Young, Attractive & 'Society'.. with Crippling ASD??

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I am a large, physically masculine man.

When I was ~ 10 I would be approached by effeminate men in grocery stores etc.
When I was around 12-13 I would be riding along with my mother and have large groups of girls scream at me like I was one of the Beatles or something.
When I was 15-20 I would be constantly pursued by cougars including teachers in hs.
At 16 I could buy hard liquor without an ID.
In college I heard from 100 or more girls that I have the prettiest eyes they've ever seen. This can be confirmed by my mother who put eye-liner on me when I was extremely young and me allowing every gf to put it on me for fun at some point in my life.
Also in college, it would be common for me to be physically groped walking across a house party to the other side.
In adulthood, the same thing. I couldn't go to a club without having 5 hands on my ass as I walked to the bathroom.
Also, many many other awkward experiences.
Pretty much every sexual experience in my life I was the prey. That doesn't mean that once I was in a relationship I wasn't a heavy instigator. I'm a human jackhammer. It just means I never really had to ever pursue women.
Now I'm older and my looks are fading.

it sounds great, and I'm certain its an easier life. However, there is a great amount of social pressure put on men like me. I've never had my iq tested but I'm sure its through the roof. The problem is I'm no george clooney. Socially its like I'm wearing moon boots. My suggestion to boys in the same situation is to work much harder at social skills while you're young.
So easy to say....
Anyway, I could have had just about anyone and I have regrets. After explaining my situation I have to admit I've had 3 women sexually in my life. Most of my friends have questioned me on my lack of ability because I should be pulling them in like a drag-net. I find women uncontrollably attractive and at the same time its like a Japanese chef is using two knives on my brain at the same time. Womens brains don't work correctly.
Also, my friends are all highly successful people and I measure their ability in sexing women as such:
A+ is in the strip club
A in the strip club parking lot
B dating a stripper
I realize that is extremely superficial and possibly inappropriate, but my friends have all been with literally 100s of women. Women adore them, even fight over them and of course I'm viewed as weird even tho I'm the nice guy who never hurt anyone. No arguments from me. Men of their status don't have unhappy endings like some people might believe(karma). Every single one is extremely happily married to very attractive women, has kids now, good jobs, yada yada yada. Practice makes perfect.

If you're seriously worried you might miss out, I would recommend looking into pickup artist stuff. I'm sure it works, it seems like every time I thought some hot chick named Kristen was named Liz, she liked me more. Good thing I'm awful with names.
Anyway, sorry to sound like a total pompous ass. I'm really just an extremely introverted 'normal' guy.

I was figuring just work on looking like Dimitry Klokov, and all my problems in life would be solved. Seriously, getting better looking made my life much easier. Went from 230lbs to 180, to a more muscular 190s after. That and I started wearing preppier clothes and like...showering and shaving everyday.

I'm f*****g atrocious with girls, though. When I was in high school, these two girls grabbed my butt, and I thought they were making fun of me. So I yelled at them. I didn't know that means "I wanna bone you."

I'm on the spectrum, officially diagnosed, but have never had any real problems socializing with neurotypicals. No one has ever, over the course of my life (besides my doctor), suspected I'm anything but "normal." I can easily get along with almost every person I meet, make great impressions on people, am offered jobs I don't even need, and have people happy to see me really everywhere I go. From that experience being successful with people, I can tell you no one likes being looked down on...no one. It doesn't matter if they're neurotypical or on the spectrum. You are referring to these people as "ugly" and "underclass" and, especially neurotypicals, can feel this when you look at them. You don't have to say anything. They will know if you're judging them and they'll hate it and not want to be around you. People on the spectrum may not notice right away, but when they do, they won't want to be with you either. It's not about what these people want, it's about what they don't want and that's "to be judged." How do you know if their lives are "unsuccessful"? -- if they're happy with them, they're succeding with what they want to accomplish. How exactly are they "unimportant"? -- If they have people who love them and need them like family or friends, then they are important to someone. You think that the problem you're having is important? -- they think their problems are important, too. You think your life is important? -- they think their lives are important too. You have to have respect for people, try to see where they are coming from, and stop judging them, otherwise you will continue to have many, many problems with attracting people because, no matter what you look like, no matter how rich your family is, or how much class you think you have, there is nothing classy, attractive, or desirable about someone who judges you, looks down on you, or makes you feel like you're not important. Keep this in mind the next time you're speaking with anyone and you may find that they respond a lot better to you.

I have read the whole thread and not surprisingly I felt very identified. Do not see the need to reiterate.

I also agree on the comments talking of the pursuance of spiritual growth and the shedding of the impermanent aspects of life.

All I can say is that I cannot wait until we can transfer our concious into soulless machines where we can roam freely in virtual worlds. Here is hoping I manage to stay as healthy as possible and amount the necessary money for long term cryogenic freezing until the method is perfected.

Can you believe I had actually already made my mind about this before character name "Sheldon Lee Cooper" from The Big Bang Theory said it. [Rhetoric Q.]