The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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That would be an 8-year old pound-rescued pitbull. (It would be obvious if I showed the rest of her face.) This is the bug-eyed "Oh look at how tough my life is I'm being forced to sit still for a photo" look.



I don't know. If you figure that one out, please clue me in. I have the same problem. Often find myself trying to sustain a conversation with someone I know I'm supposed to recognize... but don't... until finally some random cue kicks in and I figure out who I'm talking to.

Zanne?

Do you want me to leave this site? You said:
"You will find your place, keep looking."

I don't understand. Did I do something wrong?

By the way, I was pronouncing your name with two syllables, as in "Zah nay" to rhyme with my name Andree (Awn dray).

Postpaleo, I am very aware of the advertisements. I stopped watching TV over a year ago, TV is far too disturbing. Especially the news. It is hurtful to see people dying or suffering or angry.

I used to have an MG Midget. Tiny little thing. It was my first car. Not a neat one like the ones talked about, just some silly car.

Susie, that is very common with the feral cats, to overeat at first. They have NO idea how long they will have food, and need to store up as much as possible, just in case. That happened with many of mine.

It's kind of funny to see tubby cats in the wild now, and them being less interested in food and more interested in affection. It shows me that they KNOW they will have food tomorrow and do not need to gulp it down. They want to be fussed over and held and picked up and play.

Who asked about the skunk? It just showed up one day, hobbling. I can relate to hobbling from when my back pain is severe. And it had something wrong with a back leg, that made it so it couldn't walk well. And fell over a lot. It was so heartbreaking.

Day after day it would show up when I'd called to the cats. And eventually must have realized that I was okay. Actually, they have very little fear, as they know they have that powerful aroma to scare off anyone.

It would stomp and display at first, but couldn't do a good job of it, because of that back leg. Slowly it healed and understood I was "food bringer" and not a threat. No more stomping. Tail still goes up, that a warning flag for all, BUT the scent glands are not exposed. Only when pressed by other animals (or youngsters) do the scent glands get exposed.

I like being around animals. I think they know that too. Like the fox that would steal the cat's food. It didn't just EAT the foot, but would pick up the plate and take it to the other side of the fence to eat.

One day I was downwind and it came right into the cat hut (I made out of sticks and bark), not two feet away. So skinny, that red fox was. I haven't seen them lately. Some were hit by cars. Very sad.

Well, you won't believe what happened to me. I am obviously a SAP. DH got extremely angry with me, took his Sony notebook and left. He wrote me a long note and part of it said:

"You are on the autism/Aspergers thing now. All the books, and the website you have been spending time on. I've been there and read some of the posts. I find it very disturbing -- do you really think that way? I find the rationalizations and the bandmouthing of "NTs" to be loony denial. There is no such thing as neurotypical as a population grouping. The world is what it is, and people are what they are. I don't think Aspies are a viable alternative at all. It is a serious neurological deficit that can prevent people from understanding themselves and they world they live in."

Here I sit with my 2 little aspies in total confusion and despair. I have no idea what he means.

SeriousGirl, I happened to be online when your post appeared, and I want to respond now because of my concern and empathy for you and yours. However, I need time to think, and it is late now for me. I will get back to you tomorrow.

Lupine:

Unfortunately, I am extremely emotional.

Depending on the lunar cycle, I may be even more emotional.

On one of the medications for depression that had severe side effects (for me) I lost all emotion. I figured if that is what it was like to be "normal", I did not want to be normal.

My feelings have been hurt several times here, since I've been here. Because I tend to take things personally, and generally misunderstand. The misunderstandings will take any response or post and turn it into a negative against me.

It's gotten worse in the past few years. Mostly because I've been making an effort to work on my communication skills and all I seem to do is get things wrong with the people that are most likely to attack me. NoooOOOooo, I couldn't get things wrong with someone who would understand. It has to be someone who won't get it, or the Aspie thing and who will harass me for months on end.

I once lived on a mountain top in rural San Diego county in a tent when I left my abusive alcoholic husband. My friend who gave me sanctuary there had a bunch of cats at the time. It was cyclic as the attrition rate was high with the coyotes, mountain lions and rattlesnakes their numbers never got out of hand. He would set out plates of cat food for them and the skunks would come and share the plates with the cats. It was like the US and USSR...they each had their weapons of mass destruction but didn't use them eating peacably together. My friend could even pet the skunks and they wouldn't spray him.

Oh (insert naughty word here).

Regarding the General Discussion forum.

It's him. That was one of his main attacks. That I had not been officially diagnosed. He went after me in some of my own groups. And on other groups not moderated by me.

