The single, over 40 thread

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No, no family. My only relatives are a handful of cousins that I only have Christmas card contact with.

hospital social work might have to get involved then, you might end up in a nursing home if you are ever injured to the point where you can't take physical care of yourself due to disabling injuries. that possibility cannot be dismissed lightly I know, because it happened to me- if my sister hadn't have stepped up I would have ended up in a nursing home.

I must have a wall up, myself. Just over 40 now, sparse social life, in too much pain to do much more than be at home. If i was feeling better I'd wander around in the woods.

I've had dreams of having a secret cabin in the woods where the trees are so big and tall they conceal the entire house's existence, and yet inside had all the conveniences of a modern house. That's what I want.

out in the sticks where I live, that is fairly common.

People call on the phone. They bring cars, motorcycles, and I fix them out of need for money. I try to get out a couple times a week. I have projects to keep me buisy. Having almost no social life, and no wife is more of a choice. I have this image of a perfect mate, but in reality, it had always been something I had to put up with. Just like a social life. It is like having a need for something, or basic desire, and once you get it, the ways do not justify the means. Most people are just too different.

A hermit spends most of the time alone, and then comes into contact with society once in a while, just enough to retain sanity, trade, and get supplies.

Sounds like the word was created before autism.

I feel quite sure that some of the young women (and at least one of the young men) around me at college have taken an interest in me, but I really don't have either the time or the emotional stability to manage a relationship at this time. I hope that they enjoy me taking them seriously and paying attention to them for its own sake, and don't feel hurt when I don't make a move. You'd think that modern women would act more aggressively -- and maybe they would if they felt attracted enough -- but I do live in a fairly backwards place, sort of like the Land of the Lost.

For that reason, and others, I have mostly ruled out casual sex with any of them. If someone caught me at a vulnerable moment, I might give it up, but I mostly hope that they don't even try.

I totally lack the "make a move" genes.

Ditto, Blabs. I hate almost* everything about where I live -- the bugs, the heat, the cultural wasteland, the bible-thumping conservatives -- but the idea of completely uprooting my life to start over somewhere else seems even worse.

* I DON'T hate that I'm 20 miles from town, and 6 miles off a real highway (the road I live on is only slightly better than dirt). WAY back in the woods! The peace/quiet and the flora/fauna of the area make it worth all the negatives. Oh, and I did mention the stars? Too many to count....

I have to walk out into the street to get far enough from the smogberry trees to see the sky at all. but I do enjoy the peace [when the yahoos are asleep or hungover] and quiet.

Sounds paradisical.

I love places from which the Milky Way really shines. Here in the perpetual shine of New York, you can hardly see the seven sisters on a clear, moonless night.

its peaceful here, except for the low noise of the cars on the over pass but that is a background noise i need, i cant handle total silence.. I find peace nowadays in gardening,, and a fascination with numbers has started kicking in, that weird because i hated math growing up..lol..
as far as relationships, no ones taking on a 55 yo aspie female. with a son on the spectum.. so ive accepted that that is my reality ,, that door seemed to close at 50.