MrsPeel wrote:
Yeah. Somehow you've got to break out of this negative spiral.
Girls will pick up on how you value yourself, it will leak out in the way you move and speak around them.
I don't know much about this, but I'm wondering if practicing positivity and self-confidence in the way you act and speak could help, even if that's not the way you're feeling inside. What I mean is, it might feel a bit uncomfortable, like you're pretending to be someone you're not, but it might generate more positive reactions in the people around you. And that in turn might improve your self-esteem and help break the cycle of negativity.
There may be some kind of classes that would help, like those life-coaching type things. It might mean dealing with those over-enthusiastic in-your-face NT types, but the idea would be to ignore their advice on how you ought to be feeling (which will almost certainly not be right for you) and just study and learn from their behaviour.
Just my suggestion, anyway.
The hard thing for me is how can I feel positive and hopeful when I've had so many disappointments and discouraging events happen many times over for the last eleven years of my life?
I've had life coaching but the social world of the Bible Belt is a really sick place. It's mostly based on how much of a drunk redneck or aggressive ghetto thug or fanatical hyper religious moron or general bad boy you can be. Even my step father who calls himself a Christian has no problem being sexist or racist when something prompts him to say those sorts of things. He's also friends with Ted Nugent and another guitarist named Calvin Ross who played an impromptu song for us where he called himself a "bigger b***h" than his ex-wife.
15 Dec 2017, 11:16 am
Women don't even want to look at me when I am around. They just want me to go away. 
