Sex without love

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Abangyarudo, I think you have just met some really dumb girls who like to play games. Real people don't play games. I hate it when people do that.

I have always felt that myself, with the exception that I definitely wouldn't want to do it with anyone if there was nothing more than just sex.

maybe so but most girls suffer from these insecurities. It has reasoning based on the prevailing image of women needing to be super hot, super social savvy, and being the victim that leaves them always assuming. They are attracted to me because of my personality but thats also what makes them insecure. If the relationship is perceived to hit a roadblock they worry I'm cheating, or taking advantage of them. In the end though those examples are just the extreme examples and most of my exs are beautiful, charming women but in the end utterly left insecure. Which causes a problem in determining if they really have the same connection as I do with them.

I don't know how people can equal sex with love. Most of the time it has got nothing to do with love and it is just lust. While having sex with some-one when your in love is beautiful. Sex that is pure lust can feel pretty good too and it's hawwt!

Glibert Grissom once said that 'sex without love is sad' because it was something that drove people apart and that sex was suposed to be something between people who love one another.

It is not my experience that it drives people apart.

I've kept friendships with all my exs though we avoid talking bout relationship problems and such. So I do not have the same experience with it. I just think as my view of being in love is very different from the majority. I think I'm not so easily pleased because by nature I'm an achiever and everything is just set to the next big goal and meeting it. So my view of "love" may be highly romanticized and may be not something I can hope to achieve this early in life and with the current sample rate of women.

I havnt been able to keep realtionships with my exs because all they want is sex and when some-one is trying to feel you up - it is hard to resist so don't usually ever see them again. If I do it is just on the street and I just say "Hello."

Just be patient a few years, get past those awkward decades through middle age, and you can relax. Sex will be a distant memory.

I remember one of my xboyfriend complaining to his friend that all she (I) want is sex because he went all christian for awhile. I have to admitt it did cause me alot of anxiety - seperation anxiety. I had to go on medication until we could have sex again. His friend said to him 'maybe she doesn't know any over love besides sex.' This is untrue because I don't see how sex has got much to with love - it doesn't. It can be an expression of but I do know the difference.

The problem with that theory is it creates a huge risk of contracting a STD and in the case of hetero sex a huge risk in unwanted pregnancies.

There is no such thing as love. Sex is all about lust. Just admit it.

^ That is not true. It is when you love and respect that person as your best friend and you really care for each other. When you have sex with some one like that - that is called making love and is so beautiful. Nothing turns me on more. They are gentle and so passionate it is an expression of how much they care for you.

You live in a fantasy land created by romance books and tv. In real life there is no real love. Its all a matter of people just use each other. I see this with all my friends relationships where the women are used for sex & doing laundry and the men are used for money or physical labor such as working on the womens car, driving her to work on snowy days, etc. There is no such thing as love. Sex is just lust. People never love you for who you are they only "love" you for what they can get from you.

I have been in love before and they really loved me. It is personal experience. I know what I am talking about

I'm generally a pretty cynical guy about love but you are just sad. I hope I never get that bitter.

Edit: too much information....again.... ...sorry...

Love DOES exist.
It may not always look like the fake Hollywood love, but it can happen.

Lust exists too....sometimes they exist together and sometimes not so much...but they are both real.