What is the biggest lie about Aspies?

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I agree, I work with allot of NT's that truly lack empathy and sympathy. If I tell them I do not feel well they tell me to shut up and quit complaining. For me I'm overly sensitive to others. I lady came through my line today and her credit card would not work and she had no other way to pay. I started feeling a shakiness inside and almost started crying. It was as if I could feel her pain and sadness. I'm still sick about it. I also have this happen with animals. I no longer can eat meat because of this. It seems as if I can feel the animals pain when they were killed. I can not watch anyone in pain. It makes me hurt so bad inside. Just thinking about it makes me hurt.

What is the biggest lie about Aspies? - Sheldon Cooper

The big one is for me is "Math". Many people ask me to answer math problems for them. I SUCK at math. That I must have a high IQ. Although my IQ is 130 it does not mean I know everything. That I have only 1 very narrow special interest. Wrong! I switch my special interest all the time. One week it is Quantum Physic's the next week it many be Genetics.

I keep reading (often by Aspies themselves) that Aspies aren't really into sex that much.

My NT wife has to beat me off virtually all day long with her long handled broom.

She also gets sick of me cuddling, kissing, hugging etc. She says 'Let me breathe'. She gets really annoyed sometimes. I tend to be able to read her better these days and know when its a definite 'no fondle' day

I'm fine. No problems here. Everything is normal.


("When are these people going to stop asking stupid questions?")

I have to say that the biggest annoyance is the "lack of empathy/selfishness" in aspie men. I think many men have such a huge amount of complex emotion. Just because an NT is outwardly emotional and very expressive, it does not mean they have more empathy or less selfish. I think there are times when a person can feel so much of an emotion that it cannot possibly be expressed to the extent of the person's satisfaction. My grandfather was British and very stoic and understated when it came to emotions. I think of the time when grandmother died and he just had his normal everyday expression at her funeral. He shook hands and nodded when people came to him. I left the funeral with my mother to go to another part of the cemetery to locate the grave of another relative. We ran into someone my mother knew and we stayed and talked to the lady for almost 2 hours. Coming back to the car (we left it close to my grandmother's grave). We came up to the car and noticed my grandfather sitting on the ground next to my grandmother's grave with this hat off and his handkerchief out wiping his eyes. No words, just a private time that we let him have and left in the car rather than go to him. He never seemed emotional... but he felt things I know. Fast forward to now and I know someone who seems to not react to things. I mentioned that I had a headache to a man (aspie) I know. He must have noticed that I was not contributing to the conversation. He didn't say anything and went on with the discussion. Lunch break, I walked down to the cafe and decided to get something to eat. I returned and in the hallway, I see him look at me and look away after nodding. I finally walked up to my work area and I see a bottle of excedrin and a bottle of water sitting in my spot. Nothing else. No note. I couldn't think of who did it since my coworkers all denied getting it for me. The next day, I see him passing in the hallway and I say hi and ask him if he got the headache medicine for me. He hesitates and turns red and nods. I said thank you to him and tell him I truly appreciate it. He didn't say a word, but he did something to try to fix my issue. This told me that he was thoughtful to consider the fact that I had a headache. He had the empathy in his own way and sought out the most logical way to try to fix the issue. People may not always manifest empathy or emotion or love the way we think it should be, but it's there in a form that's truly as unique as their fingerprints. To say Aspies are without empathy is not the most accurate assumption. Like my dear biology teacher said a long time ago "never assume... because it makes and A## out of "u" and "me" ... spell the word "assume" and divide up the word into the first 3 letters and "u" and "me". Well, it was a nice play on letters. Guess you had to have been there to fully appreciate a old biology teacher in a raspy smoker's voice, dressed in a big flower dress saying this to her impressionable students. Later on in years, she died in a house fire in which she fell asleep with a cigarette in her hand. Point is, many aspies have emotion and empathy and love.