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llee
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15 Oct 2014, 11:11 am

I get this because of the way I look. I don't look like I have experience in anything so people seem to talk down to me. Most evident, annoying and embarrassing in a work-environment when supervisors are 10 years younger than me.

I wish I could change my look in some way to help.



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16 Oct 2014, 1:14 pm

MollyTroubletail wrote:
In my experience, there is no practical way to stop people from being condescending once they have become used to doing so.

If you argue or fight back, you will be labelled "defensive", "overly sensitive", "prickly" and "difficult".

In my case, I decided to fight back, and the end result to date has been that my mother is now terrified to say anything to me, and my father will now only talk about the weather. However, she is still condescending if she does say anything of a more personal nature. I'm not sure what I've really accomplished, but it feels good not to have to take it silently and without protest.


Ever ask your Mom to read this forum? Perhaps you can get her (or someone else) to slow down and read and avoid the habit of prejudice concerning you, before it colors their opinion.

This has worked for me (actually for them).



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18 Oct 2014, 4:12 pm

I wouldn't say I'm treated like a child, but my intelligence is definitely not respected at work. Whenever I make a suggestion, it either gets ignored, or I'm told "that's not a priority right now", or my boss tells me he agrees with me, and then proceeds to never take action on it. Then again, I'm not sure this is unique experience for autistic people... I gather that this is pretty average for a 23-year-old employee of corporate America.


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19 Oct 2014, 3:41 am

I get this all the time.Due to my ' youthful appearance' I am often treated as someone half of my age.They do not take me seriously ,often patronize me and seem to be oblivious and ignorant of what I am saying.So count me in. It has some advantages and disvantages ...



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31 Oct 2014, 10:01 pm

What about other people who live on the Autism spectrum or used to have a misdiagnosis or other situations?

1. I used to have other peers in Jr high who used to nag at me about this or that being inappropriate if I acted or said a certain thing. They were not on the spectrum

2. I was on a work program for 8 years and I worked with others with different a diagnosis than me. They would nag at me to pick up after myself, while another would tell me how to do a task even though I knew how to do the task.

3. There was a girl who I used to associate with who got into the army and we had several falling outs. We re-connected for a little while. I told her that I got my own condo "Awesome. What does your family member think of that idea?"

4. There is another kid on the spectrum who has a problem with honesty and insecurity. He is 6 years younger than I am and he thinks that he can tell me what to do.

Before I started the job he basically told me that both of us need to be on our best behavior. I thought "As if I don't know how to behave."