How long till you're found different?

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I am really friendly, but I hate meeting strangers. So, initially, I come across s bit shy. I do not join in with people, and I wander away in my mind and physically pretty quickly. So, with that said, I come across as hospitable, but not following the normal etiquette of introduction. When people cotton on to the fact that I am pretty clever and that I can do quite a lot of things, they then become quite friendly, so they can get me to do things for them for free. I get terribly abused by NTs in this manner. They accept my blunt to the point factual way of behaving and just call me eccentric, but not to my face. I then get discarded and I feel dejected and lonely. I just do not seem to be able to fit into their society at any level.

The problem for me is that I can interact, initially and for short periods and appear somehow 'normal', but then the relationship will inevitably go south and I end up getting discarded again. There is usually an argument, normally a big one, before that happens. I am called, rude, selfish, anti-social, a 'non-mixer', whatever the heck one of those is and other demeaning phrases. I need to have 'Handle With Care" attached to my forehead. NTs are just so dumb, they automatically assume that I am a bad person and not who I really am, because I do not look disfigured, disabled or something.

For me the dumbness of people never ceases to amaze me. I have to tell people what I think of them and I have to tell the truth. I just cannot bring myself to lie or patronise anyone. So, if someone annoys me, I just tell them what I am thinking, which I am told is not what one should do. The last bust up was with the neighbour next door, because they heard half of a conversation, well shout from me, with a neighbour up the street and they made assumptions for the bits they did not hear. They then took it upon themselves to verbally abuse me. I mean, this is after years and years of saying hello and being friendly and chatting in a way that NTs like, you know, just about nothing relevant or interesting or mentally demanding. Then like a switch, wham!

I think Aspies are very normal, it is the NTs that are psychos'. At least I behave the same way all the time, albeit a bit odd and occasionally explosive!

Roughly the first time I walk in wearing fuzzy ears and a tail, people assume I am not normal. Assuming I am dressed normally, I can fake it as NT up until I lose my concentration or start to relax... And then the real me comes out. faking it is exhausting, so a few hours at a time is all I can muster. In general, I don't bother faking normalcy unless something is at stake. (for example, a job interview) Otherwise, I just acknowledge the fact that I am not 'normal', play it off with a joke like "normal is boring. I would rather be weird", and whatever people think about me after that is no concern of mine.

Most of the time, people seem to like me and all I hear are a few laughs and a "you're weird", usually as a direct result of something I say that comes out a little less "filtered" than I intended . I usually respond with a "duh", or something equally intelligent, and continue on. But then again, almost all of my socialization is done online. Real social interaction is rare for me except for at work, where I happen to come in wearing a fox tail and ears... Being as I work in a technical support call center, "weird" is well tolerated.

In general, my aspie symptoms are mild enough that I just seem kinda shy and eccentric... I rarely have meltdowns anymore