People my own age seem to be way older than me.

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24 Jul 2008, 7:45 am

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Also, due to my inexperience and what I would call my own lack of 'street smarts' I generally tend to act kind of naive. I used to tell myself that at some point I would catch up and be able to be 'normal', but as I've discovered what it means to be AS I've started to give up on trying to become like these people and just stick with doing my own thing.

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I've never had street smarts either. Not sure I want 'em

When I was a kid other kids seemed much younger than me. Now I'm 50, other 50 year olds seem way older. Strange. By that reckoning I guess there was some time around age 25 when I was the same level of maturity as everyone else but I must have missed it :lol:

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24 Jul 2008, 12:18 pm

Starr wrote:

I hear ya. When I was in high school, there was a book out called "I Passed as a Teenager" by Lyn Tornabene. In her 30s, she got herself up as a teenager, enrolled in high school and wrote about the experience. (She was a New Yorker and attended a school in, I believe, the Midwest, staying with a friend.) Well, I identified with her big time, because even though I was 16-17 years old, I felt as though I was an older person "passing as a teenager" myself!

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24 Jul 2008, 2:00 pm

rjay09 wrote:

True for me too. As well as knowing I'm rather naive, I seem to have an invisible tatoo on my forehead saying 'sucker' that only scumbags can read. You feel like a little kid being told to trust nobody ever, and that you don't credit yourself with the common sense you know you do have.

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30 Jul 2008, 4:41 pm

People treat me like I'm young still, probably because I haven't matured to my age yet and ppl seem shocked when I tell them that my kids are in college. Still haven't figured out what I want to be when I grow up and like rjay09 I used to tell myself that I would catch up eventually, well I finally quit telling myself and now I go with the flow - you know life

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30 Jul 2008, 7:51 pm

rjay09 wrote:

I'm quite a bit younger and I also feel similarly. Most of the people I hang with at college have their own places, live away from home, work, study, et all, yet I can barely juggle exercise, 12 credits, and a part time job. I wish I could get my stuff together like they do.

Also, due to my inexperience and what I would call my own lack of 'street smarts' I generally tend to act kind of naive. I used to tell myself that at some point I would catch up and be able to be 'normal', but as I've discovered what it means to be AS I've started to give up on trying to become like these people and just stick with doing my own thing.

When I was your age, I couldn't handle 12 hours and a job and exercise. You're doing fine. In fact, you may be overbooked. Most people with a part time job do 6 to 9 credit hours at a time (9 credits with 20 hrs/wk or 6 credits with 30+ hrs/wk). Overall, you have a great attitude about accepting yourself. I wish I had gotten my stuff together back then as well as you do now.

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30 Jul 2008, 8:17 pm

My behavioral age: 7 years old
Everyone else's: 20's and 30's

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11 Feb 2010, 4:39 am

Well what do you expect, sometimes AS people take longer to grow up, it's natural. I am college aged and I still feel like I'm living like a high schooler right now. I also look like a high schooler too as well.

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12 Feb 2010, 9:59 am

I always put down my preservation to constantly mixing with the unaging undergraduate students in my classes.

Used to keep meeting people my father's age who then revealed they were a year younger as I. Major shock.

But my family tends to age inconspicuously, so it may be random genes.

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15 Feb 2010, 3:33 am

Well since I turned into a party animal I am considering going to my 30th if I can lose enough weight.

Weird thing is most of my run around buddies are half my age!

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15 Feb 2010, 2:57 pm

I don't look 51, or feel 51, or act 51. But it's the strangest thing - people I know who are younger than me look like they could be my dad. They've lost much of their hair, have gained a bunch of weight, they're getting wrinkly, and they aren't 50 yet! It must be from the stress of raising children, and slaving for the bucks, and getting drunk to cope with it.

I won't be going to any high school reunions, though.

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16 Feb 2010, 10:40 am

I am 31, but most people think I am in my early twenties. My partner treats me somewhat like an adult-child. It probably does not help that I am developing somewhat of an interest in lolita dresses.

It is odd because I have a JD and a pretty good career. In other ways I kind of seem set back.

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19 Feb 2010, 10:54 am

I'm only eighteen, but I feel very naive compared to my peers. One part of me feels much younger, but another, significantly older. It's very frustrating.

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20 Feb 2010, 3:38 pm

MysteryFan3 wrote:

Someone on another Aspie forum suggested a 2/3 rule: the emotional age of an Aspie is generally 2/3 of their chronological age, as compared to the general population. What do you think?

Mine seems to be closer to 1/2. :oops:

In that case I should be 11.333.... etc

People with AS/autism are also known to have youthful features physically aswell so maybe that goes hand in hand with the lower emotional age.
At the end of the day we are the ones who have the last laugh when we are in our 40s and are still like a bunch of teenagers

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21 Feb 2010, 10:00 pm

I know what you mean. my best friend from when I lived in Alabama, he was my neighbor across the street, I talked to him on Facebook a couple weeks ago. He is a vice-president of a bank in Birmingham Ala. I am currently unemployed and job-hunting. Of course my other friend is a complete burn-out rehab guy who has been in and out of jail, so I guess I am somewhere in the middle.

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25 Feb 2010, 10:46 am

I'm chronologically 40. Physically look 30, sometimes younger. Emotionally 12-20. Intellectually 80. I have no friends my age, either younger or older by about 10 years.

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25 Feb 2010, 10:40 pm

Who exactly acts their age? From what I can tell, people never change (unless it's due to a really traumatizing event). Everything that "adults" do is really just a facade to cover up the grade school playground mentality. The two most popular games on the playground are "Hey, look at me!" and "I'm better than you". The only thing that really changes is the language, the clothing and the size of the toys.

I suppose most people would say that I act immature for my age, but at least I'm not a big phony.

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