14 Mar 2010, 8:52 pm
14 Mar 2010, 8:58 pm
14 Mar 2010, 9:06 pm
Juliette wrote:
I too learned I was AS in middle-age and I went through something of an identity crisis. There's nothing more counter-productive than a 'poor me' attitude(as my father, also AS can attest to). I'm sorry that you feel you are suffering. In what way, do you suffer? There is always a way forward, maybe it's about choosing the right path. You also need to give yourself time to come to terms with the diagnosis - and have some faith in yourself. You sound very down - I remember being there once, plus with a child newly diagnosed. You can turn it round.
I like your attitude CR
I like your attitude CR
I missed this one amongst the other posts.
Currently I am suffering from the pressure of keeping in employment, assisting my wife with dealing with this and trying to work out what the next step is. I have had other "issues" and due to several misdiagnosis over the last 8 months my brain chemistry has been tampered with to help with conditions I never had.
As you say, it's choosing the right path.
14 Mar 2010, 9:13 pm
14 Mar 2010, 9:28 pm
14 Mar 2010, 9:32 pm
spacecadetdave wrote:
Fidget wrote:
Botti wrote:
spacecadetdave wrote:
My kids are fine, but I suspect my dog is aspergers.
Sorry if some of my posts are on the terse side. I just hate young people. If you haven't got Electric Ladyland on vinyl then you're not a real person.
Sorry if some of my posts are on the terse side. I just hate young people. If you haven't got Electric Ladyland on vinyl then you're not a real person.
Hmm......... I am 53. Diagnosed with atypical autism in childhood. Deaf so I don't own music records.
I don't understand why you are suffering. Or why you want a group. Most autistic people do well in solitary pursuit.
This is the first time I have left the games area, or the getting to know you.
I am really surprised.
Like many aspies, he seems to have a huge superiority complex going on.
spacecadetdave wrote:
middle-aged late diagnosed UK diagnosed Asperger sufferers
Yep, good luck finding that one on Google.
Oh hell... I nearly wet my pants when I read this.
I'll try and explain this one again.
No. I do not feel superior. And the fact that you think Aspergers is a reason for someone to feel superior says more about you than it does about me. OK. Maybe not you, but a lot of people who post here. Personally I see this as a curse, a disability and a serious handicap to my life. This thing in my head has destroyed the lives of anyone who has cared about me over the last 4 decades. It is only recently that "it" has been given a name and I need some advice in several very specific areas.
If you view Aspergers as some sort of elitist club then feel free to do so but do not judge me by your own standards please.
14 Mar 2010, 9:49 pm
14 Mar 2010, 9:56 pm
Fidget wrote:
spacecadetdave wrote:
Fidget wrote:
Botti wrote:
spacecadetdave wrote:
My kids are fine, but I suspect my dog is aspergers.
Sorry if some of my posts are on the terse side. I just hate young people. If you haven't got Electric Ladyland on vinyl then you're not a real person.
Sorry if some of my posts are on the terse side. I just hate young people. If you haven't got Electric Ladyland on vinyl then you're not a real person.
Hmm......... I am 53. Diagnosed with atypical autism in childhood. Deaf so I don't own music records.
I don't understand why you are suffering. Or why you want a group. Most autistic people do well in solitary pursuit.
This is the first time I have left the games area, or the getting to know you.
I am really surprised.
Like many aspies, he seems to have a huge superiority complex going on.
spacecadetdave wrote:
middle-aged late diagnosed UK diagnosed Asperger sufferers
Yep, good luck finding that one on Google.
Oh hell... I nearly wet my pants when I read this.
I'll try and explain this one again.
No. I do not feel superior. And the fact that you think Aspergers is a reason for someone to feel superior says more about you than it does about me. OK. Maybe not you, but a lot of people who post here. Personally I see this as a curse, a disability and a serious handicap to my life. This thing in my head has destroyed the lives of anyone who has cared about me over the last 4 decades. It is only recently that "it" has been given a name and I need some advice in several very specific areas.
