Are your friends losers/social outcasts?

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I find the whole 'friends' thing a bit of a mystery. For the purpose of these discussions I will refer to the people I tend to get on best with, as 'friends'. I'm a 37 year old woman and my friends are between the ages of 45 and 70, two are women and two are men. All of them are well-known eccentrics where I live. One is an inventor and ex-sea captain - a very interesting person, one has a strange obsession with his old car (his since 1975), which is falling apart. He loves water and his bobble hat. The ladies, well, they're just very different.

I have had these friends for > 25 years. One of them I have known since I was 5. My wife has known them for a long time as well (since we started dating > 30 years ago). She wasn’t being mean. She was simply making an observation.


It was edited for your benefit. With that being said, my younger daughter sometimes refers to me as “Rocket Boy” or “Rocket123”. Which is a bit upsetting. As I certainly wouldn’t want her to read some of my posts here.

Yep, the people that don't get scared off by my demeanor are all "not normal".
I'm pretty sure they only keep me company because they don't have a whole lot of other options.

My friends are ok actually.

I'm not really certain of what qualifies as social outcast these days.

All my friends work, they enjoy partying, they take copious amounts of drugs and alcohol at the weekends but Monday to Friday they all go to work and earn themselves a living.

I can only manage to go out with then occasionally because I enjoy my own company more than I enjoy theirs most of the time but they are all really lovely. Crazy but lovely.

In college my Senior in college year my friends were fairly decent people who were fellow band members. They were freshmen though which was about the same maturity / social skill level I was at. OOPs they were probably a little more advanced than me in social skills.

I would not say my current friends are not losers or social outcasts but fellow hobbyists.

I have "weird" people who are my acquaintances.

Then again, I have found, in my 54 years, that everybody is truly "weird" in some respect.

Everybody has something that might be seen as being "pathological" by somebody else.

Yeah, I suspect that everybody is at least a little ND.

I agree. Weirdness is in the eye of the beholder. And there's many an apparent social outcast who has chosen to stay away from the madding crowd. And to my thinking, if being a winner is to be like many of the "celebrities" and high-fliers I've seen, then it's better to be a loser, as long as there's enough money for the basics and a bit over for a few treats.

That's how I saw my immediate undiag. AS co-workers a few years ago.

We're still unempl.

Hell, I don't WANT friends who aren't atypical, or losers and outcasts, or among the damned, lost, and forgotten. Those people aren't people I can relate to. There wouldn't be anything to talk about once small talk, which I dislike, was exhausted.

LET'S HEAR IT FOR THE PEOPLE LIKE US!! !!