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Do you find it difficult to compromise with people?
Yes 88%  88%  [ 15 ]
No 12%  12%  [ 2 ]
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nerdygirl
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18 Jan 2015, 9:26 pm

My mom and dad go "shopping" together. This means that my dad drives my mom to the stores and stays in the car and reads/listens to the radio/naps while she goes in to buy stuff. Then they go out to eat together.

My mom gets the companionship of a day out with my dad (which they both enjoy), and my dad doesn't have to be bothered going into the stores.



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18 Jan 2015, 9:39 pm

I wouldn't mind doing that....but my wife "needs" me in the store for some reason



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18 Jan 2015, 10:41 pm

Does she have girlfriends she could go with and prefers to go with you or do you think she'd be lonely?



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19 Jan 2015, 9:23 pm

I sometimes think she doesn't trust me. She thinks a husband is obligated to keep a wife company. I'd be content if I would be able to stay in the car.



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23 Jan 2015, 7:30 pm

I cant think of any advice at the moment
but I hope you are doing well



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23 Jan 2015, 7:41 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I sometimes think she doesn't trust me. She thinks a husband is obligated to keep a wife company. I'd be content if I would be able to stay in the car.


For events such as dances, parties, weddings, invitations to family gatherings where you get invited as a couple, that's true, but otherwise, I don't see why you have to accompany your wife shopping. It's not as if you have any contribution to make to your wife's shopping choices. Why can't your wife shop with a girlfriend? I'm wondering if maybe she doesn't have enough friends.



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27 Jan 2015, 4:50 pm

I've been posting over at "Meditation-helpful?" and suddenly remembered this thread when I re-read "If nothing else, meditation turns boredom into opportunity." I've often found it the perfect way to park my brain when waiting for almost anything, and when I do it at meetings, everyone is very pleasant afterward. The average shopping spouse won't interrupt me nearly as often as my own mind does most days, so it's just variety.



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28 Jan 2015, 4:49 pm

The shopping issue isn't just related to aspergers. Most men don't like going shopping. Men who do enjoy it are a rare exception it would seem.

It's a common joke out there in internet world
http://www.thepoke.co.uk/2014/05/06/miserable-men-out-shopping/
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2550919/Proof-men-HATE-shopping-Hilarious-pictures-world-men-bored-minds-waiting-partners.html

Sounds like she just wants to spend time with you. Can you suggest a different activity that you can do together that you would both enjoy. I have friends who go for a walk somewhere pleasant together and stop at the end for coffee.