Somes traitor amongs us

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I remark that somes aspies that act like normal peoples. How they can deny our aspie nature? Social thing is not for aspie i'm sorry we hate all that. Dating,girlfriend,friends an social life is not what we prefer. How somes of us can enjoy theses things? They are traitors or fake aspies that sure. Like an undercover agent. I think i loss my sanity little by little consumed by hate and solitude. Or Maybe i'm right that somes aspie are pseudo aspie

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I have to wonder how people can always tell its an old thread, when it shows up on the first page as what looks like a recent thread being on the first page near the top. And why its assumed this should be common knowledge.....always makes me feel like I'm missing something.

I have to wonder how people can always tell its an old thread, when it shows up on the first page as what looks like a recent thread being on the first page near the top. And why its assumed this should be common knowledge.....always makes me feel like I'm missing something.

Actually, I do find this to be unfortunately true. I get a lot of funny remarks because I am well composed, know what to say and what mannerisms to use (in fact I've become so adjusted to being in certain social situations I naturally do them). I make some NT's look down on me, and scare off some aspies.

What I find is the common problem, which is clearly experience by the OP, is people wallow in self pity and go "ohhh waa people with Asperger's can only be like me else they are fake and don't understand what it's like and they make me so mad cos they are doing so much better than me". And it's not their fault, our condition seems to have this effect on us where so much of the time we don't realise our subconscious is taking control of our conscious decisions.

I would have had say the same problems the OP has when I was 12-15 years old. I had the benefit (or displeasure, whatever) of being chucked into social situations and personal development constantly cos of the pressure-filled city life. I made countless embarrassing mistakes that many of the people make here, only I made them earlier on and am only now just coming to terms with what the hell I used to do. I am using this experience to try and help people think more positive about situations that aren't as bad as they seem, and to make moves on the board that work out better for them.

Another thing I see a lot of is this - if we aren't experiencing the same problems as some other aspies at the same time the person is venting we "don't know what it's like". They become extremely defensive, defend a meagre point for the sake of their ego then instantly contradict it. I find this very saddening, and hope they realise not everyone goes to advice sections just to vent (I mean, if they did, who would be giving the advice?).

All in all, I am just venting here, but the message is still the same - one aspie can be entirely different from another aspie. Varying levels of confidence, experience, knowledge, IQ, interests, social life and other things. Our Asperger's isn't what everyone else's Asperger's is like. And we should listen to one another more often (if and where we can). We aren't traitors to each other. At times we might be allies on different sides of a battlefield, but we are all in the same boat.

-JM.

There are many individual differences between aspies. Some aspies are more open to social contacts than others and there are aspies who have become quite skilled when it comes to social interactions.

I am like you. My need for social contacts is below average. I suck in social situations and I like to live like a hermit. I don't answer the phone when I don't want to, I don't answer the doorbell when I don't feel like it and I'm happiest when I am on my own in my appartment. Most people don't understand that at all but that is their problem. f**k them!

I have to wonder how people can always tell its an old thread, when it shows up on the first page as what looks like a recent thread being on the first page near the top. And why its assumed this should be common knowledge.....always makes me feel like I'm missing something.

Yeah, there is a lot of thread bumping around here. Always look at the dates. I once saw a 4-year-old thread get bumped! Some forums really don't like that. This one seems to be lax about it.

This might be an old thread but so what! What's wrong with old threads?