The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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I really don't know much about American politics but I'm sure it's probably not much different than Canadian. Politicians are all the same. If my children came home and told me that they wanted to be politicians or lawyers I would be very unhappy. I would take, "Mom, I'm gay." far better than "Mom, I want to be a politician."

I just discovered last night while perusing another forum that there is at least one WP member who was a regular at the cafe who refuses to check out the new forum.

I was surprised - I assumed all of us felt it would be good to have this place. I know I have really crappy theory of mind which would explain the previous assumption.

Anyway, just thought some of you might be wondering where some missing people might be (or not be).

I guess it's true that you can't make all the people happy all the time. I need to stop trying.

Hi, aylissa It is rather unfortunate that the one member is angry about the switch. I guess he doesn't like change.
ZanneMarie is in Hawaii visiting. Seriousgirl pops in and out. There are a few new faces here and a lot of the oldies are at the Dino Aspie Ex-Cafe in the Get To Know Each Other forum. I just drift back and forth.

Zanne is in Hawaii and didn't tell me! Oh well, she's probably on a different island than me anyway.

I forgot that you live in Hawaii. If you go back a few pages she said which island she is on. All of the changes around here have made me sad. I don't say much but it was nice to observe the interactions. I can observe there but can't participate because I have annoyed certain people. I thought I could only do that in person.

Zanne Marie wrote:

I would have the Dino Cafe, the marriage thread (sorry, I'm not even comfortable talking about my marriage in front of kids in high school dating because they can't relate yet, but I do offer them hope that it CAN happen and will continue to do that), Dino Whiskey A Go-Go (music) , Dino Cellar (Literature), Dino Gallery (Art), Dino Ex-patriates (Writing), Dino Office Cooler (the work and professions thread), Dino University (oldsters going back to school or just starting), Dino Diaper Duty (Kids and Grandkids talk), Dino Clinic (Illnesses, Co-morbids, etc), Dino Collectors Shop (for all our special interests, planes, trains and automobiles) and Dear Dino (A place where younger people can ask how we coped).

Perhaps when she gets back she can start some of these threads. I like all of them, but wouldn't want to step on her toes by starting them myself.

I read back many pages but couldn't find which island she's on. Oh well, I'll wave to her anyway.

Hope it wasn't a horrible crisis! It appears that everyone comes back when my family wants to eat. I will be back shortly to more questions, so be prepared.

I have annoyed the person who doesn't like change. I will not name name's. I have been ignored by the person from the start and iti s okay, really! I know that I have a tendency to rub a certain type of person the wrong way. There is also a possibility that my brilliance is baffling and blinding!

( When life hands you lemons, grab some tequila!)

HI folks....I'm having a "situation" at work that is invoking bizzare panicky feelings and I need to vent and ask for any input.

I was Hired at Petsmart about 3 months ago.When being interviewed I was asked about my present job and said I would be quiting it if I was offered the job(Which was listed as full time in the add and when filling out the on-line application,I only filled in the "full time "position(it asked what are you interested in and able to work).

SO,they call and tell me I have the job(Yeah),and I begin my training,which was over several weeks.The we were given our schedules and mine was for 24 hours a week.I pretty much "freaked".I had already quit my other job.I spoke with the assistent manager and the manager had told her that I was hired for part time and it was just an "over site" that I hadnt been told.They just forgot to mention it and didnt realize t was a problem... I said,well,I had told them I was quiting my other job...was it assumed I could live on 24 hour wage?I said I was going to have to start looking for a new job because I couldnt work two partt time jobs with no benifits.After several days of "rangeling",they changed my schedule to 36 hours,which they consider...full time.
I have ended up averaging more then this,quit a bit of over-time.

So,I have had several medical iissues that I have put on hold,waiting for my medical to kick in,it is supposed to be a three month "probation" period.So,last week,I asked my manager when my benifits would go into effect and she seemed very ambiguous about it and said...."Sometime in beggining of May"....NOW.I had received nothing about sighning up for a medical program(there are several).....a few days later,I get something in the mail about "part-time medical benifits".....but only a phone number to join automatically on-line(no human to ask questions).I was asked by an assistant manager to call my fellow night staff(who was hired after me),tomake sure she got her medical information in by this Monday,or she would have to wait until next Dec....
When I asked her about my medical insurence....she said she didnt know anything about it..... I asked the other assistant manager the next night...and she said,she didnt know,but it is lousy insurence and she isnt joining it.I tried calling the company,but they arnt open on the weekend(I will try again on Monday).

As I was leaving work today,I asked a co-worker,who had been hired at the same time.She said she received a package from the insurence company,a few after being hired and hers has already started and she thinks it's good.

I am trying to figure out if I am being intentionaly screwed over....(NOt giving me the information until after the experation start date,so I hate to wait until Dec),or if it is just an over-site an my manager forgot to change my status to full-time on some paper-work.Every-time I try and talk to her about any-thing,she seems..."to busy" to be bothered by me.I really dont think she likes me and resents my original "threat" to quit when I said I couldnt work part-time.

I also know the part-time benifits have a 6 month..."pre-existing clause",which may mean I cant get my anti-depressants covered or any treatment for the uterun tumor.........any way around this,if it is the same for the full-time employment?I have been on the anti-depressants for 6 years and,although only recently DXed with the tumor,I have been having "female" problems and told to get an ultisound over a year ago....I procrastinated until 4 months ago(Should have waited,I guess).


Any advice......a hug,something to stop the quivering melt-down I feel percolating.I am so scared,confused,angry...something?I have screwed up so many things in my life,I hate to think my fear of approaching my manager,earlier,is ging to mean I lose my insurence.

(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) to Krex!

I worked at Super Pets about 10 years ago and the people managing it were not the sharpest knifes in the drawer. It seems like a screw-up to me. Do you have a Human Resources dept you can call? So typical of retail though. No one who is bright and conscientious wants to work retail management.

Sorry about the typos...I am really shaking right now and forgot to use my spell check....also,sorry about inturupting the conversation....I know the world doesnt "actually" revolve around me,but I am on my way to work right now and I have to try and approach my manager tomorrow...thought it best to get this out of my system before talking with her.

Krex, I hope everthing works out OK with your manager. We'll be thinking of you. Don't apologize to us!