Question for adult men 40 and up.

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Its not just the shape of women in thier bloom that make them atractive to men of all ages, (ie, I fancy the same women I do in my late 40s, as I did when I was 10.

No, its more than that, women in thier 20s smile, they find delight in simple things as if everythings fun and new, they make you feel like everythings fun, thier faces shine like the sun.

Whilst some older women have retained these qualities and are therefore still atractive, and therefore spoken for, women seem to change in thier 30s to miserable, staightlaced complainers that do not endear them to men at all who would rather sit alone on the corner of the roof than to hear thier constant nagging.

Men tend to stay the same, ie boys at heart who like to be happy, women seem to change into an entirely differant and negative life form at a certain age allways looking for the bad.

rbv

I'm over 50, and married (I think my wife was desperate). When I was young, 20+ I was attracted to older women and still am. The maturity brings understanding. Maybe you should get your friend to meet some older women.

Honestly? I am in my middle 40s and would not have an issue having a physical relationship with a 19 or 20 year old. Is it exploitation? In my book no because at 18, 19 or 20 it becomes a matter between two consenting adults. Now what others might think about this could very well be a different matter but that is their problem not mine.

Women exhibit primary sexual triggers to their greatest natural extent from roughly age 16 to 24. Inevitably this will attract attention on some level from any male still capable of breeding.
At a knee-jerk level, women in that range can't help but be attractive. The difficulty is that many guys also think at a knee-jerk level til age 65.
Intellectually it is possible to say that a much younger woman is not attractive for reasons of personality/maturity, but that is easier to understand at an intuitive level in conversation than it is looking from a distance or at a photo. In conversation they tend to evoke the response of wanting to shelter them like kids rather than date them.

Mens' perception of the issue is also often clouded by the tendency of many women to attempt to remain young-looking - in effect making a reinforcing statement that this is what men should always want.

What may be more relevant is the question of whether a man wants (more/any) kids - if yes, then a younger woman makes a lot of sense.

If the relationship is about having a companion in a time of life when no kids are wanted - then it is arguably irresponsible for a man to look for a woman who wants kids at all, or is at an age when she hasn't decided because time remains.

This may sound stereotypical, but men can't have kids, so its a big factor.

I find that my attraction for a woman is directly proportional to the amount of times she says "like" in a sentence. If she says "like" over three times, I am not attracted at all. If zero, than I may be attracted, as I am like too old.

That being said, I feel that chemistry is most important, and if you mix old chemicals with young chemicals it can be quite volatile. However, like now I can't do any mixing at all as I am happily married.

I wrote the above reply after attending a party last night. I still am trying to figure out what I meant to say?

I may not be an Aspie, but with NLD I'm either an Aspie or I'm as close as you can get.

This is a touchy subject. In typical NLD fashion I will attack it with a lot of words.

First of all, I'm going to say exactly what I think. Some who have posted earlier seem to be saying what they think the readers want to hear. I may be wrong, but it sure sounded that way.

For the most part, both men and women are attracted by the beauty of youth in the opposite sex.....no doubt. It's just that a lot of people are afraid of what other people would think, or are governed by their arbitrary and conventional idea of what is appropriate......thus they tend to pursue partners more toward their own age group.

I went back into the dating game at age 40 (my wife finally left after years of being confused and unhappy with my Aspieness and lack of macho behavior).

I don't blame her. A lot of women can't relate to a man who is indecisive, intellectual and honest about his shortcomings, his flaws, his considerable fear, confusion and weakness. Plus I often and inexplicably got lost when driving, even when I DID ask for directions. (I even sound awful to me.) All of this bothered her. Like I said.....I don't blame her.

However, I met a few women that seemed to appreciate honesty and an absence of false bravado. So, at age 40, I dated women from 22 to maybe 45. Usually, I found the younger ones more attractive. I think that's par for the course. By the age of 35-40, many women have had experiences with men that have embittered them. Angry women are not attractive. After hitting 35-40, it seems that a fair number of women don't take care of themselves, gain a lot of weight, and sort of choose to be unattractive.

So, in my experience anyway, the older the woman, the more likely there would be problems of one kind or another (not to blame them, it's just the way life works). I did learn a lot about the problems that single women face, especially those with children. My hat is off to them. It's far easier to be a man.

So, at age 40, I got seriously involved with woman of 26 (didn't work out well) had a best friend of 29 (who never worked out as a romantic relationship and is still a good friend). And.....finally, after four years, married a woman of 29 who I stayed with for a tumultuous ten years.

Surprisingly, the substantial age difference was not a problem. She was a youngest child who had a brother and sister who were much older and she also had a great relationship with her dad and his friends, so she had been around older people a lot and knew all the songs and t.v. shows and books that I did.

But, she was possessive, there were stepchildren with severe problems, she still had some feelings for the alcoholic ex-husband, and there was a certain lack of respect for me even though I believe she loved me in her own way.

So, that ended after ten years (quite amicably, actually). It had nothing to do with her age. I soon married a woman three years younger than me who is, what can I say? Perfect (for me).

But, it's not because she's my age. I would have pursued her at any age. She can still wear her prom dress that she's saved all these years. She has a lovely heart and a lovely exterior. She had a bad marriage and is absolutely devoid of anger and bitterness. She's athletic in a pleasant and non-obsessive way and we walk and work out together almost every day.

So.......finally.....I'll tell you that age doesn't seem to make a difference. It's the person that makes the difference....and one should seek true romance wherever it may be found.

i'm gussing that if age wasn't i big deal then why don't people but there age down on there profiles???? i wouldn't dream of dating a guy in his 20s (not that one would have me!!) that would be like dating my son, what would we talk about? the simsons? but i guess there are lots of young guys on here that talk about thing far about there age and you'd never guess that they were 20 something-HELL 17 and never had a date!. the thing that realy sucks is the sex thing, God was realy was playing dirty pool there, i think that you guys go for younger woman because by the time your over 40 all you can handle is a 20 year old baby that dosen't know what she want and needs yet! but who knows...