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20 Dec 2013, 7:28 pm

you need to be happy for what you have, not angry for what you don't have….this isn't some chinese fortune cookie-glass half full philosophy……sometimes you need to recognise and acknowledge what you have…..not what you don't have…not what you want…….but what you have.


your life gets better after a diagnosis…….and starts to improve once you accept the diagnosis…..and them embrace and understand yourself……

small steps…..but toward recognition of what you have ……try it.


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20 Dec 2013, 10:48 pm

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Have you thought about online therapy and having your meds shipped? You might have to go to an urban area to get this set up but in my view that type of love, acceptance and sensory peace will probably be more effective then any artificial solution. I guess what I am saying is that you have been running so long that you are not seeing that you have found your home even though starring you in the face. Just a thought, I am not you


thank you. not to hijack the thread but no, actually, online therapy hadn't occurred to me. so thanks for the suggestion. meds shipped - i've had bad experiences with that, so i prefer to fill in person. if you know a good online pharm and want to pm me the info, i'd be happy to receive it. i get a good discount while i'm in arizona but tomorrow will be the last day for that.

as far as finding home - it had occurred to me that i should stay. i just really want to see north carolina. i've thought about living there since i was 18 so thats 30 years. it would be nice to give it a try. the problem with living here is if my jeep breaks down - and it is pretty old - i haven't got the resources to fix it and there's absolutely no alternative unless i turn to the dreaded people skills and ask for a ride and just absolutely suck at that. however - there's no question in my mind if i could, that people would help. if i don't like NC i think will probably come directly back here. i can get a trailer for $125 a month. it's not exactly luxury living, but i could care less as long as the park is quiet and my landlord leaves me alone.

i think if we comment further we should take to pm to avoid, as i said, an unintentional hijack, but i do appreciate the response.


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20 Dec 2013, 11:12 pm

edaspie wrote:
:)

There are two things i have done that have greatly solved my anger and frustration problem.

> i remind myself "i did the best i could with the person i was at the time."
> i accept whatever is present, not unconditionally in terms of danger or being immoral or bad, but in not "minding" what happens to the extent that it doesn't get a chance to take control of my mind.

Hope that helps you too.

:)


I wholeheartedly agree. I try not to add needless struggles to the unavoidable ones. Easier said than done, but I think most people are trying to do what they can how they can. All we can do is honor that in others and ourselves, and try to wring it out of the system..