Anyone 50+?

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I am 65+

When I was young I thought life would be like a dans on roses.

It turned ot to be more like a walk on thorns!

yep, 56 i think?
when younger i always looked younger so added a year or two to my age, maybe still doing it.
socially have taught myself to fit in with any social group.
got my first degree at 44 and fell in love with education, work in the sector now, so have been in school for the last 16 years. i now help teenage aspies get through 2nd level education, a job i couldn't have done when i was younger.

not 50 plus, I am 44 but I just wanted to say how comfortable I feel reading this thread. wow. i don't know if there is an adult aspie board or community but i know this is what i need. I feel very at peace which is rare for me online. It is nice to feel some people understand. I mean 'feel' in the formal sense of the word too. An energy I don't feel much because just about all the time in the world I feel like an utter freak. i'm either misunderstanding or being misunderstood.

I am 58, very soon to be 59. Diagnosed as aspie about a month ago.

Loved my 40's - I was newly single and spent 10 years living it up all wild and crazy That was my so-called midlife experience.

My 50's have been waay different. Early retirement. Started my own business that was progressing nicely until the big recession/depression hit around 2010 or so. Lost everything and my life-long perfect credit score went into the dumper.

Now again working 9-5 in corporate making a decent living, though all my life savings have disappeared. Next month my apartment converts to condo and I can not afford to buy it, so facing being "homeless". Such a stereotypical aspie story: Ivy-league graduate degree facing homelessness

I have waaay more to say about being a 50+ aging aspie than can be covered in one generic post. So I will close by saying thank you for opening this thread. I benefit greatly from reading the experiences of others that are 50+.

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i feel in my fifties mature enough and secure enough to finally accept who i am.
i am still undergoing assessment but my pdoc is confident he will be able to place my in the spectrum, this all came about from a wrong diagnosis for bipolar 14 years ago being overturned recently.
makes no real odds to me, i am happy with my lot.

tippi
im54,,everything crashed down on me a couple of yearsago..i was lucky that Ihad enough time in to get a small retirement and umployment but now Im attempting to rebuild.

I think the hardest part of this is realsing that in reality I will be alone for life,, that Ill never have that close love relationship we all crave.. Im cool with being single but I resent being forced into it by factors I cant change..

i have always been happy with my own company, although i am lucky enough to be married to a very supportive lady. i have never myself craved the love of another and if left to my own devices wouldn't be in a relationship now.
i think the only time i feel lonely is when i am with other people, i tend to feel on the fringe of the group socially.
may be my age, but i don't remember craving love as a yougster either.

50, and just can't keep it up anymore. I cannot work in an office workplace - tried & failed many times, and I'm working from home now, and still having trouble. I cannot do the fake NT passing persona anymore. I've just gotten worn out. I know how to dress and act and recite scripts to pass, but I just don't have the will to do it anymore. I'm not sure how I would describe this to a doctor or social security though - I don't think they'd understand why I used to be able to but not now.

I have a wonderful loving NT but quirky and sensitive husband who is very supportive (and he has a job with health insurance), and three boys - one NT who is graduating from college, one ADHD who is a hair stylist, and one ADHD who is in high school.

59, so nearly at the 60+ barrier!

Last 10 years have been the hardest I think, spent them alone and downsized dramatically. Now I'm not such a 'catch' so I will cruise on into the sunset with the cat

I'm 64. Five years ago I retired from the rat race, moved fulltime into the 20-foot travel trailer I'd originally bought just for weekends, and hit the highway.

I wander the Western states as my whim dictates. Sometimes I'll stay in one place a couple of months, sometimes just a day or two. Living this way lets me avoid the social situations that I always disliked anyway, yet I can still be friendly/sociable with other RV'ers who are doing the same thing I'm doing. I'm in New Mexico at the moment ... came down from Wyoming a week ago.

I also still work part-time online. The extra pocket change is always welcome, and working keeps me involved in something besides my own crap.

I admit that living fulltime in 160 sq. ft. took some getting used to at first, but it doesn't take long to adjust. The secret is to get out of the thing as much as possible, so you never feel closed in.

Obviously, this lifestyle isn't for everyone, but it was a godsend for me. I'm healthy and fit, and much happier than I was in my 20's and 30's, even 40's. Best of all, I think, is that while I have my occasional bad days still, I've managed to avoid wallowing in self-pity and regret ... which I sadly see too much of at this age, and which will make your life miserable and empty. It breaks my heart to see 20-year-old angst still there at 50 or 60. It truly does.