If you view Aspergers as some sort of elitist club then feel free to do so but do not judge me by your own standards please.
I've been trumped. I thank you for the smile you have just given me. Please see my new avatar.
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14 Mar 2010, 10:05 pm
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15 Mar 2010, 1:13 am
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15 Mar 2010, 4:25 am
League_Girl wrote:
He sounds like a guy who is suffering low self esteem because he has AS and doesn't want to have it.
Spacecadetdave,
I never wished it on myself. I don't complain about having it because complaining about it won't make it go away. I also have anxiety and learning difficulties and I struggled in school and wouldn't have finished if I never got the help I needed. I don't complain about having that disability because it won't make it go away. I just live with it and not be upset about it. I don't like it but it's part of me so I have to live with it and accept it. I used to moan about having AS and then I stopped complaining because it wasn't doing me any good. I'd rather be happy than focus on my condition and let it ruin my life and worrying about what am I doing is aspie or not. I don't think people with cancer would complain about being sick or people who have diabetes or people in wheelchairs because what good would it do?
Were you unhappy before your DX or were you happy?
Before my DX I was happy and thought I was normal but I just had to try harder to be normal but I knew I was different. I probably knew deep down I had something because I used to say "What's wrong with me" and "I wish I could trade my brain for a normal brain." I said those things when I vent. Then a label was placed on me and I felt like a freak. I didn't think about it much then and then I started to think about it a lot in my teens and I was unhappy I had it and felt everything I did was AS. Then I asked myself was I happy before I got diagnosed and I said yes so I decided to go back to being happy and just be myself than trying to not be AS by thinking "Would a normal person do this?" "Would an aspie do this?" I felt I couldn't be myself when I did that. I also started to notice aspie symptoms in other kids and I felt normal. The more positive I thought, the more normal I felt. Now it feels like I don't have it and I am not that much effected but then I sometimes realize I do have it when a situation happens. My husband tells me I have it everyday and show it all the time because he lives with me. I am also laid back.
PS people in their twenties who are diagnosed also had a life experience but they just lived less than you. Same goes for kids too who also get diagnosed but they just have a less life experience. But I don't think it be fair to think their diagnoses isn't valid and their DX isn't good enough just because they weren't born in the 70's or under. That's superior behavior and people are going to think you are being superior when you act that way.
If you need support and advice, don't go questioning anyone's diagnoses here or you get taken less seriously.
And people who self diagnose, they don't want to have it either, it just explains everything, their struggles and difficulties but I do agree there are people who think they have it when they don't because they either have social anxiety or they are just quirky or they are just shy or they are introverted or they have a few traits so they think they do. I don't take the self diagnoses seriously either but sometimes it's obvious they have it just by the things they say about themselves.
I honestly don't know if it's being over diagnosed but it was diagnosed less in the 90's it seems like. Now it seems like it got diagnosed more in the 2000's. Some people believe it's a fad so I say I was diagnosed with it before it became a fad just so they take my diagnoses seriously.
Spacecadetdave,
I never wished it on myself. I don't complain about having it because complaining about it won't make it go away. I also have anxiety and learning difficulties and I struggled in school and wouldn't have finished if I never got the help I needed. I don't complain about having that disability because it won't make it go away. I just live with it and not be upset about it. I don't like it but it's part of me so I have to live with it and accept it. I used to moan about having AS and then I stopped complaining because it wasn't doing me any good. I'd rather be happy than focus on my condition and let it ruin my life and worrying about what am I doing is aspie or not. I don't think people with cancer would complain about being sick or people who have diabetes or people in wheelchairs because what good would it do?
Were you unhappy before your DX or were you happy?
