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08 Mar 2011, 9:49 am

I think this conversation belongs under "Adult Autism Issues".

Admittedly, the name of that forum is a bit vague, and sounds very similar in meaning to this one. However, if you read the description and check out some of the posts there, I think you'll see what I mean.

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13 Mar 2011, 12:51 pm

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On one hand, I felt like helicopter came in and pulled a giant monkey off my back. On the other hand, it was a weird combination of an immense drug-like high and a disappointing "that was it?" feelings. It was exactly what sex it when you looked at it the way an alien scientist would: getting messy from touching and kissing on every part of the body, followed by intercourse and a quick cuddle afterwards. It was wonderful beyond belief to have done, but nothing that special to do. (If English is not your first language, the concept in the last sentence may be hard to explain.)

If you're past 30, and you're a virgin, the previous paragraph may not make sense to you. If you must, get sexual experience through any way you have available to you, whether through lowering your standards or something less legal. But you'll find out that it's more "meh" than "wow".

I'm seconding this.

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13 Mar 2011, 3:06 pm

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Yeah, sex is nice but it really is overrated.

Ask a married man if he would rather have sex with his wife or watch the Superbowl.
Ask a married woman would she rather have sex with her husband or go on the Oprah show.

But that cute redhead over there.... Perhaps sex with her would somehow be better.

Unless someone is hormonally imbalanced, sex is a need humans physiologically crave. It's almost like craving food, and I suppose food can be stated as overrated. Whereas the lack of food causes us to physically perish, how does the lack of sex affect the mental psyche of the men on this forum?

In the same sense as food, a person may take sex for granted if they are receiving a steady supply from a girlfriend/wife.

Wombat, I agree with you that the happiest time of my life was probably when I didn't worry about sex. After a sexual encounter the craving always comes back sooner than I would like. How distracting.

I've tried to rationalize the disturbance of sexual cravings by telling myself, "How would life be like, if I didn't crave the taste of food."

I'd say sex and food are overrated.

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13 Mar 2011, 3:07 pm

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As long as no one starts describing sex acts in graphic detail, I think we're cool.

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13 Mar 2011, 5:38 pm

I would say that neither sex nor food is overrated as long as one has a good cook in the kitchen.

Anyone who's had a strip of raw fresh wild salmon laid over a ball of perfectly cooked sushi rice with a slight dab of wasabi, dipped into a dish of soy sauce, knows food is not overrated.

Without giving details, there's a likelihood that sex would not be overrated either.

Then again, some people aren't a big fan of sex or food or sex and food. And some of us are. But there's really no way to draw a clear definition that would fit every aspie/autie on the subject. We are very diverse in how we process sensory information and it's a fine line between bliss and meltdown.

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14 Mar 2011, 6:07 pm

Orgasms are great it is just getting there that can be weird.

First the meeting someone you desire more than just aesthetically, then the interactive minefield when you don't know what's going on half the time [or if there are power games going on], then any intimacy issues [I'm not huge on kissing or eye contact]. If all this can be passed through smoothly then sex is fun, but so is a good book or my favourite music... what can I say, masturbation has it's pluses?

peace j

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15 Mar 2011, 9:02 am

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I can't afford to eat fresh wild salmon, nor is my life brimming over with the equivalent quality of sex, never mind quantity.

A cook can't do jack without quality ingredients. Except maybe sling a bunch of msg on it.

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15 Mar 2011, 9:05 am

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I can't afford to eat fresh wild salmon, nor is my life brimming over with the equivalent quality of sex, never mind quantity.

say it loud and proud, brother!

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15 Mar 2011, 9:08 am

auntblabby wrote:

Moog wrote:

I can't afford to eat fresh wild salmon, nor is my life brimming over with the equivalent quality of sex, never mind quantity.

say it loud and proud, brother!

I'm not proud, just a little teed off when someone comes along extolling the fabulousness of something that's beyond my reach.

Let them eat cake.

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15 Mar 2011, 9:16 am

Moog wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

Moog wrote:

I can't afford to eat fresh wild salmon, nor is my life brimming over with the equivalent quality of sex, never mind quantity.

say it loud and proud, brother!

I'm not proud, just a little teed off when someone comes along extolling the fabulousness of something that's beyond my reach.

Let them eat cake.

i wish i could wave a magic wand and make you feel better, or at least to give you the power to get what you want, for better or worse.

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15 Mar 2011, 11:06 am

Moog wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

Moog wrote:

I can't afford to eat fresh wild salmon, nor is my life brimming over with the equivalent quality of sex, never mind quantity.

say it loud and proud, brother!

I'm not proud, just a little teed off when someone comes along extolling the fabulousness of something that's beyond my reach.

Let them eat cake.

Defensive much? Yeah, it's fabulous. Its availability to you or anyone else does not influence that fact in this discussion.

ETA: And if you were to ever meet up with me, I'd happily invest $10 to provide you with the optimal salmon sushi experience because I think it's worth it to do once for someone, even though it's not complimentary to my budget. Can't help you with the other. But, honestly, your specific situation wasn't the point of the OP or my comment. I was responding more to the people who kept repeating that it's all "overrated". It aint overrated.

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15 Mar 2011, 12:52 pm

wefunction wrote:

Moog wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

Moog wrote:

I can't afford to eat fresh wild salmon, nor is my life brimming over with the equivalent quality of sex, never mind quantity.

say it loud and proud, brother!

I'm not proud, just a little teed off when someone comes along extolling the fabulousness of something that's beyond my reach.

Let them eat cake.

I'm sorry you do not like my thoughts and feelings in regard to your post. I did take your post as being in response to mine, along with those who share my opinion.

If your opinion is that it's not overrated, then that is fine. It doesn't change my opinion.

I feel it's misplaced of you to attempt to override our opinions with your objective assertion. I do not know what your motivation is. It seemed rather insensitive from my perspective.

But thank you for the offer. What does ETA mean in this context?

And thanks auntie.

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15 Mar 2011, 5:51 pm

ETA = Edited to Add.

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15 Mar 2011, 9:40 pm

For me, it has varied from painful to fantastic.
Even the most fantastic times have been outdone by other experiences.

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20 Mar 2011, 7:36 pm

i think sex is good but its short and it takes too much effort for me to go to the trouble of finding and getting to know a girl.

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21 Mar 2011, 3:28 am

Once upon a time, I used to think sex was "meh" as someone put it...

It wasn't until I was 27 or so that I actually had enjoyable sex... (sorry, ex-hubby) ... Once I found someone who knew how to push my buttons the right way and in the right order, I was hooked

Now, at a ripe old age of 34, I love sex. I would love to have good sex every single day. Unfortunately, that would mean a relationship which I am terrible at...

So I do without

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