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03 Apr 2016, 10:50 am

I didn't want kids until I met someone I loved and suddenly the idea of having kids with them was beautiful. Of course he didn't want kids and still didn't. Then I ended up having an abortion because we were being stupid (I thought I was barren) because even though I wanted to keep it I knew full-well that I -cannot- raise a child alone (I honestly think the government would take it or my sister would have to raise it or something), and it is not right of me to make someone (my bf) raise a child they weren't expecting. We're now split up, he's got his vasectomy, and I do not think I will want kids again. Of course I don't think I will fall in love again either. I had an opportunity with the abortion to get my tubes tied. I didn't take it.

On the other hand, as a woman, it is SUPER nice for men to take their own reproduction into their own hands, granted this is a permanent method of it. I do not react well to hormonal birth control, never have, I don't relish the idea of having an IUD stuck up there (and they're all hormonal these days too), and I seem to have a latex allergy so only like, 1 brand of condoms is good for me. And let's face it, condoms aren't sexy.


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04 Apr 2016, 5:58 pm

missykrissy wrote:
i'm not a guy but i know in canada they don't let you get a vasectomy if you don't already have kids. you may also want to consider your future partner and the fact that you may want kids later on. no kids is a dealbreaker for a lot of women looking for serious relationships. in my observation men don't really start wanting kids until they are a bit older, more mature and stable which is probably not a stage you have reached yet at your age. not trying to tell you not to do it, just throwing a woman's perspective out there for you.

oh, one more thing.. most people don't really want kids or the responsibility until they have them and then they can't imagine not having them.

I know that this is an old thread that someone else revived but I don't see any rules regarding vasectomies, at least in my province(Ontario) which would require you to have kids first before being eligible.