What advice would you give to your younger self?

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Somehow I feel like I do this already when I encounter so many people who I used to be like I was in the past, but even if I gave them any advice, they often still find some reason to deny themselves, perpetuating the wallowing in their own despair. I wouldn't necessarily give my younger self advice if I did any form of time-travel to advise myself, but rather, I know what I would personally do differently if I ever had to re-start any kind of earth-life from birth-phase.

For one, I would choose a better set of parents, ones who were more nurturing, non-abusive, wise, and not brain-washed by any kind of cult-beliefs or religious-beliefs (such as belief in government or anything status-quo). Ultimately, I think the most-important thing that anybody can learn in their whole entire eternal-existence is to simply have the ability to be able to question everything, and if my younger-self can learn to double-check everything that he thinks he knows about reality, triple-check, heck, even quadruple-check & compare & subject it to the most diametrically opposed criticism that he may find against his paradigm, and be able to make his own decisions, without always insisting on needing to rely on any so-called experts (because it turns out that a lot of experts really are just so-called), then I would regard that as progress (actually, better yet, I would write a detailed letter as to how I fully lived out my life, what I learned, and pass on all of the knowledge/wisdom along with various recommendations as to what/how I would do things differently, thus giving all of the secrets behind the potential things that could happen in his future, and how to negate the negatives whilst taking advantage of the positives).

When I was younger I used to think I was the only person in the world going through what I was experiencing - the feeling of being totally different from everyone else, and being treated like I was a weirdo by everyone. But I still wouldn't try to fit in - I don't think I was even capable of pretending to be something I wasn't, and this made school and college tough. So I would tell myself, 'Don't worry, you're not the only one. There are others like you and you'll meet them one day, and there are some good people out there who'll accept you for who you are' and 'keep strong, never give in or try to fit in. Just carry on being yourself.'

I wouldn't tell myself that I'm an aspie. It would just make me not try to improve myself.

I would tell myself to toughen up and learn to let go of mean things that people do to you even though they are in the wrong.

I would tell myself to skip college and start working. The IT field has no value for college degrees.

I would tell myself to start drinking as early as possible, and try some drugs. Just try, not get addicted to them. Alcohol really helps bring down the stress levels.

This is the most important thing. I would tell myself to not believe what my family says about life. They live in their own little world and that's how they think it should be. I should also not believe the media on how they think people should behave.

You get rejected because you have much lower social skills than you like to believe. And you angrily refuse to face this because of some terrible pain and some disorder deep inside. Don't be mean to yourself for it; people may not like you, but you DO need to un-f*ck yourself somehow. You are never going to get anywhere in life until you get help really accepting this. Therapists, acupuncture, Reike, TRY ANYTHING TO GET YOU PAST THIS SH*T (besides drugs), otherwise it WILL destroy your life.

Spend as little as possible on college. Your job is not becoming a Great Artist right now. Your job is to get therapy so you can honestly assess your abilities without destroying yourself.

If some chick shows interest in you and she isn't morbidly obese, then aggressively go after her. You're not in a position to be choosy.

Stay away from psych meds. They don't help, they just put a part of your brain to sleep and you'll end up ten or twenty years down the road with all the same problems. Recreational drugs do exactly the same thing so keep that in mind when the pain makes you want to get f*cked up; I know it hurts so badly, but drugs just help keep you in a state of arrested development.

I probably wouldn't have listened.

Last edited by Horatio on 23 Aug 2015, 5:03 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Make such a compelling case that your younger self would have no choice but to believe its reality.

Provide ample evidence with well-documented scientific-literature such as in this example (hyper-link) & this (video)...

Take pictures with you of yourself (both young & old), show that you are indeed his older-self, and in my case, I would personally do it in such a manner where I have done a form of time-travel, proving beyond all reasonable-doubt that I am indeed, the myself from The Future.

Thank you for your reply.

