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12 Nov 2011, 6:59 pm

[quote="P_James_Moriarty"] Now I see it slipping away with nothing to be done to prevent it.

How do I cope? I don't. I cling to my wife as much as I can. I think I need her more than she needs me and thank God for having her while I can. She is my salvation. I read this board to try to find simular stories to mine and find none, I think largely because of my age and therefore the type of issues. I've talked about my own issues a couple of times (I think, I compose and delete a lot) and no one has responded. Other than for the grace of my wife I am more alone now than I've ever been, and I'm loosing her while facing the posabillity of my own extinction.

We are all heading toward the same exit door. My beloved old dog waits for me on the threshold somewhere, I hope. So much success I simply did not achieve on the way. I think there are some things that many of us have in common, despite the vast differences in life situations. I hope you and your wife are doing all right. I wish the same for me: have I become stronger or maybe just resigned to "not o.k." I'm 53 and 23, and 103 all. Mostly glad I wake up in the morning, wish it wasn't to emptiness.



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12 Nov 2011, 9:58 pm

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...This is very interesting. I always have enjoyed looking into the beautiful eyes of felines, but never understood what was being said, especially by strays. Now I will know not to be so rude. CrazyOldBat!


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13 Nov 2011, 3:58 am

shrox wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
...This is very interesting. I always have enjoyed looking into the beautiful eyes of felines, but never understood what was being said, especially by strays. Now I will know not to be so rude. CrazyOldBat!


Blink slowly three times while looking at the cat, it shows you are not hostile.


I have actually taught my cat to wink......Really !


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13 Nov 2011, 12:24 pm

gadge wrote:
shrox wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
...This is very interesting. I always have enjoyed looking into the beautiful eyes of felines, but never understood what was being said, especially by strays. Now I will know not to be so rude. CrazyOldBat!


Blink slowly three times while looking at the cat, it shows you are not hostile.


I have actually taught my cat to wink......Really !

Are you certain that she didn't teach you? :wink:


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13 Nov 2011, 1:59 pm

hartzofspace wrote:
gadge wrote:
shrox wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
...This is very interesting. I always have enjoyed looking into the beautiful eyes of felines, but never understood what was being said, especially by strays. Now I will know not to be so rude. CrazyOldBat!


Blink slowly three times while looking at the cat, it shows you are not hostile.


I have actually taught my cat to wink......Really !

Are you certain that she didn't teach you? :wink:


I'm pretty sure.... I could wink before he was born, He is 10 and I'm 48.

He did teach me to flush the toilet though, And not to pee on the seat.

Yes he flush's the toilet! I'm workin on getting him to jiggle the handle now :lol: I'm still working on the seat :roll:


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18 Nov 2011, 10:05 pm

MarchHare wrote:
I’m ancient, well past my allotted three-score years and ten. I’m also an Aspie, and one of my Aspie traits is that I’m naïve. A consequence of this is that I’m finding great difficulty in accepting old age. As a dreamer, I would prefer to think I can go on forever. The reality I’m finding, that stuff goes wrong – both mentally and physically - is extremely hard to take.

So, if you are an old and naïve Aspie, how do you cope?

(Naïve: a young soul, innocent, a dreamer, unrealistic, immature)

With respect, I don’t believe comments by people who are neither naïve nor old can help. If you aren’t like me, you can’t know what it’s like. :wink:


I'm selectively naive. At work, since I have to be on my game, I'm pretty tuned in to the "threat matrix." Outside of work, it is a mixed bag. Generally I have to reserve whatever "game" I have left after draining my energy at work, for the big ticket items. That leaves lots of potholes to hit. Needless to say, my life outside of work is a shambles. Making things worse is the fact that my OCD perfectionist wife comes from a family of "Overseas Chinese" merchants and civil servants, and "manages" me the way a child growing up in that framework would be treated. Needless to say, the criticisms never end and according to her I am one level above Rainman.