The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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Oh and I'm what happens when you have a Libra on the Scorpio cusp.


Ohhhhhhhhhh <dreamy eyes> kissy kissy

Now let's have sex.


LOL

Howdy Merle! The patron saint of clueless Aspies has watched over us both, for which I am eternally grateful. Scared and desperate dominatrixing is a good story of turning lemons into lemonaide. Your quick thinking has gotten you into and out of lots of interesting situations, and I enjoy reading them all. I've lived for a short time on the street. Found it to be rough, but interesting. I don't always land on my feet, but I've survived all that life has dished. We're still standing.

Perhaps these are two of Asperger's greatest gifts: cluelessness, but the ability to adapt to any situation; never knowing when to give up, and refusing to.

To Nannrob: don't worry about your grandkids. They will be kind, curious, and funny (just don't piss them off ). They are going to have unconventional, clueless, frightening to watch, but interesting to live lives. It will all be harder on you than them. Gird your loins; wear Kevlar (just kidding - I'd guess that most Aspies are non-violent types - erupt only after long-term mistreatment). What I mean is toughen yourself up for what is to come. They will be able to handle it.


Merle - is that you in the picture? Did you have to dress up for phone sex dominatrixing?

hey a quick hello, very busy

hey chuck i read you (i'm a little selfcentered for the moment so i do not reply in a proper way, but this is because the exams are coming and i have a lot of things to do, so i'm a little fragmented too)

agree with you about sex and relation, zannemarie (and here it does work for 18 years too),
although i'd sometimes need a stragety for the woman too (like fantasies or something, with what i don't mean i don't like sex, on the contrary, but hm i need some time to describe what mean)

Lemon - a little fantasy never hurt. That's what Mistress Zanne is all about! LOL Isn't it funny I didn't play dress up or dolls when I was a kid, but once I got married, I realized the value of dressing up and pretending. I just needed inspiration!

Maybe if I could paint I wouldn't need that. When are you going to make a site so I can by a wall size painting of your avatar?

They found a new planet that can sustain life. Hopefully we can all move home soon.

Nannarob, just to show you the benefit of being clueless :
This was me at age 17, just before entering marine bootcamp, at a height of 5'10" and weighing all of 121 pounds (and not even knowing what the Marine Corps is - they told me joining would help pay for college, so I signed right up):



Here I am in bootcamp, at the 3 month mark. On day one in bootcamp they lined our platoon up from the biggest guy to the smallest and had us count off. That number was our name in bootcamp. My name was "#68". My drill instructors told me that I would not make it through boot and did their best to ensure that I wouldn't. Most guys after #45 did not make it. When they saw that I would not give up they started feeding me extra meals, training me with weights, and teaching me martial arts:



This is me 7 years later, having been in for 6 years, countless training days later, weighing about 190 pounds:



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Merle, now you'll recognize me in the afterlife

PostPaleo: love your new avatar!
ZanneMarie: is your avatar you? You look too sweet to have a riding crop!

Yeah, it's me. I know. All men think I look so sweet and like a little kid. I just heard this yesterday and how it's "adorable" how men treat me. <rolls eyes>

Well, maybe that's why it's so much fun when I break out the black leather and riding crop! LOL

Now you can actually picture me standing on the coffee table and yelling at dh.

I need to dig up a picture of me as a kid. I don't look much different. LOL

LOL. My ancestors were from Trexlertown, near Allentown. It seems there are many nametowns in PA!

I can trace my AS right through that family, and it is replete with brilliance and eccentricity.

Can you also trace the roots of your AS?

Nice ava, ZanneMarie. You do look very innocent and cute!

It is fun to surprise people with an aspect of yourself that isn't readily apparent! And to watch the shock on their faces when you reveal it! Ha! I always wear loose baggy clothing. You'd never guess my size underneath. It also allows freedom of movement when necessary...

