Is Life Better or Worse Now Than When You Where Younger?

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I don´t think that you can present two options for a yes/no question. The answers need to be better/worse, not yes/no.

My life is infinitely worse. I wish I was still young and ignorant. Life was okay until I started to understand the world.

Much better since I found WP, realized I'm aspie, accepted that, and worked with it instead of against it.

My life is better in almost all ways. I'm away from my abusive alcoholic father, my heavily medicated mother, no more bullying like I went through in public school, no more stress of college and being a single mom. Right now, I stay at home with my 3 beautiful intelligent children (who do drive me crazy, but I love them!), and I have a wonderful husband who thinkgs that cooking and taking care of the kids every day more than makes up for his being the only one bringing in a paycheck. Plus the sex is good.

Better, because I have my own space, and no one bullying me. And I have a better idea of who I am, and am comfortable with it (although there are still things I would change, if I could).

Dagnabbit, you kids these days don't know how good you got it! Why, when I was yer age, I walked three miles to school every day, uphill, both ways, in snow up to my neck, in summertime! Then I'd work sixteen hours in the coal mines so I could go home and eat a lump of dirt! And we were grateful to have it, I tells ya!

Now get offa my lawn, ya dadburn brats! <shaking cane in air>

It's way better now. Is that a yes or a no on the poll?

Since it is better OR worse, it is a yes. I'm not sure how the
third option could apply though.

As much as I wish I could change certain aspects of my past with new knowledge that I have, there's no way in hell I'd ever want to return. Whether or not its a red herring, I feel like I have the capacity to live my life right now the way I want to. I haven't lived up to it yet, but it's a hell of a lot better than groping in the dark.

It's not as scary for me now as it was, but it's definitely worse. MUCH worse. Third grade, now THAT was the best time in life, for me. I'm 36 yrs old now, and have been depressed for the past 28. I've been bullied by step-family members that whole time, and have not experienced any joy since I was nine. Hopefully I can change that, by using knowlege gained from my recent diagnosis.


I voted "No", and by that, I mean "worse". Next time, make sure that your poll options are clear.

Well, my best time was in my 20's, from 22-ish to 30, or 24-27 was my peak. That was when I was single, out of the house and just moved to Tucson. I'm happy with my family, but have had to deal with a lot of ups and downs and progressively worse depression, or cyclothymia. Even in times of joy, there's something "looming overhead". My childhood sucked mostly and I'm grateful that I have the freedoms that I do have as an adult in the US.

I used to dread each day but now each day is a new joy. Words cannot describe how much better my life is now.

Depends - it's significantly worse than when I was 17-21, but a lot better than when i was in my early teens.

Heh. I remember from my school days, we did a unit on Haiku poetry. And on a test we got a question like "In Haiku, do you count words or syllables?" (The answer, of course, is "syllables" -- Haiku has 17 syllables, three lines with 5, 7, and 5 syllables.)

Someone answered "Yes".

Worse, and keeps getting worse. I just don't know what the hell to do anymore.

It was better when I was younger. I was very ignorant and naive, like everyone was as a small child.

yes in that i am more relaxed about not trying to be socially on par...

in my public school exprience... it really sucked to be reminded daily that people hate you. yeah i had a couple transient oddball firends... but they're all gone now either through their choices or mine...

in my undergrad... the first semester or so, i tried to do what you were supposed to do... party, drug it up and be "Social"... but grew tired of that... the "friends" i met during that phase were even less steadfast than the few i had made over the previous years... it was fun to have a foggy head and to be dancing and feeling attractive... but i grew tired of chit chat convos you have while meeting people at clubs... the turn over rate of meeting/forgetting people and saying the same thing over and over to new people just grew tiresome.

so i stopped that and started doing martial arts with a bunch of people that gave me a good structured social environment... and while i hung out with most those guys cause i was dating one of them... it only slightly bothered me that i was a tag-along. i was becoming very aware that i would probably never make any real friends... but i still like the common atmosphere that the martial arts activity gave me... i could at least talk to people on subjects that i know interest them and find it satisfying because the same subjects interest me. i think this was my most enjoyable social arrangment i've had yet.... go to class with them, hang out and eat after class and go to parties/movies/bars occassionally with the same gang (or just stay at home with the bf)... was kinda just comfortable.

leaving that relationship and coming to gradschool... i work way too much... and in doing so, have had to become more energy efficient than ever... and i find that i am at a social bottleneck. maybe it's just being a sicence nerd, but i have little in common with other gradstudents here (they are WAY nerdier in some respects.. and plain boring at parties... which makes it even harder for me to bear to go to those parties cause i feel more attention on me in a way). there are a couple i occassionally talk to... i used to shoot pool or go to movies with them... but they've just kinda dropped away and i dont know why. i stay at home and work or play wow most nights... im lonely at times mainly cause i know that my social network has dwindled vastly compared to what(ever) it used to be...

and im about to finish up and start all over... drive across the country for more school...

think i'm a lot more content with my pace... but i don't like having to work with the same grad students (see them in the lab) when we dont hang out anymore. it's just weird. i don't really care...

im way more solitary/boring (lol) than ever but i feel strangely settled... and i think finding WP helped with that....