The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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I also didn't get the electrical appliances. I thought he was telling those young guys to go take apart things in the house and quit worrying about it. I had no clue that's what it was. I feel like I grew up in the turnip patch like my dh says.

Hi Chuck! I never figured out where people are getting the piano wire. Piano store I guess. That's not something people generally have lying around the house. Is it? Everyone else have piano wire?

ZanneMarie: I just don't like to see arguing or fighting. It throws me off balance, and makes me anxious. Conversations or threads can turn into huge brawls. And sometimes it ends up where no one is happy. People pick sides. Sides means not liking the other side. Feelings get hurt.

True,

I take things the wrong way all the time and blow up. Hopefully no one will stop liking me over it.


Sylvie has piano wire and harp wire because she has a music room and her instruments have been moved not too long before. The man who came to tune them after they were moved left her some wire when he found out she knew how to string her own instruments. You can buy it though. It's just difficult to string unless you know what you are doing because the tension affects the sound.

We have an old mahogany piano in our family that was my grandmother's and aunt's before it was mine, then my niece's. Yes, the guy who tuned it left the wire because my dad could replace it. He would replace it and the tuner would come back and refine it. The whole piano had to be restrung when I got it.

Well, I've gone past goofy to being just plain stupid, so its time for me to bid you all a good night. Zanne - you never piss me off. And if you ever need to blast someone its ok to blast me. That goes for everyone. It'd probably go over my head anyway.
Take care all, I love you.

Chuck

Love you too, Chuck, 'Gnight!

I find it comforting to have friends like this, where we can chat and feel for each other with out having to deal with bodies and eyes and smells and looks and such.
Lupine says Aspies invented the Internet so we could find each other. I like that too.

I imagine Alex is watching our little soiree with interest to see if us old fashioned Telnet, Usenet, AOL, Yahoo, and various other chat/forum room users handle a good old fashioned FLAME WAR. . .

so, for your pleasure and education, I give you the site that taught me how to live in community on the internet, you are gonna want to book mark this website, my friends, and refer to it now and then.

http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/

enjoy!

Merle

OK I bookmarked it. Thanks for your insight, Merle.

hi, Rosie

hi Lupine, been wondering where you were. . .


Merle


_________________
Who says: Hard times?
I'm used to them
The speeding planet burns
I'm used to that
My life's so common it disappears
And sometimes even music
Cannot substitute for tears

Workin'. Putting up with workplace politics and other crap.

Great link, Merle. I wish I'd had that before those last few sites I'd been on. Hey, I didn't know those people existed. Nor did I notice myself falling into various roles. Just about all the descriptions I've read so far, someone specific leaps into my mind!

I guess I'd better work on eliminating those negative things in myself. It's always something.

I have spent over 2 hours catching up on the posts. Thank goodness you've quietened down a bit.
I've come in at an awkward moment. Hope you two make it up, PP.

Have been wandering into the Haven, and very disturbed at what I read. I was going to suggest that Sinsboldly and other dinos start a thread called "How I survived the NT world." The idea was to share life stories. But from my readings here think the idea will go down like a lead balloon.

Oh Chuck!! !! !! Thank you for the pictures. Will get my daughter to perve on same!!

Helen has survived because of WP. Has had great help from the parent's forum. We do go on about Ubby a bit, but a year ago we knew very little about aspergers. He fitted in to homelife. Helen is weird and so are some in her close family. and she loves to play. The only slight concern was the fact that he would revert to baby talk . But meltdowns ...What's a meltdown?? Looking back and looking at photographs of him, we can see the aspie now.

But the meltdowns are sometimes twice a day, he has been given a yellow card on the school bus as a warning because he's fighting and he wants to die, or be punished because he's useless... So this behaviour which became noticeable last year is escalting at a rapid pace

From my reading here and the stories I've heard I know he will survive. He has the best mother, and his parents are starting to work as a team. We're just a bit shell shocked at the moment.

Thanks ZM for letting us be part of your family. It might surprise you to know that you come across as maternal in cyberspace. And you abound in common sense.

This place is relaxing because we can talk about what is on our minds.

Soon comes the time I will have to disconnect the computer from the cable. I know I will get a lot more packing done. The moving dude ( don't you just LOVE craigslist?) will be here this afternoon to help me load the Uhaul, and then in the morning to help me unpack into the new place.
They are hooking up the cable today at the other place and really AREN'T barbarians, they let the days overlap! He he, I guess they know they have an addictive product and are all about keeping my jones satisfied!

I talk once a week with a lady that started the local Aspie montly get together. We have talked once a week since last November, except for the time her husband retired and they went to New Zealand for a month. Her name is Janet and she was an Emergency Room Doctor. She is Aspie and went to the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota here in the States to get diagnosed, but they thought she was pyschotic because her preseveration at that time was string theory and fractals. She did her own research and is forever telling me "YOU ARE YOUR OWN BEST ADVOCATE! and she is right. If I had been coddled and interveined and 'taken care of' I would have collasped on myself in a heap of steaming stench called self pity.

I do that anyway with out outside help!

So these days I can pause and consider if I am going to melt down about something or not. When I came home from work to the chaos of t he flooded apartment I didn't make a choice, I just flew off the handle and reacted like the force of nature I am. When I asked the people in this Cafe if I was melting down or not, I missed the punch line. ..

I didn't melt down, I stepped back and LET THE UNIVERSE UNFOLD BY IT'S SELF!
and that ( like in Robert Frost's poem) has made all the difference.

Cripes I am just rambling . . . I am really trying to avoid getting started today.

so, wish me luck, I am getting started!

Merle


_All times "CHICAGO" on the World Clock______________________________

THE WEEKEND: April 28-29:
Dangerous. Caution lights. Mars will meet unpredictable Uranus at 11:38 P.M. this evening. Accidents, arguments, acts of rebellion, problems with cars, computers, electricity – all are more likely today and tomorrow. You'll feel it. A devil-may-care attitude which will get some pilgrims into trouble. Pay extra attention to the kids and critters now as minor mishaps can get out of hand. Moods are uneven Saturday morning as Venus opposes Jupiter at 8:43 A.M. and you don't have any syrup for your pancakes. Sorry. Don't force the rusty bolt or the issue as the Moon squares Pluto at 2:14 P.M. The Moon turns V/C then until she enters Libra at 4:45 P.M. Caution lights urge you to keep it simple Saturday night. Uranus wants to experiment, and that's a good thing. Just be sure to observe all safety rules and be aware that the element of surprise is likely to show up -somebody runs a red light. Tell your teenagers: This is not the night to race cars, be around trouble or to push the speed limit. Mars and Uranus meet in Pisces, the sign that rules alcohol, drugs, poisons, oil and chemicals, the ocean – all likely to be part of the problem.

Mars forms an inconjunct to Saturn on Sunday. This marker is stressful, usually low energy and can frustrate us in some way. A better use of this pair is to organize your stamps or do something that does not require help from others today. Be willing to make minor adjustments and you can find agreement as the Moon sails peacefully through Libra. Mars will square Jupiter tomorrow again increasing the chances of accidents and arguments Sunday night. This is not the night to talk politics or push your luck. Jupiter rules the law – slow down. As times change.