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28 Apr 2014, 6:18 am

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This is an interesting topic. I typically do not struggle with motivation, when I am pursuing concrete goals (such as graduating from high school, graduating from college, etc.).

However, I have a heck of a time setting goals. And, when I have no goals, I feel like I drift aimlessly.

So, it was easier to set goals when I was younger. As my parent’s heavily influenced that process. Unfortunately, I have had a heck of a time setting new goals since that time. As such, I feel like I have drifted aimless for the past 20 years, with no clear direction.


Same here. School was easier goal-wise, there were very clear goals in the forms of exams and graduation. After high school I knew what I wanted to study but not what I wanted to "become", and work with. I would probably have been happier just attending class after class in subjects I found interesting, had that been possible.

I find my work morale withering. As soon as I am dependant on someone else in order to solve a problem, I lose interest. It's like the things at work that used to excite me now seem unimportant - maybe I need to change jobs.



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21 Apr 2015, 12:27 pm

i'm 27 and i feel that has been my issue for a while, hence why i don't have a career yet, working a minimum-wage job at a grocery store, just a high school diploma, i sometimes wonder if my masturbating habit since my teen years is a huge factor behind this, since research and studies have proven that masturbation affects your Dopamine receptors, which is a hormone associated with drive, desire for something, or if it has to do with the way my parents raised me.



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21 Apr 2015, 12:41 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
i'm 27 and i feel that has been my issue for a while, hence why i don't have a career yet, working a minimum-wage job at a grocery store, just a high school diploma, i sometimes wonder if my masturbating habit since my teen years is a huge factor behind this, since research and studies have proven that masturbation affects your Dopamine receptors, which is a hormone associated with drive, desire for something, or if it has to do with the way my parents raised me.

more like you are just a later bloomer, is all. if you did not masturbate, it would come out automatically via wet dreams every few weeks. so don't worry about it. be kind to yourself. :)



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21 Apr 2015, 12:55 pm

auntblabby wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
i'm 27 and i feel that has been my issue for a while, hence why i don't have a career yet, working a minimum-wage job at a grocery store, just a high school diploma, i sometimes wonder if my masturbating habit since my teen years is a huge factor behind this, since research and studies have proven that masturbation affects your Dopamine receptors, which is a hormone associated with drive, desire for something, or if it has to do with the way my parents raised me.

more like you are just a later bloomer, is all. if you did not masturbate, it would come out automatically via wet dreams every few weeks. so don't worry about it. be kind to yourself. :)

And sadly it feels very overwhelming, a lot of pressure to be successful in life, I believe it affects guys more than guys because guys have more career pressure



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21 Apr 2015, 12:59 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
And sadly it feels very overwhelming, a lot of pressure to be successful in life, I believe it affects guys more than guys because guys have more career pressure

the masturbation is a safety valve, and because you are feeling pressure in life, it is important to not block that off. anyways, you will eventually find something that interests you and you will pursue it, so no use being worried about it.