Is this a good idea for a middle-aged Aspie?

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As I recall, what initiated the fly on the wall was my hypothetical post about the betrayal MKDP was having with her doctor terminating her medical care with him to punish her because he was her best friend as well as the love of her life. If you regard my perspective on that as "buzzing around your head," perhaps you are her doctor -- subject of my hypothetical ?

Peace.

Sad to see that this off-topic, unacceptable kind of remarks gets special moderator support. I'd like to once again ask kindly to take the issue somewhere else.

Go for it! It sounds like a good idea to me.

We have to do what we have to do. If you can make the system work for you then go for it!

DurbanNatal/MDKP,

I am not MDKP's doctor. I apologize sincerely if I offended you or her. That was definitely not my intent. I was trying to help her since she seemed very upset. But unfortunately I didn't succeed at that.

In respect for Greentea, can we turn the thread back to the topic of his post? I am just here to learn from and share with other middle-aged folks with AS who have managed to make it this far along the journey despite the lack of knowledge and resources to assist us when we were younger. To me the fact that we are here and going strong in spite of our challenges is a testament to our strength of character. Who wouldn't want to get to know such a group better?

Greentea, I still like your idea. I have always wanted to sell my business (working on that) to write full time about varied topics, from fiction to nonfiction. With my recent diagnosis, I finally understand where my father's love for writing came from, why he passed it on to me, and why I recently passed it on to my son (with much help from my wife). It just might have the same soothing/therapeutic effect for you.

I also like the idea of a smaller, more remote community for solitude. While I enjoy the company of my immediate family all the time, with regard to people outside of the family, socialization can become overwhelming at times.

A move to a less expensive place is also appealing as it might remove many of the stresses associated with large bills I have to pay.

I don't know about the disability-related issues. I've never looked into that in any way. So, unfortunately I can't offer much there.

Lastly, internet businesses... Isn't it great that there is a way to monetize your ideas globally via such a medium? I'd be happy to help in any way that I can if you go down that path. Entrepreneurship is a special interest of mine and, if you ever want a second or third opinion on something related to a business idea, I'd be glad to assist (for free). (I emphasize, "for free," because I think we can all help one another in some way or another, and if I can help someone here, I am happy to do so.)

Best to all,

I shall consolidate a return to thread topic by posting...

You Know my views, Greentea. I shall repeat them:

1. A dx first.
2. Apply to get social security.
3. try to buy somewhere small in a poor area. (i live in a poor area - a country town.best thing i ever did.)
4. focus on special interests and enjoy doing this.

Goodness knows you have had a hard journey and I hope you can have some happiness in the second half of your life.
At the end of the day, when you have AS, what else can you seek? special interests are the key to this. I am a devotee of the "leave the real world behind and be a hermit if you can, and engage in the world only through special interests, so you no longer have to associate or interact with others to whom you make no sense" school.

Life is still not easy but it is better.

Amen to that, millie. I really hope it works! And thank you everyone so much for the support!!

Yes! Now we are talking! I have absolutely found the same thing. The ability to pursue your special interests is the key to happiness for an aspy. And it's the key to being able to successfully interact with the world and other people around you. Unfortunately it took over 40 years for me to figure this out.

What is ironic now is that people I meet think I am some really outgoing, Type-A sort of person when I'm not. But, since I generally choose to spend most of my time with people who share similar interests, I can fit right in very easily whether they are AS, NT, or any other neuro-persuasion. I even did that with work, by forming a business around my special interst. It sure makes talking to clients and co-workers a whole lot easier and actually fun...

please hear this, greentea.

you are TRULY cared about here. by very many.

EXACTLY.

Thank you, millie. That does give me strengths!

Israel sounds like a really awful place to live. I've had Jews in America tell me that they'd never move to Israel. Too expensive, and pay is too little. In addition, Iran is about to nuke it. If I were you, I'd be looking to get out. Do you have relatives in the US who would be willing to let you immigrate? Could you get some sort of artist's visa? A condo is horrible for an aspie. You could buy a plane ticket to Canada or somewhere, get off to change planes at JFK, and just disappear. That's what several of the 9-11 hijackers did to get in. Immigration is so overloaded that nobody would notice. Squat in a union tenement in San Francisco, that way you wouldn't have to pay rent. If I was rich I would sponsor you, and get you signed up for SSI here in the states. You really need to leave Israel.

it's obvious you haven't squatted in an abandoned building if you recommend it to others. I have lived in the States for all my life and BECAUSE I have had a job history I can't get SSI. If a life long born citizen can't get assistance, how is an un sponsored immigrant? San Francisco is soo expensive even if you are living on the streets. Goodness, I don't think you have researched your answer carefully pezar.

except if you don't like it you may be trapped and not able to resell (at least not easily). I would look at an alternative of investing your money and renting a low-level 1-room dwelling (if holding an investment doesn't disqualify you from social security).

That would give you more flexibility.

Greentea, I wish you well in pursuing your dream!

Thank you, elancee and welcome to WP!

Now I have a new idea: my father wants me very much to move in with him so we can share the rent and expenses and feel less alone in the house. That way I could minimize my expenses and maybe take a part time job. This would be for a couple of years until he has to go to a home for elderly people and I (hopefully) will have a diagnosis and by then start getting social benefits. I already lived with him and my mother a few years ago and it was wonderful for me, so I think it may be a good idea, but I'm still mulling it, so any comments will be appreciated... He has a live-in nurse-maid.

Thanks for the welcome!

Living with your dad sounds ideal in the context of your long range goals. If you can live together peacefully, I'd go for it.

(Btw, I adore your sig: don't just tell me I'm wrong, prove it!)