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RightGalaxy
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14 Apr 2010, 9:27 am

Stone_Man wrote:
Getting married or not is a perfectly free choice, so I don't believe there's much point in either extolling its virtues or kicking it in the teeth. I do think that "why get married?" is one of those things where if you have to ask the question, you wouldn't understand the answer.


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14 Apr 2010, 9:33 am

When I read the thread I thought it was about "why did you get a permanent companion of the opposite sex?" and was preparing a large things of why I would think that's convenient... but then I read your post and yes, marriage itself would be worthless without the tax breaks, in fact, this is a case in which the state and church separation is not as good as the other things, the state promotes this religious tradition using tax breaks, it is kind of lame in my opinion. The only other reason to do it would be being brain washed into thinking that a marriage needs to happen

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When my husband wanted to marry me I told him I wasn't interested in getting married. He asked me why and I said it was a waste of money and he said we get tax breaks if we do and I said "Okay, let's get married then.

Best romantic story ever.


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14 Apr 2010, 11:33 pm

To get an apartment in the 'married students only' complex in college. It was vastly quieter and more laid back than the dorms and other off campus housing. Also had a large plot of ground set aside for gardening.



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04 May 2010, 8:10 pm

"I didn't see the point in getting married if you can just stay together for life..."

I agree completely. Since my husband is European and I'm American, we couldn't "just stay together" another way, so we got married. Doesn't really make much difference otherwise, and I wouldn't want to be trapped in a relationship that needed a piece of paper to shore ti up.
As for why I wanted to live with him - he's most likely an Aspie too, and the only person who really "gets" me. Although I prefer isolation to the company of NTs most of the time, I also get lonely and crave companionship - it just is a rare person who is able to provide it. On the practical side, it is just easier for both of us to cope with life (and all the garbage the harsh NT world throws at us) when we can share the burden. We had a long distance relationship first, for years, and I was kind of worried about living together, and sometimes still miss my solitude a bit, but for the most part it has been a positive thing.