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Well, it is hereditary. Any friends who have met my parents think they are strange/nuts.

I didn't start dating till I was 24. I was engaged in early 30s but I didn't work out. I'm currently in a long term relationship with my bf for going on 10 years. A lot of Aspies don't meet someone till later in life.

It gets easier to do the older you get.

Yes.

[I am a smart ass.]

For whatever it's worth, everyone's alone.
That's why I look forward to dementia--and to keeping myself company!

(Also big dogs. Big dogs keep you warm at night.)

Married at age 33, now still married at age 50. The Missus tells people we've had five years of wedded bliss. (That's a joke.) I was un-diagnosed with depression for many years, and also un-diagnosed with AS.

BUT I found a woman who understands me (most of the time) and loves me (all the time).

It also helps that's she got Czech blood, that stubborness has helped us stay together.

(No offense, Czechs.)

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Hey Kilroy i know x actly what U mean it happened to me:enui(on we)
Getting dumped breaks your heart
Girls are Godesses that lavish softness & savageness
I made it to 40 alone with bittersweet memories,hopeless hopes,failed dreams,a security blanket of apathetic depression,a stymied logical analysis of "What's wrong with me!"
Getting dx'ed at 39yo was ironic cruelty when 'early intervention is the best policy'

But you're going to worry anyway,right?
Dating is HELL!
I've had 1 date in the last 13 years...I was composing marriage vows
the whole week in anticipation
she didn't return my calls
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8Z1MpcyqQU[/youtube]

something encouraging...

be a comedian
that goes a long way

you gotta use what you got, and for god sake be smart.
It's all in the mind
There's people out there (nt's and aspies) that would truly appreciate your talents.
if other aspies can do it why isn't everybody doing it?




I'm an aspie without friends, (if any, only my husband) but happily married

It doesn't really matter where I'll go, what's important is what I'll see along the way

I think high school is the worst time to be an Aspie. Since you're 18, things should improve for you now or very soon.
My advice is this: when you do find someone, don't feel that you have to hang onto them for dear life. With my first boyfriend, I thought that if it hadn't been for him, I would never have had a relationship. As a result, I put up with a lot of behavior on his part that I shouldn't have. You will find love, and if it doesn't work out you will find it again with someone else.

I don't know. The first 15 years (or so) after were
pretty good, but it's beginning to feel just about
as hopeless now. One gets settled into routines,
and when everything collapses, it's all that much
harder to start over. Not just love, but everything.



Maybe. But, it takes so damned long to find
someone who seems right enough, that it's
damned hard to turn away from it.

So when exactly is the right one suppose to come along? When is it going to get better? I started dating late at age 28, dated several abusive fruitloops. My longest relationship was 8 months. I haven't dated at all in about 4 years, maybe longer. Its been so long I don't remember. The one and only person I have been attracted to in years recently divorced, I pursued her, I thought she was flirting, but I guess not and now she doesn't want to be my friend even. Geez I'm 38 now and have a illness that usually kills people within 10 years, so things aren't exactly looking good for me in the marriage dept. Life sucks!

Well, I met my husband on an online video game
If you think Asperger's gets you strange looks from people, try telling them that!
Which is why we've come up with a half-truth story about the first time we met in person.

I know of three different people who have met and married (and still married) on match.com (or something like that).

Ticker, I am sorry about your illness, I didn't know about that. But I do want to say thank you again for all the advice you gave me about fish (mine are all still alive and doing well!! !! ! )

People make too big of a deal out of relationships (AS and NT). No one person is going to be the be-all/end-all of happiness in your life. I don't think that a person with an attractive girl/boyfriend is that much happier at the end of the day than someone who is alone. It is all about your perspective on life.

I agree with that.
I've spent about half of my life on my own, and about half of it in relationships. I think there are pluses and minuses to both being alone and living with someone else. It ain't always easy.

Take it from me, being alone & adapting to it it far better than yearning to be out of a bad marriage or relationship and seeing no light at the end of the tunnel. At this point death almost seems like a healing to me.