available anywhere on the web.

MrXxx
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 May 2010
Age: 64
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,760
Location: New England

03 Mar 2012, 8:50 am

auntblabby wrote:

MrXxx wrote:

maybe you're a centrist, then?

More like I have the Apolitical Blues.

auntblabby wrote:

MrXxx wrote:

Cool stuff!

Page 2 of 2 [ 28 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2

Jump to:

Talkative Aspies, What Do You Talk About? Post Reply New Topic

Talkative Aspies, What Do You Talk About?