Senath wrote:
. . . The apartment situation is a little complex because it's actually an apartment building-turned-condo that's owned by my fiance's father, who is renting it to us at a discount. Even with the discount, we can't afford it on our own. It doesn't help that the cost of living where I am is awful. . .
This gives you an Ace. Now, your fiance's father may want to be scrupulously neutral and/or not get involved, so don't overplay the ace. But at the very least it probably gives you the perception of an ace.
What I learned from my participation in political activism is that slightly understating something is the coin of the realm. And this dovetails in nicely with what Moonpenny says about not making a decision when angry.
So maybe, either you or your fiance telling his father something like this, 'Yes, they moved in two cats without talking to us, asking us, saying one word. I mean, what it is, is what it is. Yes, combined with the previous stuff, it is beginning to be a problem.'
The goal is to let the father have the time he needs to wrap his mind around the idea, yes, this is an ongoing, problem-filled situation.
And maybe, 'Not so much that she left the medication out, which could happen to anyone. But the fact that she seemingly was so blithely unconcerned after the fact. And then she threw away the package while I still needed it, I guess to try and cover up her mistake. And that's not so cool at all.'