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I was married for a year about 15 years ago. Before that I had boyfriends for couple year periods or shorter. In my opinion, the guys that wanted me were low quality and the vast majority passed me by for being "different". So at some point I just gave up on the dream. Nowadays I think it'd take someone so unusual to make a good couple with me that I don't even bother looking.

In any case, in my neck of the woods, women my age can aspire to a man of about 65 years of age, and last year I finished with the ordeal of caring for my old and extremely sick father when he died, the worst nightmare for me is to have to start all over again with another one now. I just don't have the strength to do that a third time. I did it for both my parents till they died, and it almost finished me.

My cats are my family and they fulfill my need for companionship a great deal.

The last straw that made me give up on the dream was that my cousin, who was married to the perfect man, Prince Charming, handsome, rich, sweet as honey, best husband in the world, got all of a sudden dumped by him, he took all their savings (he had also lost all his inheritance being horrible at business) and married another woman and had a child almost immediately, he even stole money from, and abandoned, the kids from his marriage to my cousin. It felt to me like marriage is such a lottery that I'd rather not risk it.

Still, it would be nice to have that special someone for the experience. I want someone who is going to hold my hand or go to dinner with who I can share things with. It's hard for me sometimes. I mean, what's wrong with society for not noticing me enough to ask me out?

As for that guy, he sounded like a con that was only out for himself.

I don't know if I'm lucky or unlucky with this, but I only remember the bad things, not the good. You say "go to dinner with" and I only remember bad-to-horrible dinner experiences with romantic partners. Then there's the time I traveled all alone to the south of France and because I was alone and hadn't reserved a table, the waiter sat me with 2 French strangers who didn't speak a word of English. The 3 of us had a wonderful time, conversed non-stop, even in my poor French.

I'm twenty five and I've never had a relationship. I've had two brief (and I mean brief) involvements with older men which didn't end up being fully sexual.

There are many reasons (developmental, in part) currently largely beyond my control as to why this has never happened for me and why it can't right now

It's a torment, because having had a glimpse of what it is actually like to have someone to hug and sit with and hold hands with and kiss and more and talk to and feel is all yours and feel sexual desire for, it makes it all the more wretched not to have anyone.

It's extremely unfair. So many people take that kind of thing for granted. I can live with my compromised existence, but I resent it

People don't know how lucky they are

I know what you mean. It's like being denied a thing that seems to be a normal expected progression in life, but not really understanding the reason why it isn't happening when it seems so easy for others.

I have an older friend whose marriage ended badly and so did another friends and they ask me, 'why would you want that misery in your life.' i'm sad for them that they had those problems, but other people will look at them and say that their lives have progressed normally. The grew up, they got married, they had kids. It's expected. Whereas people see me as a bit strange. I get told, 'i think it's about time you got married, don't you.'

Even if the relationship didn't work out at least I could be seen as normal.

Yeah and i'd like someone to go on fun adventures with. I'd like to visit new cities. I've always wanted to visit New York or London or Prague. But I have no one to go with. It would be nice to love someone and have them love me back and for up both to actually enjoy spending time together.

I have been lucky and had a special someone in my life. I ended it 6 months ago after 16 yrs.

The massive depression that followed this decision, led me to the recent discovery that I probably have AS.

This explained so much, not only about why the relationship failed but also issues I have had my entire life.

The result is, I can't sustain a relationship while living with them.

Hopeful about finding someone else (once my feelings for my ex have dissipated), but now I will also need loads of time on my own. I doubt this can be achieved when co-habiting.

Don't give up Hope !

I have been lucky and had a special someone in my life. I ended it 6 months ago after 16 yrs.

The massive depression that followed this decision, led me to the recent discovery that I probably have AS.

This explained so much, not only about why the relationship failed but also issues I have had my entire life.

The result is, I can't sustain a relationship while living with them.

Hopeful about finding someone else (once my feelings for my ex have dissipated), but now I will also need loads of time on my own. I doubt this can be achieved when co-habiting.

Don't give up Hope !

44 here and never a date but optimistic with therapy. Just seems so far away at times

Can I ask, Whats the therapy involve ?.

PM me if you don't want the answer public.

I had a two-year relationship from 18 to 20, and since then two very short-lived flings. So I have been single since 2001 and celibate since 2005 (1st December is my 7th celibacyversary, go me!)

In the past 7 years I've only met two men I really thought things could work with. One didn't want a partner full-stop and the other... well he really hurt me badly just this summer. Always responded to me flirting with him, seemed to be really interested in me, then one day publicly announced he had met a girlfriend.

I really would love to find the right person for me, but I rarely meet anyone I feel attracted to so odds are incredibly low, and part of me just fells like I never want to put myself through all the pain that liking someone involves. Although at this stage, that's probably just the rawness talking.

I've had a few brief relationships, but it's fair to say that I've been single for most of my life. This hasn't entirely been an active choice.....I would much rather be happily married, but it would be very difficult to find a guy whom I liked and who would also fit in with my family.

I've had sex with two people, one a casual thing and one several days with someone I thought I loved and loved me but it didn't work out. There's also another that I still have feelings for but, it doesn't seem to be mutual.

The end result is that I have had nothing in my life sexual or otherwise since 1998. I don't feel lovable or like I have much worth because of it (and also because of a ton of abuse and rejection all of my life) I don't know how I'm going to deal with it.

I'm hoping to move to a more urban area where I might people I actually share interests with in hopes of trying for a relationship but I don't really know if I will ever find someone that sees me as anything but abnormal and perhaps creepy.

I'm pretty depressed right now though so I'm not sure how realistic what I'm saying is. although I have to say that the history of my sex/love life pretty much speaks volumes by itself. I just don't think I'm compatible with humans, not really at least not in a social context they love me when they need me to do something for them but the minute that is over I'm a non-person.

Ditto, word by word.

Humans have only brought me misery all my life. I'm so much better off without them nowadays. I left them to each other to play their sick mind games with. Fortunately, cats don't punish me for not guessing their hidden agendas and expectations.

25, single and support less. It gets tough when you get a stretch of free time from work and there's nothing actually else to do.

I've been single my whole life. Never had sex, never kissed, heck I've never even held a girl's hand.

I have no desire to have sex at all, and I wouldn't want to live with a woman or even be in a relationship with anyone. I need a LOT of time to myself, and I can't see that happening while being in a relationship. My social skills are poor, so that doesn't help either. Sometimes I'd like a little foreplay, but after fapping the feeling passes.

The way I see it, I'm not really missing out on much. I have a low sex drive and most of the time I'm satisfied by myself. I might go into escorts sometime in the future, but I haven't really felt the need to go that far.