How long till you're found different?

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Hahaha, I thought I was the only one to do this!! ! I go feed the stray cats looking like I'm a stray myself, neighbors in this posh area all dressed up immediately feel all superior and are sure they'll knock me off my feet with one "intelligent" sentence - then they're in shock when I open my mouth to respond and talk like a professor, and in several different languages.

I assume it's probably no more than a nanosecond. Never underestimate NTs' ability to intuit these types of microcues about you straight away.

I can't fake being normal.

LOL!! !! that is aweosme!

amen!

* Stims: pace , snap fingers.

* Singular- onesided interests.

*Eye contact.

Not long.

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15min is all it took for them to start moving away from me. As in literally standing up moving seats to the furthest point from me.

I knew like in the first grade something was "different" about me, I've just never had a name for it until I discovered Asperger's about a month ago, I am pretty sure that people can see me coming from about a mile away, I am a handsome enough chap, there's just something which aint right about me and everyone can see it but me.

It really helps that I'm a foreigner. Being a French in Germany I'm kinda weird by definition. It also helps that I hardly ever go to social outings without my kid anymore. Being busy with your enthusiastic toddler is a good way to avoid too long small talk, and when you do small talk the kid is the subject of conversation in 99% of the cases, that's a topic I can hold on to.

So given this, I can hold myself together for a day, maybe two. But I really have to try hard. The other people on the bus need less than a minute (as soon as I start talking to myself, they get the clue).

I'm the same way. I dress like either a jock or a homeless person but I talk like a professor (many assume I actually AM a professor or teacher) and can come across as a bit of a nerd but if someone annoys me they'll see my nasty temper and alpha male characteristics. I also come across as lacking confidence (I certainly do) but when I'm right and know it I get very arrogant and defensive and am not afraid to tear people apart in debates. Add to that my extremely tall and lanky posture and some people just don't know how to take me.

As a kid I always felt like I was on the wrong planet and used to joke about waiting for the mothership to retrieve me.

I didn't find out about my aspie nature until I was 48.

Some people get it instantly - I can just tell by their expression that they know I'm 'different' to them. It makes me feel awful.

Other people, much later but it doesn't concern them in so much as they just drift away from me, I think. Men I've been involved with don't seem to notice much but then, I guess I pick men with far worse issues than me

One of my cousins and I would pretend we were from a different planet and we'd pretend to get signlas and plan a way back lol

To the people that speak like a "college professor" how often are you verbally assaulted when you do that? I stopped that starting in High School and totally by age 19. It got me bullied even by adults! Every time I am about to say something that seems "real smart and very well put" I stutter or go mute. I had a cousin complain for years about my vocabulary being to hard to understand and she eventually told me to talk normal to her or not at all.

I was obviously different by age 4. It depends on how receptive the other person is and how much is said and what is said but by 2 weeks usually. Seems enough people notice right away. I have had many strangers ask me if I'm ok or is everything ok. Also a lot of "Where are you from?" Something I just noticed I should be offended by "Where are your parents?" lol

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On average 3-5 minutes.

I'm lucky in that regard, I don't look normal in the first place !.

It depends on the situation. Sometimes pretty quickly, and sometimes it takes them a while. I'm pretty good at acting reasonably normal for a while, but it takes a lot out of me. I've rarely made it to the friendship point though, because the weirdness comes out eventually.