The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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Your doing great, hang on, hang on

Ok I seriously must get some sleep. Wife is up and you have her email if you need a sounding board, one that can relate a little from his side.

night all, or what ever the hell time it is. Sheeze what a bother time is anyway.

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Serious,

One half hour of anger and that's it. It will damage your heart (the organ that is), so no more. Anger only gets you so far anyway. You're too logical for that so why am I telling you this?

Thanks, postie, Zanne, Prof, Lau and everyone else. As postie intimated, there is more to it than one paragraph. I didn't share the other 5 paragraphs of the Epistle to the Nasty Aspie. There is a serious illness involved, along with depression.

So, thanks guys. But, you are right in that many people will find some of the rants "loony."

there is no need to post it all, it's your busniess, but if you're going to get any kind of real useful response here, you need to drop another hint or two and I'd say what you just did is good to go.

So again, I'll say g'night and again I'll say i don't know if it's day or night anymore. But you do have The Wifes email for a sounding board. rest a little if you can. at least try. lol, telling an aspie to get off a subject, god I crack myself up. The wife just dropped in to tell me to come up for air so, the boss has spoken. Night.

it's like zannemarie says (don't know what 'card cashiers' is, it does sound fun...) : looks like a child i'm 39,5 actually (so i do lack a few months to be honest, can't wait, 40 sounds much cooler, 39 is the most awful number i've ever heard)
thanks for the compliment, i won't bother you that's a promise

thanks prof,
i do start worying about wrinkles and so, i know i havn't really got any profound wrinkles but i can see where they will be, it seems so creepy to have to transform into a monster...(got a terrific picture of that, myself as a real monster, but it's so ugly that it's almost shocking, don't know whether to post it or not)


lau lol(meaning i'm actually under my table laughling out loud )

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yeah, it sometimes is, i do not understand every sentence, but am rather good at guessing (live in an area where people don't speak my mothertongue (dutch) but french, so guessing is a daily issue )
i'm sure i'm guilty of misinterpretation once in a while and also of writing mistakes. (but i think aspies in general do misterprete things quite often so i can say it's the language, just like people excuse me when i'm odd, cause they think it's 'cultural' )

Happy Humboldt hellos from the land of the giant redwoods and mists. I have to get to work. I have my quad client I need to get ready for a week road trip and then put a full day at the market. Maybe go fishing at sunset. I'll get back to this site again. Peace, love and aspiness.

Have a good day, Susie!

Wow, seems like a big back cloud is hanging over this place. We all need to chant OHM or something. It's everywhere actually. Check out my new signature. This is what I got for venturing into a new mature thread and trying to inject some humor, a little skit of sorts. Oh well,
I'll wear it proudly. Time marches on.

"I've got a poison headache but I'll be alright
I'm pledging my time to you
Hoping you'll come through too..."

Love and peace to all.

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I believe I at least tie you as worst person in the world to have the slightest idea what is going on Lau, not only as concerns this problem, but in general. (But I'm not trying to usurp your claim for the title! Ha!)

I've been outside sanding the railings on my deck so that I can put a new coat of outdoor polyurethane on them. I began to notice that my head felt tingly. I thought sunburn? No... hadn't been out long enough for that. Bird flying overhead? Looked up - no birds in sight. The tingly sensation was increasing. Hmmmmm, low blood sugar? Yes, maybe that's it. Can't remember when I last ate. I decide to make myself a sandwich. But first I go to the bathroom, where I look in a mirror, and see about 30 red wasps stinging me all over the top of my head! ha!!

So here I sit, looking like Bart Simpson, with bleeding lumps all over the top of my tingly head, at the very least wishing you well SeriousGirl. I'm sorry that you are going through this aspergating experience right now, and hope it turns out for the best as quickly as possible. Me not offering advice as concerns marriage or relationships (expert that I am) is probably the best thing I can do to help.

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(Having only vague if any pain sensation has its advantages).

Postie: what a wonderful "how we met" story!
Professor: I hope your wife will come to see that even if you get nothing else but camaraderie from this site, that in itself is a valuable thing.
Lau: always good to see you laughing.
Zanne: trying to help others you are feeling the pain all the way into your own heart (and dh's as well). So I ain't convinced you don't have emotions and empathy.

Hi CosmicCat! Again, I'm clueless. Did someone here call you that? I hope not! Here I am Ohmming, hoping that helps.
Er, ,,..and what does it (your signature) mean?

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I finally got the computer back!! And I think I finally caught up on all the conversations. WHEW!!

Serious,
It made me sad to read about dh's blow-up. I think I said before that I don't quite fit the AS diagnosis because I have the emotional intuition. That is why I feel at home here, because everything else about me is not NT. Anyhow, to the point, I had a blow-out on my husband this weekend that ended up with me saying something I shouldn't have said. It came from the frustation of all that is happening in my life and really had very little to do with him or AS. What I said however attacked him personally. I actually said to my best friend in the whole world that it was pretty sad that I was the one who had to take F*****G medication to deal with him. Now, I didn't mean a word of that and I was very quick to apologize but what is said is said. Luckily, my dh knows that I rant when I'm upset and he knows that I have had numerous therapy appointments and teacher conferences and psychiatrist appointments and pediatrician appts. AND my Crohn's colitis is flaring up. It all adds up.
I usually navigate all of the drama quite gracefully but this weekend I had just had enough. Because I can be social and tactful and my stress threshold is higher than his I deal with all of the household junk (bills, landlords, banks, doctors, shopping) and I work 10 hours a day with other parents little children.I also get disillusioned because I am worrying myself to death or feeling sorry for myself and there will never be an emotional reaction from him. I love my husband and children and most of the time I embrace their differences. In fact, I wouldn't change any of them, even with all of the AS and ADD. But, occasionally, the sadness sets in that I can't protect them from the rest of the world and I see how tired they get when they get home from dealing with work and school, and there is nothing I can do to take that away. I can help but I can't make it better. And being a silly human I lash out at the people around me.
Do you think maybe some of that is what your dh goes through? Also, there have been times when I have been reading threads on here and they bring about the same kind of sadness I feel for my own family members or I read an extremely dark message and I feel like I need to shelter my dh and teens from that because I try to make life a positive experience for them and I don't want them to see that some people are so negative about AS. Also, being male your dh probably holds in a lot more of his feelings than he should so that eventually, he will have a blow-out to get rid of all of the pent-up emotional baggage.
I hope things get better with him soon. Feel free to rant at me if you want. I like to listen.

Hi CosmicCat......did that happen in mature thread prt2. I popped in there, you had left a few comical posts. But then someone had rather sternly told you to take a hike. A bit severe, I thought.

Hello folks, forgive me if my posting is a bit intermittent. I am here quite often now, but find the forum moving at a furious pace
I am a bit slow and considered. By the time I've written my post, re-written, edited, then worried about embarrising myself, offending others or being downright vague...the moment has gone. I also bore myself

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People never believe that it can happen to them. I was the same right up until I got married. 28 years of no dates and 3 months of dating followed by a whirlwind marriage (or was it a shotgun wedding ).

SeriousGirl, I am going to step out. Not because I don't care, but because I can see that you are in good hands here with people who actually can be of constructive use to you.

I'll check in now and again to try to provide comic relief. Although I would understand if you don't quite feel like laughing right now, thank you very much Chuck.

Hi blessedmom! Ohmmmmm. Here's wishing you positive energy into your hectic life as well.

Here trying to provide support, in an awkward Aspie old marine type of way.

Join the club - you're definitely not the only one You sound like you're describing me exactly.

In fact, by the time I've finished editing this post, we'll probably be several pages further on