I wish I could Serious. I see flashes of things I know are traits, like my fathers maternal side full of women who could play anything on any instrument if they heard it once, but so hard to know if they had social difficulties. I don't know enough about them. I don't really see it anywhere else so that's the only side where I could see it happening. I see other related things, but not that.

I wonder if you can have parents with recessive genes that cause it to present?

Random morning chatter:

Sins/Merle: Your avatar next to your dominatrix picture totally cracks me up. "Little miss wholesome goodness smiling over at you, and the oval aspect makes the picture of you look like an old time photo.

I still return to innocence. I guess that is one Aspie gift. I totally fall apart in the midst of all that sleaze bag mess, but when it's over, it's over. And it falls away from my mind.

Sleep discussion: I tried sleeping pills, they worked, but made me irritable. I do use that antihistamine AND melatonin AND aceteminophen at night. But that antihistamine is killer for restless legs syndrome. I have to fall asleep BEFORE the RLS sets in.

ZanneMarie: Good tips. The "How not to destroy a marriage" ones. And that would have made an excellent topic on it's own, if we had a forum for older Aspies. I would like to see a collection of advice and tips. Without having to remember on what pages they all are on.

Frankly, those tips would be good for anyone starting to date too. Most of them anyway. I'm not sure how well the riding crop and sex comments would go over in a sixteen year olds home.

And, OH, October 23? Zanne?

Chuck: "Perhaps these are two of Asperger's greatest gifts: cluelessness, but the ability to adapt to any situation; never knowing when to give up, and refusing to."

I do try. And I don't know when to give up. But that can make me miserable. The jobs I should have left at the first inkling of disaster. Should have bailed from that last site last year, but if I had, there are many people I wouldn't have gotten to meet. And even though I won't be talking to them now that I'm gone it was nice for the time.

Way to go with the before and after, Chuck! I'm fond of a Marine uniform and you look mahvelous. You probably didn't think that was even possible, when you joined, to put on that much muscle.

I never joined the Marines, but I did get hooked on aerobics for awhile, and some minor weights and lost fat, gained muscle, and looked good. Now with the back pain, I'd rather be unconscious most of the time. Exercise? When it's painful just to sit here?

Noooo, stop chasing me with the riding crop! Leave me alone! I don't want to go for a walk. OUCH. Okay, I'm going. OUCH. I was NOT dawdling! OUCH! But there's something shiny over there.

Hey SeriousGirl Your avatar is cute too!

My sister traced our family roots to England, and I can see that quite a few people here at Wrong Planet are from England. Must have originated from there or somewhere near there.

I believe it can skip generations ZanneMarie if it is like other heritable traits. My dad definitely had ADHD, probably some Asperger's. My mom may have had some Asperger's. My sister is autistic, with some Asperger's. I'm Asperger/ADD. My brother is somewhat in the spectrum, but is more NT than either my sister or myself.

I think social difficulties will be difficult to spot since life back then was more formal and scripted, especially for men. They had roles and weren't expected to be emotional. In my ancestors, I have looked at occupations which were obsessive and the fact that some were very happy in solitude. Some left no Wills even though they had substantial estates. Some disappeared for years living in forts out on the frontier. They were all in engineering type occupations.

Yes, you can have recessive genes appear. From what you've written about your mom, she seems to have had traits. Putting toys away or losing them forever is rather black and white thinking.

Merle is both and more. To know Merle you have to read everything she writes, picture it all in your mind, then sense and experience the kind wise soul that weaves throughout the lines.



I didn't know that I'd be gaining muscle at all. I had no clue what the Marine Corps was. I had read about longshoremen once in French class in high school and when I heard 'marines' I figured that's what they were. I asked the recruiter, "Do you guys load boats?"
He laughed and said, "Oh yeah! We load boats!"



No excuses. I'll get ZanneMarie after you! Don't make me do it! Besides, exercise may be beneficial. (After a doctor's checkup).

I like water sports for exercise and they tend to be bad-back friendly, True.

Thank you, Chuck, for the compliment on my ava. I still look pretty much the same.