The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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I hardly ever put me in an avatar. It always confuses people when I get testy. LOL

Sorry I froze your brain with my rambling monologue. Coffee dude, get Kosmonaut some coffee!

Changing the music in the egg chair for Kos.


I think this place is full of spies
I think they're onto me
Didn't anybody, didn't anybody tell you
Didn't anybody tell you how to gracefully disappear in a room
I know you put in the hours to keep me in sunglasses, I know

And so and now I'm sorry I missed you
I had a secret meeting in the basement of my brain
It went the dull and wicked ordinary way
It went the dull and wicked ordinary way
And now I'm sorry I missed you
I had a secret meeting in the basement of my brain

I think this place is full of spies
I think I'm ruined
Didn't anybody, didn't anybody tell you
Didn't anybody tell you, this river's full of lost sharks
I know you put in the hours to keep me in sunglasses, I know

And so and now I'm sorry I missed you
I had a secret meeting in the basement of my brain
It went the dull and wicked ordinary way
It went the dull and wicked ordinary way

And now I'm sorry I missed you
I had a secret meeting in the basement of my brain
And now I'm sorry I missed you
I had a secret meeting in the basement of my brain
It went the dull and wicked ordinary way

No need to apologize.
I can't seem to chill out the last few days. Pacing about the house like a caged animal.
I've nearly finished reading Coetzee's 'Disgrace'. He is very good, i will see if i have the patience to sit down and finish it off soon.
How are you?
I noticed the 'AS sufferers' thread, i thought it was very funny.
Boo Hoo, i got AS

Secret Meeting, yes i like that.

I like Coetzee. Did you read Waiting for the Barbarians? That was the first book of his I read and it was for a lit class. Lots of imagery in there, especially about feet. Malformed feet and missing feet. If you haven't read that one, try it.

No, i am new to him.
They only have 2 books of his in the local library: "Slow Man" and "Elizabeth Costello."
I picked "Disgrace" up at a book stall.
Will get the library to order some more of his.

I like 'The Life of Animals' and the bit about Kafka's ape in Elizabeth Costello.
Marvelous writer.
I would like to write myself; just too lazy.
And then when i read people like Coetzee, i think, whats the point. I mean i would be wasting my time compared to that.

All writers will tell you to just write. The best writing is about the seemingly most ordinary things in the world. The gift is seeing the extraordinary in the ordinary and bringing it out. The writing itself is just a craft and requires practice. So write, write, write.

Help me put this on the ceiling. I way to lay on the floor and look at it. I tried to insert it, but I keep getting the red X. GRR I hate it when I can't figure things out!

Orion Nebula

Welcome Kosmonaut and any one else who has wandered in during my absence.

Postpaleo - Your family is stunningly beautiful. How wonderful that no one forced them to say cheese. The young boy to the father's right bears a striking resemblence to you. Yes, I checked out your site and saw your photo. Middle finger up to the world.

Lemon - Regarding fantasy. Mine will probably seem rather dull by comparison to most posted on previous pages. Strolling through the Italian market with my guy, and buying something wonderful to take home and cook together. Or sitting on a window sill together, high above the city watching the sun go down.

How is the hateful boss, Cosmic? Do I still need to hate her or did she straighten up?

Hi Zanne. It's kind of on hold right now. But it has esculated in another dimension. As I've said, she's leaving and her spot has to be filled. They're interviewing for the position and internal transfers get considered first. An acquaintence of mine, not really a co-worker, but someone withing the organization. A social worker with a masters, who is really a nice guy, always kind to me. We have had a few brief conversations about books we love and we lent each other our favorites. He is interested in her job and interviewed for it. One day recently he stopped into our office to see her, unannounced, and while he was waiting for her to get off the phone we had a little book conversation. Then he went in to see her. I head him ask where the sun came up and mention something about the plants on her window. She has a huge window next to her desk and windows in an office are highly prized, as anyone would imagine. When he left she came to my desk and said "C, do you have a relationship with T? I said "No, I don't really think you could call it a relationship. We're both avid readers, have had a few conversations and exchanged books. Why do you ask?" She told me that his coming into her office and talking about her window and such had made her feel very uncomfortable. She said ever since he had applied for the job people were coming up to her and bringing up his name. Then she said "I hope he's not some kind of a stalker." I said something like, "I don't think that's the case. He's a nice guy, he just speaks from his heart." She went to HR. Reported that he had come to her office and she probably said that same bit about the possibility of him stalking her for the job because when she came back she told me that she told the HR director about how uncomfortable she felt about his odd behavior by coming to her office. She said that the director had quipped "Well, if he starts trying to hang pictures up on your wall then we'll worry about it" Now at first this all might sound
like ordinary small talk. But the more I thought about it the madder I got. She started telling me about something that he had said during his interview that probably would have the effect of eliminating his chances of getting the job. Then she went on to say how when she had been a University student she had been stalked and had to get security involved. All of this took place around the same time as the VA Tech massacre. And then a few days following, my incident which you have just asked me about, happened. So now I was in a double fume. This guy's privacy had been violated and his personal and professional reputation had been maligned. If she told me this stuff, am I am on the bottom of the pecking order, who else had she told. I didn't ask for this information and I should not have been told. I really felt for this guy and after a few gut wrenching days decided I had to tell him about what was going on.

I know this is lengthy. I'll submit just his much for now. Take a breather and get back. I stopped in because I wanted to "share" my views on sexuality since it has been such a popular topic on previous pages. I'll do that later, too.

You need to let HR, not him, know she violated his privacy. That's an HR issue and telling him will only fuel her agenda. She told you specifically because she wanted you to tell him so he would come back to her and she could further complain about him. She's playing a game and you need to quit playing it with her.

I hate people like that. I still hate her then.

Too late. I already told him and he was grateful to be told. If anyone talked like that about me li, I would want to be told. I don't think I am playing a game with her. I'm dead serious. The problem is, she is the organization"s "Darling". She can do no wrong and HR is not the refuge for injured employees as it should be. Leaks come out of there all the time and our department and HR "sleep together" if you will. Going to HR doesn't mean s**t. It just puts you on their s**t list, and because of my bosses high standing, saying anything negative about her would put you on the very top of the poopified list. I think this is a matter for corporate compliance, or at least for the Big Daddy of HR in corporate HQs. These happenings go against their Code of Conduct, which they purport to value so highly. It's just all so damned time consuming.

Woke up, got out of bed
Dragged a comb across my head
Found my way downstairs and drank a cup
And looking up, i noticed i was late

*choo, choo choo, choo*

Found my coat and grabbed my hat
Made the bus in seconds flat
Found my way upstairs and had a smoke
Somebody spoke and i went into a dream
Ah

And by the way, Zanne, you're a strikingly beautiful woman. Helen of Troy type. Never seen Helen, but it was my first thought when I saw your avatar. No wonder you have to fight the men off. And you have found of way of not alienating them by putting them to good use. Where's my god damned coffee, dude?

LOVED IT ! !!

Serious girl, Serious girl
with all your charm
and all your curls
No one
had better make you cry
cause you were born serious
and that's no lie

Good Morning