Before my DX I was happy and thought I was normal but I just had to try harder to be normal but I knew I was different. I probably knew deep down I had something because I used to say "What's wrong with me" and "I wish I could trade my brain for a normal brain." I said those things when I vent. Then a label was placed on me and I felt like a freak. I didn't think about it much then and then I started to think about it a lot in my teens and I was unhappy I had it and felt everything I did was AS. Then I asked myself was I happy before I got diagnosed and I said yes so I decided to go back to being happy and just be myself than trying to not be AS by thinking "Would a normal person do this?" "Would an aspie do this?" I felt I couldn't be myself when I did that. I also started to notice aspie symptoms in other kids and I felt normal. The more positive I thought, the more normal I felt. Now it feels like I don't have it and I am not that much effected but then I sometimes realize I do have it when a situation happens. My husband tells me I have it everyday and show it all the time because he lives with me. I am also laid back.
PS people in their twenties who are diagnosed also had a life experience but they just lived less than you. Same goes for kids too who also get diagnosed but they just have a less life experience. But I don't think it be fair to think their diagnoses isn't valid and their DX isn't good enough just because they weren't born in the 70's or under. That's superior behavior and people are going to think you are being superior when you act that way.
If you need support and advice, don't go questioning anyone's diagnoses here or you get taken less seriously.
And people who self diagnose, they don't want to have it either, it just explains everything, their struggles and difficulties but I do agree there are people who think they have it when they don't because they either have social anxiety or they are just quirky or they are just shy or they are introverted or they have a few traits so they think they do. I don't take the self diagnoses seriously either but sometimes it's obvious they have it just by the things they say about themselves.
I honestly don't know if it's being over diagnosed but it was diagnosed less in the 90's it seems like. Now it seems like it got diagnosed more in the 2000's. Some people believe it's a fad so I say I was diagnosed with it before it became a fad just so they take my diagnoses seriously.
As i've said elsewhere.... beyond anger and frustration I'm not feeling anything much. Maybe a sense of relief.
I think you're right about some people just looking for an explanation. Everyone at some point looks for a reason as to why they are what they are. Perhaps in the last decade the act of googling basic feelings of social inadequacy points people to AS. And everyone on the planet has an AS trait. I can see why the subject would be thought about and an "Is this me?" train of thought begin.
But please don;t expect me to like young people. That wouldn;t work. But draw comfort from the fact that usually I just want them to go away. This is progress. I no longer advocate hunting them with dogs.
15 Mar 2010, 10:54 am
spacecadetdave wrote:
Fidget wrote:
spacecadetdave wrote:
Fidget wrote:
Botti wrote:
spacecadetdave wrote:
My kids are fine, but I suspect my dog is aspergers.
Sorry if some of my posts are on the terse side. I just hate young people. If you haven't got Electric Ladyland on vinyl then you're not a real person.
Sorry if some of my posts are on the terse side. I just hate young people. If you haven't got Electric Ladyland on vinyl then you're not a real person.
Hmm......... I am 53. Diagnosed with atypical autism in childhood. Deaf so I don't own music records.
I don't understand why you are suffering. Or why you want a group. Most autistic people do well in solitary pursuit.
This is the first time I have left the games area, or the getting to know you.
I am really surprised.
Like many aspies, he seems to have a huge superiority complex going on.
spacecadetdave wrote:
middle-aged late diagnosed UK diagnosed Asperger sufferers
Yep, good luck finding that one on Google.
Oh hell... I nearly wet my pants when I read this.
I'll try and explain this one again.
No. I do not feel superior. And the fact that you think Aspergers is a reason for someone to feel superior says more about you than it does about me. OK. Maybe not you, but a lot of people who post here. Personally I see this as a curse, a disability and a serious handicap to my life. This thing in my head has destroyed the lives of anyone who has cared about me over the last 4 decades. It is only recently that "it" has been given a name and I need some advice in several very specific areas.
If you view Aspergers as some sort of elitist club then feel free to do so but do not judge me by your own standards please.
I've been trumped. I thank you for the smile you have just given me. Please see my new avatar.
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