I wanted to be safe here. I'm never going to be safe. Never going to have a place to talk.

Who are moderators? who can check where that person is posting from? who can help?

Edit: Panic mode. Sorry. I can't breathe in panic mode, I hyperventilate. That person on the old site would stress me so much. I just don't want it to be him. Please.

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Let me ask you this, then: you are undoubtedly emotional/self-aware/sensitive about many beings (people/animals/nature) in your immediate environment. However, I'm guessing that you utilize a different set of copings skills when you need to contend with your business, your clients, etc. Am I right? This is what I mean by making use of that other part of your mind, the rational/pattern-discernment/everyday survival skills part, to get what you need.



I had to try out several antidepressants (at varying levels) over several years' time to find something that worked for me. I needed to take charge of the medication issue because I had to deal with some very difficult situations, most of which are now behind me. In the future, I may choose to experiment with the meds again. Or not.



I sincerely hope that you find enough comfort and support here that you'll recognize your tendency to misunderstand the intent of a post and "ride it out" emotionally, so you can benefit from what our unique little group has to offer. I can tell you from personal experience that the misunderstandings you refer to may be symptomatic of a low-grade, persistant depression. And here is where the "aspieness" of my communication style may prove to be both a blessing and a curse: I feel obligated to communicate to you my opinion, based on your post, while simultaneously fearing that I may unintentionally hurt your feelings and alienate you because I am in fact, misunderstanding YOU! Quite a quandary, eh?

True, KFA91 is probably a teenager. He made a remark about his obsessive interests interfering with his homework.

SeriousGirl:

The guy that hounded me for over 7 months came from various parts of the country, was of various ages, sexes, colors, ethnicities, educational backgrounds, etc. He had been removed from that site maybe 20 times in different identities.

He's pretended to be women, large and small, black and white and tried to be friends with me. He's been all kinds of people. He ruined the Internet for me, forever.

I'll never know who to trust or believe. I scolded a friend of mine for being unkind to a new person, stupid Aspie me. So stupid. It was the same guy again.

People put me on ignore because I'm so stupid. I fall for the tricks every time. I think that is what brings that guy back again and again. I'm so stupid and don't see him as being behind a new person.

Now I'm scared of everyone. One time he sent me several consecutive invitations to be a friend, in different names. I reported to the Terms of Service people and they didn't care. They didn't even look into the names.

Later on, after the names and pictures and profiles were changed, THEN they looked into it.

I didn't know about "trolls" or "alts" until that site. I didn't. Why would anyone want to be someone else? Why would anyone make more than one account?

Every single person will arouse the same suspicion. Certain ways of using language, certain topics. It's not fair that one idiot should be able to make me doubt everyone else in the world. It's not fair. Why would someone do that? I'm afraid of everyone in case they're him.

True, I don't think you should take offence at anything that is said to you in this thread. I would listen to Lupine. Please ask as you did with ZanneMarie. I think "I don't understand," will save you a lot of hurt. This is a safe place.

Send a pm to one of the experts on this thread maybe Serious Girl or Lau or...so that you can contact Alex. He does appear on various threads but in your present state you probably not up to looking,

I don't know who is on line at the moment but I will search for Alex too.

The KFA guy seems to be a kid. There is a thread just like it every week.

Sorry if I don't seem so sympathetic, but I have a pounding headache and wondering WTF has happened to my life....

It won't matter. The only way to get rid of that guy is to get rid of me. I still check the old place, and he's not shown up there since i left.

One of the people from here who is also on the place I left believed him as an Aspie and invited him here. I've had this place bookmarked since last year. But this guy would have just learned of it through the other person. And I do know he checked here, as he made a reference to one of the threads on the front page.

My fault. I don't change my name from place to place. It's variations of the same things. I'm not good at making things up. If I'd just chosen a different name.

This... THIS is a panic attack. And I'm out of anxiety medication.

It might not even be him. It's just the fear is so overwhelming. The morons on the other sites were always a day late and a dollar short on their remedies. They wouldn't listen to me. I gave them all his names, and they did nothing.

This is like the sound of helicopters to another member. Duck and cover and be fearful. That's what any person online does to me now that is remotely similar to the guy that bothered me.

Anyone know of legal remedies? The guy is supposedly an attorney. If it is the guy again, it's gotta stop. I don't want to fear everyone. I just want a nice, peaceful place.

Midgets are cool too

man I have to watch it for striaght lines in here. These guys will pick up on anything and go with it. We just have a lot of fun in here, mostly. get serious now and again, but it's not required reading, there are no grades, no report cards, it's all good.