I don't think I could make a much more compelling case than reality did for me already. I mean, I could bring my younger self into the present time and just show him all the failures that are the direct result of a lack of self-awareness. That would make a pretty deep impression. But I was a total knucklehead and still probably wouldn't have changed much. It's all water under the bridge now anyway.

Buy stock in some new fandangled companies, such as:

Microsoft
Apple
Yahoo
RIM
Motorola
Nokia
Facebook
Google
Paypal
Tesla
........

Oh and short the market in Oct, 1987, March 11, 2000 to October 9, 2002 then buy the survivors, short in Sept 2007 and go long March 2009.
If I did I'd be so fvking loaded that I'd buy this site and upgraded to the max.

I'd say, "Kill yourself. Life isn't worth living."

I'd say stand up for yourself. It doesn't matter if others think you are weak, as long as you stand up for yourself.
AND
Don't shy away when opportunities arise, be ready to take them. (ready --> brave)

To my 11 year old self: Call CPS on your mom. Do it yourself because none of the adults in your life care or believe.

To my 19 year old self. Move to another state far, far away. Work two full time jobs, get your own apartment and never have children. Don't get married until your 45.

Do these few things and life will be so much more rewarding. And a lot more fun.

Listen to music and FEEL something

I would tell myself to focus on what I love most and not be concerned about fulfilling everyone's expectations, that perfect grades are not what is needed for what I want to do.

I'd also tell myself to talk to my high school chemistry teacher about what is going on and get his help.

Dear 21-31 Year Old GHF:
Yes, you ARE going to get married to a amazing woman who loves and cares for you and has everything you could ever want and will probably have a child like you have always wanted. Stop worrying about it as it will happen in due time like everything else. Do NOT settle and DO NOT get involved with a BPD girl (who acts much like many of your relatives).

Dear 8-16 Year Old GHF:
I know you spend hours worrying about how your marks aren't good enough and how devastated you were to just miss the Honour roll in High School. I know your mother will yell at you for any mark below 75% but in the end, it is all completely, utterly meaningless. Heck, you didn't even need to worry about failing that Math course as they would automatically pass you anyway. Stop panicking about making a mistake and just do your best.

Dear Teenage (really any age) GHF:
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!! Specifically, learn about the term 'gaslighting' and what a sociopath is. You are VERY intelligent and bright and do not let anything rob you of that like they did to me. THEY are all the screwed up ones, not you.

Dear 19-21 and 31 year Old GHF:
There is nothing wrong with you. You suffer from anxiety and depression just like everyone else in your family. Who wouldn't in this crazy world? Your parents advice is well intended but it is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG and will only make things worse.

Dear 10-18 Year Old GHF:
Nobody will take you seriously at your age because of your age but that doesn't mean you are wrong. Your city plans for example are too advanced for 'experts' to understand yet but you will be proven right, even if only to yourself.

Could not have said it better than this! Stop living for others and ignore everyone who says it is 'selfish' to look after your own health, interests, etc.

Trust the force.

You really do know what you are doing.
It may seem like a mistake, but it will all make sense.
We all have to be idiots sometimes in order to learn.

never regret the past or wish to shut the door on it.
fear is a teacher.
mistakes are lessons.
love is food.

Like I said on a former page I wouldn’t have listened anyway, but here goes.

Do not trust A at all, and do not go to (a certain location) on (date).
Do not act out like that. You’re just making a fool of yourself, and setting yourself up for a nightmare created by the no-good teachers and others.

Make the teachers and your parents understand how much difficulty you have with math. Yeah, it’s mind numbingly boring, but you’re gonna get left behind if you don’t.

Yes, your grandmother is difficult but be as patient as you can nevertheless. You have so few years with her.

That warning you got at 13? Heed it.

Look at those pictures and learn who the people in them are, like your grandfather asked you. That’s the least you can do for him.

Don’t lose patience with V, always give him at least an hour. Don’t be selfish about that that, no matter how exhausted you feel. And you will be exhausted, seeing someone wilt will do that.

Enjoy every single moment you have with them all, so many of them will be lost before you know it.

Dont be taken in by the bull and dont trust anyone.